A subscribers-only blog JANE & JOHN Q. PUBLIC claims it has Catherine Kassenoff’s pre-death-approved material, which includes:
“The Kassenoff divorce files, videos and diary investigating the Last Will and Testament of Catherine Youssef Kassenoff, and the letter she left for her children that can only be unlocked by a whistleblower from the Greenberg Traurig Law Firm, or her children once they turn 18.”
Catherine’s husband, attorney Allan Kassenoff, was a shareholder at Greenberg Traurig until yesterday when the law firm announced he resigned.
The Jane and John Q Public blog states: “Catherine Youssef Kassenoff (1969- 2023) Died by Medical Suicide…. For the final months before her death, Catherine crafted the only plan she could muster. She had already done all she could do fighting for her daughters in family court. This blog was prepublished by Catherine before her death and is only available to members and newsletter subscribers.”
The blog also claims: “Jane & John Q Has Acquired the Book, Movie and Video Game Rights to Catherine Kassenoff’s Story. Proceeds from the sale will benefit her children through the Grandmother’s Pension Foundation and Susan G. Komen’s Breast Cancer Foundation.”
A page on the website features a headline without a link: “Letters to My Granddaughters & Grandsons – Catherine Kassenoff.”
Kassenoff was not known to have grandchildren. Her oldest daughter is 14.
Other headlines without links include:
- Now Accepting Interns & Volunteers for Catherine’s Charm Bracelet Project
- Powered by: Greenberg & Traurg, LLP – Silicon Valley – Kaiser Foundation- WomenSV Court Watch.
- In Loving Memory of Catherine’s Children —
- WomenSV1NY
The email address to subscribe is: caljohnqpublic@gmail.com.
“Subscriptions are granted with donation, volunteer application or fee waiver,” the website says.
The website adds “This website is available [sic] for backdoor access only. To access information, you must find it through link or search on the internet. Subscribers will receive [sic] newsletters and updates in paper via mail or electronically via email.
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“Information contained on shadow blogs includes everything related to family court divorce, custody and domestic violence cases. Including but not limited to judge bias, attorney misconduct, minors counsel (GALS), custody evaluators, forensic accountants, Marvin Claims, disqualification, supervised visitation [sic], vocational [sic] examiners and private judges.”
It may not be related to the Q Public blog, but within the last few days, someone turned Catherine’s formerly public Facebook page into a private setting, and her friends can only see it now.
REUPLOAD: This is Allan Kassenoff, a now former Attorney caught on camera abusing his wife. It leads to a horrific ending. #narcissist #narcissistic #narcissism #abuse #abuseawareness #foryou
https://www.tiktok.com/@therobbieharvey/video/7244242761468103978
Today’s June 16, 2023.
We saw the videos already — all evidence of symptoms of a dysfunctional American “family court system”.
Tell us something new. Tell us where Catherine is. Tell us who will take this good fight from where she left off. Tell us who will carry her lawsuits forward so justice will be served ….
I’m sorry for calling them assholes. What I meant was that the Kassenoffs had it all, except for love and respect. We got to see inside their home and that’s what I didn’t see.
The real question is how long will Catherine hide out? The disclaimer that it would take six weeks to verify an assisted suicide (lol) seems to indicate she thinks six weeks. Her glee is fading as the news cycle quickly moves on to its next click bait story. Faking suicide is a one trick pony.
She can’t keep trying to ruin Allan’s life if she has to pretend to be dead, and she has nothing without that burning hatred. OTOH revealing herself just validates how mentally sick she is, why she needs to be no-contact with her kids and make her a pariah in the legal field. I foresee her as a hermit. As adults her kids might want some answers, but they will never want a relationship.
Going to be awkward when she turns up alive. Seems inevitable tho
I pray that Catherine is alive and safe. But yeah, needless to say, if this is a hoax, her credibility is less than zero. Best case scenario, she is receiving mental health treatment in a secure facility.
You are a buffoon and a shill for the abuser Alan K.
“… We are witnessing the most remarkable moment in journalism we have seen in over 30 years. The BBMP is shut down and the Santa Clara Courts have feds on the ground.
A single Facebook post by Catherine Kassendorf over Memorial Day Weekend has gone viral. In a matter of two weeks those videos have seen over 50 million views on social media and been reported on by Ms. Magazine, The Daily Mail and New York Post. Mainstream media is finally listening to the noise that has been contained to social media.
Freelance Journalist Frank Parlato broke the case down immediately after Catherine’s post was published. The outline of the players and the money they made as minors counsel and custody evaluators was perfectly done.
On TikTok Robbie Harvey and Tizzy Ent are breaking down the videos of Allan Kassenoff absuing his wife and children, then gaming the family court system. Now they are moving to Allan’s employer, big law firm of Greenberg Traurig which now appears to have its own Thomas Girardi problem.
Feels just like it did in 2017 as the Metoo movement took off, only reform won’t ,mean a judge, or politican, it begins with putting attorneys appointed to represent children during their parents divorce, out of business.
Imagine if Allan Kassenoff appointed to represent your children. Imagine your children complaining Allan was absusive , and nobody beleived them.
Imagine an attorney treating your children the way Allan Kassenoff treated his own wife and kids and complaining to Allan’s employer, the big law firm of Greenberg Traurig, only to be told there was nothing wrong and that you were crazy.
That is what is happening in family court every day where conflicts of interest and lack of disclosure are rampant and attorneys feed the broken machine so they are paid more money.
The public outraged over the Kids- for- Cash scandal in PA saw judges indicted. This is bigger. The feds better do their job as they sure weren’t doing it when Catherine Kassenoff , a former attorney for the Department of Justice, was in her 4 year divorce that looked like all the rest.
Carol Most was the attorney appointed to represent the best interests of the Kassenoff Children, for which she billed $270,000, as Catherine couldn’t afford her own attorney. $100,000 of those fees were fraudulent, but the judge did nothing about it.
There is a Carol Most in every county, sometimes several. Here in Santa Clara, we have the names and bills.
BJ Fadem wanted to help an 11 year old girl he was appointed to represent turn into a boy, and didn’t want her father complain.
Nicole Ford has been the subject of multiple complaints. All ignored. She is on a level of cruelty similar to what we saw with Carol Most, closely followed by Jesscia Huey, Mary Feldman, Morris Bisted, and Constance Carpenter, proving there is still lots of work to be done before these attorneys harm another generation of children. …”
https://www.linkedin.com/posts/dr-christine-marie-cocchiola-443a58204_we-are-witnessing-the-most-remarkable-moment-activity-7074008439848349697-qIq9
These assholes are running around in a nice big home surrounded by family and all they can do is yell and cry. I haven’t seen any tears shed for tits lost and the little doggy who, obviously doesn’t get healthy walks. The dog has to pee on the floor. Catherine is actually a “Karen”.
Definition of Karen- Karen is a pejorative term used as slang for a middle-class white woman perceived as entitled or demanding beyond the scope of what is normal. The term is often portrayed in memes depicting middle-class white women who use their white and class privilege to demand their own way.
Abuse has no color. It comes in all shapes and sizes. Peaches 🍑 really? Spread peace not hate. I wish we were all color blind. 💜
4:46 Name calling? “We all”, are dumb?
Two wrongs don’t make a right, 5:41. 🙄
None of you care about the truth. None of you actually know this family. These videos are over 6 years old. These kids are older. How do any of you know how many nights he isn’t or is out with his girlfriend. How do any of you know if the girls like or don’t like her. All frank and Robbie Harvey do is spit out whatever they believe will get them more hits and comments so they can monetize it and you’re all so dumb you fall for it. Oh a 5 minute clip on tik tok knows the truth. Did anyone here read the forensics. No, none of us did because forensic reports are sealed. Keep destroying this family and pretend you’re saving them.
@4:46pm: Thank you! It’s shocking how quick people are to jump to an extreme and vengeful conclusion based on extremely limited and biased information. It’s a terrifying mob mentality typical among low IQ and mentally sick people. I’m sorry Allan lost his job due to this pathetic herd of online imbeciles.
5:12 Low IQ? You forgot to use your commas properly
Catherine’s case is not new. Many women/mother’s have followed her. We have been in her shoes. Weather casual meeting or following her story. Weather people realize it or not the community of women who have been terrorized by family court have made connections. We have mutual friends and have spoken to each other. Sent our documents around the country. Have meet a few father victims along the way. What you do in the dark often comes to light. You can spin a story. Eventually the truth comes out. Shame on the family court. You are targeting children because they can be manipulated and discredited. If no one has figured it out these psychologist the courts insist on using are not helping anyone. Fix your courts save the kids.
There is absolutely no excuse whatsoever for how Allan treated his children in those videos.
@4:46- thank you for being a sound voice of reason. I’m surprised Frank even published your comment.
Dear Anonymous @ 4:46pm,
Please read:
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1_OubNscwUf1gEkNApBL8KlfVJNlkI3VM
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1_OubNscwUf1gEkNApBL8KlfVJNlkI3VM
These texts/emails are significantly more recent than 6 years ago (most from 2 years ago until Catherine was cut off from communicating with them) and the girls are still petrified of their father. They wanted to live with their mother… It is clear the raging tantrums did not stop when Catherine was no longer in the house. It is not just a TikTok clip – there are literally hundreds upon hundreds of documents supporting her case. Have you looked through the DropBox?
4:46 pm,
Most here care about the truth. Here’s what’s happening. There’s a certain kind of sinister “family court child custody case”. This is one of those cases. Parents who experienced and survived this certain kind of “family court child custody case” don’t need to know every detail of the case to know exactly what happened.
Many of us have been through the exact same case with different names and different details. It’s the same sinister case all over America and all over the world.
Most who have survived it don’t need to actually know the family. The videos don’t tell us as much as the documents Catherine published. She published the documents to protect her children. Thank goodness the children are older now. They are strong, wonderful girls who will get through this just fine. Whether or not he was unfaithful to his wife and children is his family’s private life.
Regarding “Robbie Harvey”. He’s extremely difficult to watch. His overly-dramatic delivery about the 6-year-old videos are as thick as molasses and just as slow.
Comparing FR to “Robbie Harvey” won’t work. Frank is a hero and actually quite dreamy.
What all of this is about isn’t about social media points or perks. If you’ve never been the victim of the nightmare of corruption in “family courts”, Congratulations — however, it’s probably gong to be difficult for you to fully understand what’s happening here.
Many people around the nation read the documents Catherine posted. The case fits the pattern of that certain kind of sinister “family court child custody case” involving crimes against the family — including crimes against Allan.
The cases are crime scenes and people all over the nation are talking about Catherine’s case because she was a great mother AND a great attorney working for the government. Many are hoping, since she worked for the government, government offices should want to investigate. Many are hoping once the government investigates Catherine’s case family courts across the nation will be investigated and reformed. That hasn’t happened for the past 40 years. That’s why this such a big deal.
Most are hoping this can happen quickly without more unnecessary drama. Could you or someone you know maybe offer some friendly suggestions about how that divorce and child custody case could have been resolved without all that trauma, harm and loss?
@7:30 pm June 13 – Your comment regarding “sinister family court case” seems similar to the “bad outcome case” designation by researcher Daniel Saunders. Its quite informative and echoes much of your point. Additionally, your comment personally resonated with me not only as one who has experienced what Catherine has, but seems to be escalating in the same exact pattern. Daniel Saunders has published amazing research that the NCJFCJ seems to train judges on; saunders investigates the categories of legal professionals and their competence in discerning genuine cases of abuse. Not surprisingly, the findings (which have been replicated since the initial publication) echo Catherine’s experience. PhD/PsyD mental health professionals employed as custody evaluators, by and large, failed to identify genuine DV in cases they oversee worse than court judges, GAL (with a JD), attorneys, and another category i can’t remember at the moment ….but long story short, Domestic Violence advocates were supreme to all the fancy degree holding historically accepted “experts” that have extraordinarily excessive weight in custody decisions…
I’m so confused. Does this mean that GT is in charge of the case files that will be unlocked by the children on their 18th birthday??? Did they just figure out a way to make money ??!
A fairly resourceful Jane and John Q. Public blog was online beginning about twenty years ago when many victims of family courts in many states all over the country started finding each other online and getting organized.
That site up there looks like it might be the same site, only private now instead of public — maybe after pushback from the powers-that-used-to-be.
If anyone in the California family court reform groups can contact them, please let them know we’re discussing their website here on FR. That would help.
“ Breaking News: Successful Validation of Recall Petition against Judge Janice Williams of Solano County
Superior Court, Family Law Division
June 11, 2023
We are excited to announce that the recall petition seeking accountability for Judge Janice Williams has reached a significant milestone. After a diligent effort, the petition has successfully gained 50 qualified signatures and has been officially validated.
This is a resounding victory for those seeking justice and fair treatment within the Solano County Family Court, a system with a long history of problematic Jurists. The outpouring of support demonstrates a collective commitment to upholding the principles of integrity, impartiality, and respect for all individuals involved in family law proceedings.
It is crucial to remember that the mental well-being of children and families are of utmost importance. The actions of a judge should never compromise their emotional health or undermine the pursuit of justice. With this recall petition, we are sending a clear message that such behavior will not be tolerated, and those responsible will be held accountable.
We commend the individuals who courageously stepped forward to express their concerns and support this effort. Your voices have been heard, and your commitment to fairness and equity is inspiring.
Moving forward, we will continue to advocate for a transparent and accountable judiciary, ensuring that our legal system remains a pillar of justice for all. Together, let us work towards creating an environment that fosters trust, respect, and empathy.
Stay tuned for updates as we embark on the next phase of this recall process. Together, we can make a meaningful difference and safeguard the integrity of our legal system.”
https://solanofamilies.org/breaking-news-successful-validation-of-recall-petition-against-judge-janice-williams-of-solano-county-superior-court-family-law-division/
“… I myself am a forensic psychiatrist with 25 years of experience testifying in criminal and civil courts, and never had I imagined the dangerous practices of family courts. Having studied violence my entire career, including coauthoring the UN Secretary-General’s chapter on “Violence against Children,” that family courts are isolating children with their abusers, and labeling perfectly fit mothers “mentally incompetent,” for raising concerns, is horrifying to me as a medical professional. …”
https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/my-sister-endured-horrific-verbal-abuse-just-like-catherine-kassenoff-andamp-so-many-other-moms/ar-AA1csxd0
From seeing the videos and the kid’s emails, Mr Kassenoff is not fitted to take care of his daughters. He spent time with the girlfriend till late hours, doesn’t help with homework, doesn’t give love and attention to their needs because of the yelling and his abusive speech. Also by alienating the mother out of their lives he has caused an irreparable physiological damage to the girls. The man is out of control. He is evil
Court News,
Every punch Allen takes is two punches he gives
Catherine’s children!!!!!
You should remember that!!!!
At this stage in the game you are only punishing the KIDS!!!!!
They have no mother.
Allen is it!!!!
You don’t think he’s taking your vitriol out on the children?!?!?
Guess again!!!!
By reading the girls emails, the father is ” living la vida loca” with the new girlfriend. He comes late. He does not showed love to his daughters because of the yelling and screaming. Abusive behavior. The girls are afraid of him. He has someone in charge to look after them. He doesn’t help with their homework and already one of them has bad grades. This tells me that he doesn’t want responsibilities . Then why did he fight tooth and nail for custody??? Narcissism and not wanting to pay child support. My humble opinion
Catherine wrote those emails herself. You realize how easy it is to create an email account, right?
Court news may want to punish Allen….
But remember it’s about the kids!!!!
People should remember the hell these children are going through.
They have been stripped of a loving mother and have a heartless bastard for a father.
Until the children reach adulthood they will be emotionally abused by their father.
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Even more disturbing is the fact that the children are better of with their father than being put into foster care where they would be emotionally abused as well as physically.
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Foster care VS living with dad…
…..The awful truth is they’re better off living with dad.
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People need to remember:
It’s not about Allen it’s about the kids!!!!!!
_____________________
Then quit calling their loving father names. Grow up heart felt dude. Thanks
When loving fathers are unfaithful to their wives, they apologize. Then, they move forward from there: either fully committed to their families from then on, or with new relationships (without dragging the mothers of their children behind well-funded pick-up trucks for the next four years).
Hey-
Reread my comment.
You missed the point.
Catherine’s four-year fight to see her girls cost her all her money, She liquidated her retirement savings and was sleeping on couches for much of the time after she was evicted from her home with only twenty minutes to take personal items before leaving. Her judge would not even order her husband to give her back her clothes and she told me that she had heard another woman was wearing them and living in her home. She liquidated the last of her retirement account to pay her half of Charley’s tuition at the French American School and was devastated that her daughter was taken out of that school anyway. The financial situation was dire. Catherine grew thin from stress.
Yes the problems of the wealthy are different from the rest. Most normal people don’t put themselves in a homeless situation to put their child in a fancy school.
The whole Facebook debacle is 100% manipulative.
Who are the fools falling for Catherine’s shenanigans?
Now it’s give me money for the children, written by strangers wanting a free ride off the coat tails of little women.
The judge would not order her husband to give back her clothes . Allan did not if this is true . So 2 grown men did not know the right thing to do .Awful . Allan got her out of the house the only reason to tp return her things was spite and revenge-which he accuses her of . Such horrible people .
Omg. This poor woman in the top 1% income bracket was forced to BUY NEW CLOTHES? Nike these courts ASAP.
Then how in the world did she pay $900K CASH for a home in NY a month ago? How does a broke woman “sleeping on couches” managed a near one million dollar cash payment for a house?
It says through a family gift…aka rich parents.
So why was she sleeping on sofas if her rich family has millions in cash to hand out so easily?
I would guess it was a sympathy ploy.
Because she had a narrative that she wanted to craft.
Do you mend socks or write sermons?
The hope of “half the week” every week with her three daughters in that three bedroom home was worth more to Catherine than all the money, jewels and gold in the world. She was trying so hard to keep going, planning and working to take back the life she lived before that brutal band of grifters took it all.
A close friend of Catherine Youssef Kassenoff set this up. Please donate if you can. If you are unable to donate, please share 💜
Hello. I am Cynthia Monaco, one of Catherine’s close friends. She and I were colleagues in the United States Atorney’s Office in Brooklyn and in the the Governor’s Special Counsel’s Program for New York State. I knew Catherine for 25 years and spent many days with her and her three beautiful daughters before her divorce fight began. I write on behalf of Catherine’s friends to create a legacy for her girls.
This fundraiser is to set up a fund with a trustee (custodian) so that Catherine’ girls may have an inheritance from their Mom. For those seeking details, we would establish a custodial account under the Unified Gift to Minors Act (UGMA) with a professional friend of Catherine’s acting as custodian. The money would be invested likely in an S&P 500 Index Fund and each of the girls would take her share at age 21 as New York law requires. Catherine would really like it if we helped her girls after the financial carnage of this four-year divorce battle. Let me tell you something about those girls and their Mom.
Catherine was fighting breast cancer when she started an adoption search. So many ads were placed. So much disappointment, But then I remember Catherine’s excitement when Alexandra was born to her birth mother and Catherine boarded a flight to bring her home. We were afraid the birth mother would change her mind so we called the soon-to-be-born baby “the guppy” not to jinx the adoption. She’d say “the guppy is coming next week!” And that guppy was her beautiful first born daughter Allie.
As soon as she was clear of the breast cancer she started on a pregnancy journey. I was with Catherine when she had her scariest medical test done while carrying Charlotte (Charley) and they made her do it twice. She called me giggling with joy when the results were good.
I remember her holding Josephina in a baby’s blanket crying because baby JoJo was so stunningly beautiful.
It is Catherine’s example in having children after breast cancer and all her research and attempts that convinced me to try as Catherine urged. Without Catherine telling me where to go and how to do it, I would not have given birth to my two sons. I owe her everything.
She risked and sacrificed so much for those girls. I was standing next to Catherine on vacation in Hampton Bays when she got bad medical news for JoJo and decided on the spot to quit he
No need, Catherine’s family is so wealthy they supposedly just paid a million cash on a house last month for Catherine that she supposedly wouldn’t need now! Just liquidate that cool million dollar home and put it in a trust for her kids, no need to con innocent people in this hoax.
The kind people at the big law firm and Catherine’s family and friends aren’t “cons”.
It’s not a “hoax” to collect donations for the girls after all they’ve been through.
In fact, those girls should file lawsuits against Gus Dimopolous, Carol Most, Susan Adler and Marc Abrams to be compensated for all the harm done to their mom and for the destruction of their relationship with their mom. They loved her. Then they were brainwashed. That’s what happens to the children in all of these cases. If the children don’t realize it already, they will eventually. They’re smart girls.
Did Gus, Carol, Susan and Marc apologize to Allan yet?
They should.
As her legal spouse, Allen might be entitled to the house. The girls might never see the proceeds from it. That’s why I gave to the GoFundMe trust.
Ginnine Sarro is with Susan J Bassi and
A close friend of Catherine Youssef Kassenoff set this up. Please donate if you can. If you are unable to donate, please share 💜
Hello. I am Cynthia Monaco, one of Catherine’s close friends. She and I were colleagues in the United States Atorney’s Office in Brooklyn and in the the Governor’s Special Counsel’s Program for New York State. I knew Catherine for 25 years and spent many days with her and her three beautiful daughters before her divorce fight began. I write on behalf of Catherine’s friends to create a legacy for her girls.
This fundraiser is to set up a fund with a trustee (custodian) so that Catherine’ girls may have an inheritance from their Mom. For those seeking details, we would establish a custodial account under the Unified Gift to Minors Act (UGMA) with a professional friend of Catherine’s acting as custodian. The money would be invested likely in an S&P 500 Index Fund and each of the girls would take her share at age 21 as New York law requires. Catherine would really like it if we helped her girls after the financial carnage of this four-year divorce battle. Let me tell you something about those girls and their Mom.
Catherine was fighting breast cancer when she started an adoption search. So many ads were placed. So much disappointment, But then I remember Catherine’s excitement when Alexandra was born to her birth mother and Catherine boarded a flight to bring her home. We were afraid the birth mother would change her mind so we called the soon-to-be-born baby “the guppy” not to jinx the adoption. She’d say “the guppy is coming next week!” And that guppy was her beautiful first born daughter Allie.
As soon as she was clear of the breast cancer she started on a pregnancy journey. I was with Catherine when she had her scariest medical test done while carrying Charlotte (Charley) and they made her do it twice. She called me giggling with joy when the results were good.
I remember her holding Josephina in a baby’s blanket crying because baby JoJo was so stunningly beautiful.
It is Catherine’s example in having children after breast cancer and all her research and attempts that convinced me to try as Catherine urged. Without Catherine telling me where to go and how to do it, I would not have given birth to my two sons. I owe her everything.
She risked and sacrificed so much for those girls. I was standing next to Catherine on vacation in Hampton Bays when she got bad medical news for JoJo and decided on the spot to quit her job as Chief of Litigation for Boehringer Ingelheim an international pharmaceutical company so she could spend more time taking care of Josephina and her sisters. I went with her when she took Charlotte to multiple appointments as she finally found a pediatric dental specialist who could help Charley after an accident without mouth surgery. She sent me the reports to read when Allie was having some trouble in school. It seemed certain she would be there to help them grow into young women.
If you knew Catherine, you knew that what she cared about above all was bringing those girls into the world and giving them a great life. When everyone urged her to leave an explosive marriage, she said her children had a beautiful life and she did not want to disrupt it. She was so proud of her talented daughters and had me come up to Scarsdale to watch Charley play violin telling me it would be worth the drive from Brooklyn. She asked me to come to watch JoJo play soccer and Allie sing with a choir at a local Church.
Catherine’s four-year fight to see her girls cost her all her money, She liquidated her retirement savings and was sleeping on couches for much of the time after she was evicted from her home with only twenty minutes to take personal items before leaving. Her judge would not even order her husband to give her back her clothes and she told me that she had heard another woman was wearing them and living in her home. She liquidated the last of her retirement account to pay her half of Charley’s tuition at the French American School and was devastated that her daughter was taken out of that school anyway. The financial situation was dire. Catherine grew thin from stress.
Although the law requires legal fees and court costs to be shared between divorcing spouses, a judge has to order the wealthier spouse to “advance fees,” and Catherine’s judge did not. Recently, her newly-assigned judge ordered some but it was insufficient to cover her expenditures. The sale of the Kassenoffs’ first home in New Rochelle produced some money; and as far as I know, its all she received. And her legal bills kept mounting. And she was fired by New York State at some point after she was arrested on her husband’s complaint although those charges were dismissed when examined.
One month before her death, she bought a modest house near the family home she was evicted from with a contribution from her family. She bought bedroom furniture for the girls and looked forward to the girls sleeping over for the first time. Shortly afterward, a new forensic evaluation came out paid for by her husband and it mirrored the narrative of the first one by the now-disgraced and debarred evaluator; and the judge discontinued visits.
She left that house with whatever equity was in it and her remaining cash to her daughters and appointed another friend from the US Attorney’s Office to serve as executor.
Because Catherine died before her divorce was granted, her estate will not take any part of the marital assets. And under the law of New York State, the husband responsible for her pain can demand $50,000 plus 1/3 of the remainder of her estate before her daughters take their inheritance. And her husband still has a legal case pending against her in Manhattan federal court that he may pursue against her estate.
This is all by way of saying, we do not think there will be much (if anything) to leave the girls and would like to ask for contributions to give them something from their Mom to help them into their adult years.
Thank you for reading this.
The Friends of Catherine “Cathy Youssef” Kassenoff
The Daughters of Catherine Youssef Kassenoff, organized by Cynthia Monaco
GOFUNDME.COM
The Daughters of Catherine Youssef Kassenoff, organized by Cynthia Monaco
Hello. I am Cynthia Monaco, one of Catherine’s close friends. She and I w… Cynthia Monaco needs your support for The Daughters of Catherine Youssef Kassenoff
So you want the public to donate money to pay legal fees? Hasn’t enough money been wasted on lawyers and fake doctors?
Yes, let’s leave these girls a trust fund to support their drug habits when they turn 21. Rich daddy isn’t enough. They need money from the public too.
This is absurd. Catherine, who is supposedly dead, just purchased a million dollar in CASH last month. Surely her daughters will now inherit this million dollar home and it can be liquidated and put in a trust fund for them. No need to grift the public in this scheme to enrich three girls who already have access to more financial means that 95% of the world. The poor kids have plenty of money, its emotionally stable adult caretakers they most need.
Text messages from Catherine Kassenoff’s children that showed how much they loved their mother and how they were afraid of their father Allan Kassenoff. https://drive.google.com/file/d/1g023PHMXjv1_ZB9PCggjZjRYaMFVNbax/view?usp=sharing
These text messages are heartbreaking.😭 The courts failed these three young girls. Shame on them!!!!!
Google Drive to Catherine Kassenoffs’ Court Documents
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1ZitsXgychSTNxN4FXFjjoip93w4E6EaN?usp=drive_link
Allan Kassenoff Martindale-Hubbell Profile
https://www.martindale.com/attorney/allan-a-kassenoff-478326/
Coverage on Catherine Kassenoff and Allan Kassenoff
Bloomberg News
https://news.bloomberglaw.com/health-law-and-business/wake-up-call-greenberg-partner-resigns-after-abuse-allegations
NY POST
https://nypost.com/2023/06/12/attorney-blamed-by-ex-wife-in-suicide-note-resigns-from-firm/
https://nypost.com/2023/06/11/ex-emailed-catherine-kassenoff-that-he-will-never-stop-before-her-assisted-suicide/
https://nypost.com/2023/06/10/mom-posted-assisted-suicide-note-to-facebook-after-custody-battle/?utm_source=url_sitebuttons&utm_medium=site%20buttons&utm_campaign=site%20buttons
Dailymail.co.
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12181087/Mother-ended-life-diagnosed-terminal-cancer-losing-custody-kids.html?ito=email_share_article-top
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-12183177/Abusive-husband-sent-terrifying-email-NY-mom-claiming-never-stop-win-custody.html
Above the law
https://abovethelaw.com/2023/06/the-biglaw-files-how-power-and-privilege-harm-the-legal-profession/
https://abovethelaw.com/2023/06/biglaw-partners-furious-tirades-go-viral-revealing-family-tragedy/?fbclid=IwAR0-4DxYIb74hkQTBhbs7e6yfYf_G399z-hM6Gh1_X2z0Q2ifQQJAZrQULA
https://frankreport.com/2023/06/08/catherine-kassenoffs-last-mothers-day-message-to-children-allans-lawyer-shoves-back/
https://frankreport.com/2023/06/08/allan-kassenoff-tops-martindale-hubbell-with-1-profile-visibility-among-2-1-million-lawyers/
https://frankreport.com/2023/06/07/final-days-catherine-kassenoff-bought-house-for-kids-then-termination-of-parental-rights-terminal-diagnosis-as-suicide-remains-unconfirmed/
https://frankreport.com/2023/06/06/facebook-posts-and-sexual-misconduct-allegations-dr-abrams-role-in-catherine-kassenoffs-ruin-revealed/
https://frankreport.com/2023/06/04/fr-investigates-catherine-kassenoff-forced-out-of-home-separated-from-children-based-on-findings-of-custody-evaluator-paid-by-father/#comment-227651
https://frankreport.com/2023/06/03/kassenoffs-law-firm-defends-announces-allan-took-leave-to-focus-on-family-fr-will-assist-in-showing-the-truth/
https://frankreport.com/2023/06/03/raw-emotion-and-rage-18-videos-of-allan-kassenoff-with-catherines-shocking-descriptions/#comment-227083
https://frankreport.com/2023/06/02/how-greenberg-traurig-lawyer-allan-kassenoff-used-family-court-to-end-catherine-kassenoffs-life-steal-3-children-and-who-conspired-with-him/
https://frankreport.com/2023/05/31/catherine-kassenoff-lost-her-kids-home-health-savings-and-life-through-crafty-husband-family-court-play/
https://frankreport.com/2023/05/28/is-she-dead-final-post-from-mother-who-lost-her-kids-through-family-court-to-wealthy-attorney-husband/
https://msmagazine.com/2023/06/05/catherine-kassenoff-death-child-custody-divorce-court/
Videos of Allan Kassenoff’s Abuse & Family Court Corruption
https://www.tiktok.com/@therobbieharvey/video/7242374472500792622?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7232341215227561518
https://www.tiktok.com/@therobbieharvey/video/7241983224283450666?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7232341215227561518
https://www.tiktok.com/@therobbieharvey/video/7241174878207069486?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7232341215227561518
https://www.tiktok.com/@therobbieharvey/video/7240453967728168234?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7232341215227561518
https://www.tiktok.com/@therobbieharvey/video/7240063019391225131?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7232341215227561518
https://www.tiktok.com/@therobbieharvey/video/7239750147268267306?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7232341215227561518
News
https://westchester.news12.com/estranged-husband-of-deceased-westchester-family-court-activist-on-leave-amid-probe-of-suicide-note-allegations
https://westchester.news12.com/westchester-family-court-activist-apparently-dies-by-assisted-suicide-during-battle-for-kids-cancer-diagnosis
NY Judges that made Catherine Kassenoff Childless, Homeless
Judge Lewis Lubell ruled Allan should have sole custody of the kids and sole possession of the family home in Larchmont. He ordered Catherine evicted without notice. lLubell@nycourts.gov (2) Judge Nancy Quinn Koba, who, without hearing from Catherine or the children, signed orders to keep Catherine away from her children nkoba@nycourts.gov (3) Dr. Marc Abrams [above], custody evaluator #1. His recommendation: Because the mother “alienated” the children from their father, they should have no contact with their mother without a paid visitation supervisor listening to every word between mother and child. drabrams@drmarcabrams.com (4) Carol Most, attorney for the children, reportedly billed $270,000 to work for the “best interest of the children.” She recommended the court remove the mother from the children’s lives. gd@dimolaw.com; carolmost@cwmost.com; (5) Let’s not forget Dr. Kathleen E Mckay, MD. Dr. Kathleen McKay, the second custody evaluator, who replaced Dr. Abrams. Dr. Mckay decided Catherine should not see the children at all, even with a visitation supervisor, denying Catherine’s last wish to see her children before she died. https://www.vitals.com/doctors/1sk5x2/kathleen-mckay https://doctor.webmd.com/doctor/kathleen-mckay-5d858624-6a34-4436-a8d0-a38571a9fe89-overview https://www.ratemds.com/doctor-ratings/2843759/Dr-KATHLEEN+E.-MCKAY-Hartsdale-NY.html
NY State Bar Complaints Email for Westchester County ad2-grv9@nycourts.go
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“Dr. Marc Abrams, custody evaluator #1. His recommendation: Because the mother “alienated” the children from their father, they should have no contact with their mother without a paid visitation supervisor listening to every word between mother and child.“
Thank you!
Court news- do you have a link to her Dec 2021 email to Allan?
At the time of my divorce, I made sure to do everything possible outside the court system, including custody and support. I represented myself, took 50% including the house, and shared custody. It was not easy, as my ex yelled and screamed constantly, nonstop judgment of the kids, and neither kid was happy about it. There was no alienation, just a couple of good kids–good students and nice kids- who didn’t like getting criticized and yelled at constantly by a super neurotic person. In the end, one of the kids has a relationship with this parent, while the other refuses to see him. Hopefully this parent will mellow with time, and the other kid will want to see him.
Another lawyer employed similar strategies to Allan Kassenoff many, many years ago – read abut Alan Dershowitz and how he was hellbent on destroying his wife and not allowing her to see her children. He broke her in every way possible until she committed suicide. Sick narcissistic men who exploit the greedy and corrupt enablers in the family court system.
Also Dan Broderick did the same thing to Betty Broderick in real life, and on ‘Dirty John’ 2. Sad not much has changed.
Betty Broderick was a deranged lunatic. The fact that you have sympathy for this double murdering sociopathic monster tells me you are dangerous yourself thank God you don’t have custody.
Catherine, and a few dozen FB group members, are all Betty Broderick fan club presidents. Betty is a hero to these nuts.
Who is Betty Broderick?
No, what Dan Broderick did to Betty was awful, he deserves to lose his job, become humiliated and stripped of all his finances for what he did, however it does not mean we condone murder, you are an incel.
Internet host Weebly for this site doesn’t include Switzerland 🇨🇭
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Greenberg Traurig announced on Facebook that partner Allan Kassenoff, a patent litigator who had been on leave of absence pending the firm’s investigation into his divorce and custody dispute with his wife has resigned, effective immediately. (Facebook) Kassenoff’s lawyer wife, Catherine Kassenoff, a former federal prosecutor and corporate in-house attorney, reportedly had terminal cancer and recently died by assisted suicide in Switzerland. (New York Post) (News 12 Westchester) (Above The Law)
https://nypost.com/2023/06/12/attorney-blamed-by-ex-wife-in-suicide-note-resigns-from-firm/
the Post article says: “The ex-husband [actually, estranged, not yet ex] of a New York mother and former federal prosecutor who ALLEGEDLY died by medically assisted suicide has resigned following a leave of absence, his former employer said in a statement.”
“Look how you butt yourself in these sharp mocks.”
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MNIKASuG52M&pp=ygUSbWVsIGdpYnNvbiBleHBvc2Vz
People do not want us to know the truth
A little after the 6:00 minute mark on that video up there where the ex-CIA guy says, “bred by families as a cash crop …” sounds almost like what Vicki Polin spoke about on Oprah.
“… and it’s going back to – – like – – the 1700s.”
It goes farther back than the 1700s. 😐
“Religious rites were primarily for city-state purposes; payment of taxes by citizens was considered in the category of religious sacrifices …
Several Canaanite practices are alleged in ancient sources and mentioned by scholars, such as temple prostitution and child sacrifice. Special sites known as “Tophets” were allegedly used by the Phoenicians “to burn their sons and their daughters in the fire,” and are condemned by Yahweh in the Hebrew Bible, particularly in Jeremiah 7:30–32, and in 2nd Kings 23:10 and 17:17 …”
“… The Phoenicians had a system of courts and judges that resolved disputes and punished crimes based on a semi-codified body of laws and traditions … The murder of a commoner was treated as less severe than that of a nobleman, and the upper classes had the most rights; the wealthy often escaped punishment by paying a fine. (the same then and now)
Free men of any class could represent themselves in court and had more rights than women and children, while slaves had no rights. (see the pattern there?) Men could often deflect punishment to their wives, children, or slaves, even having them serve their sentence in their place. Lawyers eventually emerged as a profession for those who could not plead their case.”
So, child sacrificers were the first lawyers. Who’s surprised?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Phoenicia
About the color purple … ”The most prized Phoenician goods were fabrics dyed with Tyrian purple, which formed a major part of Phoenician wealth. The violet-purple dye derived from the hypobranchial gland of the Murex marine snail, once profusely available in coastal waters of the eastern Mediterranean Sea but exploited to local extinction.”
Apparently, Mel Gibson filmed a film.
https://www.elpasotimes.com/story/news/crime/2023/06/12/teen-online-sex-sting-nabs-army-soldier-axel-cabrera-on-el-paso-border-mission/70311445007/
WORLD PROFITS OFF OF CHILD ABUSE EVERYWHERE
https://www.newsweek.com/mel-gibson-provided-valuable-intelligence-child-trafficking-docuseries-1805492
Expose ! Expose !
Beware of people wearing yoga pants commenting on the frank report. Beware of people pushing parental alienation. Beware of attorneys who’s wages will be reduced if the family courts are fixed. Keep digging Frank. 💜
It’s kind of easy to tell who’s who. `For there is not a good tree making bad fruit, nor a bad tree making good fruit; for each tree from its own fruit is known, for not from thorns do they gather figs, nor from a bramble do they crop a grape. `The good man out of the good treasure of his heart doth bring forth that which is good; and the evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart doth bring forth that which evil; for out of the abounding of the heart doth his mouth speak.’
Beautiful
Catherine is a very psychological sick woman, this is all a game to her, that is a blog she created. Her only quest is to destroy her ex-husband, that her kids are collateral damage in all of this means nothing to her.
She had many psychiatric evaluations to demonstrate her competence and was highly successful as a mom and a lawyer prior to entering the corruption of family court.
Please stop feeding the narrative that mothers who raise their children. Are suddenly psychologically damaged when money is used to pay for child custody.
Where are the claims of abuse or neglect against Catherine? Where is the CPS invest Cation? Non-existent. Allen financed this outcome. Nothing new. The AFCC has been assisting with custody sales for decades.
She couldn’t bond with the oldest daughter and treated her differently. She cut her hair as punishment, made her wear a diaper to school, made her eat in another room, took away her bed and belongings in room for punishment. NPD and BPD people can be very successful professionally, and by all appearances pretend to have a normal household. It isn’t until you dig deeper and fully investigate that the narrative unravels.
What’s your narrative, 4:30 pm? Will you tell us briefly so we can judge you out of context?
‘’ SHE WILL BE PUNISHED BY NOT GOING TO SCHOOL TODAY….I WILL NO LONGER DO NICE THINGS FOR HER.” – Allan Kassenoff in one of his many recordings…punishment from denial of education.
Anon 4:30 Nice try but none of these cherry picked, unsupported allegations you cite intending to make Catherine look bad are reasons to terminate custody.
Really? Then why were all the files she released highly curated and never showed any of the “bad reports” only ones Catherine viewed as favorable? A father wasn’t given sole custody, and Catherine only supervised visits, based on those reports. She chose to withhold volumes of negative material about herself in her smear campaign. She still lost in the end. I’m sure her husband hopes she sticks with her fake suicide story and keeps her head down and out of NY for years. Her having to hide like a fugitive means he won in the end.
Yup!! Wish more people would see this, she’s hell bent on destroying the dad and doesn’t care about the collateral damage along the way.
Anon 3:45.
‘She was hellbent on destroying him?’
Funny. Couldn’t you say that about Allan? What is the one thing that will destroy a mother? Taking her kids away. And Allan did that.
No, I can’t say that about Allen. He wasn’t speaking to the kids in French urging them to runaway, or manipulating the oldest against her dad and recruiting the two youngest to help, or running a social media smear campaign and was told over and over and over to stop it. By several judges. He didn’t leave a “suicide note” online for everyone to see.
Hey Sh*** at 4:27
Were you happy Allan wouldn’t have to pay child support? Because we all know that’s so often a driver for SOLE custody. Let’s get real here.
Right. He didn’t do any of that. He only took the children away from their mother and then prevented the mother from seeing her children, that’s all.
“It is very important to note that Christmas is less than two weeks away. These girls have not spent Christmas with their mother in two years.” — December 14, 2022
What’s one thing that could destroy your kids hmmm let me think. FINDING OUT YOUR MOM “DIED”ON FACEBOOK AND NOT HAVING CONFORMATION ALMOST 3 weeks later. YOU PEOPLE ARE SICK YOUR HEARTS ARE FILLED WITH HATE. THEY DONT HAVE TO BE PEACE AND LOVE ARE WITHEN YOU. ASK FOR FORGIVENESS YOU MIGHT GET IT WHEN YOUR TIME IS DONE AND YOU MUST ANWSER FOR YOUR ACTIONS. https://www.chabad.org/library/bible_cdo/aid/16272/jewish/Chapter-51.htm
Hearts are filled for concern 💞🙏. The family court system is breeding ground for the most damaged souls. Healthy roots grow beautiful trees. These family trees are dead and decaying. The courts keep them rooting for as long as it takes. These children will forever be scared by the loss of their mother. You are ranting and tanting her memory. I will pray for you and your soul. Ms. Yoga pants. You will never fill Catherine shoes. If you care for these girls you will stop bashing their Mom.
Just listen to him on the videos
Remember that email of all the things and collateral damage Allan listed he’d go forward with to destroy Catherine? Including selling his house and spending all money from children’s savings and college fund? 😂
Who is “hell bent on destroying the dad“?
Catherine is live poster. Obviously this is a scam site. And funny that Catherine was considered mentally healthy UNTIL the courts got involved. You have no idea of the hacks running through that system, and the money that influences outcomes. And guess what? Many many imperfect people have custody of their kids. No reason these two shouldn’t have shared custody except Allan was a vindictive ass, a number of people made a sh!t ton of money off this custody battle AND Allan figured the battle was worth it because he wouldn’t have to pay child support. A win for everyone. Except the kids and Catherine. That’s what happens in family courts around the US and that’s why you’re seeing so many passionate people up in arms about it. Because they know it happens.
“No reason these two shouldn’t have shared custody except Allan was a vindictive ass”
Catherine was the vindictive ass. She didn’t care if she destroyed the kids. She just wanted revenge on her ex and was blind to the damaging effect her actions had on the children.
Anon 6:02. Ok, so let’s assume they were both vindictive. Ok.
So that still begs the question, why couldn’t Allan share the kids?
Because you didn’t want him to have to pay child support? And you wanted to wear her clothes and live in her house?
“Because you didn’t want him to have to pay child support? And you wanted to wear her clothes and live in her house?”
Dial down the paranoia. I’m not Allan’s girlfriend.
He was willing to share the kids, but she went psycho over her hatred of him and lost custody due to her psychotic behavior.
He, Gus, Carol and Marc conspired to have her evicted from her home (giving her 20 minutes to leave). They took her children, ruined her reputation, destroyed her health, undermined her employment and canceled the French, Arabic (hazardous to the guy’s health, apparently) soccer, Church choir, violin and Christmas.
Do we call her response to what they did to her “vindictive” or “understandable”?
If by “live poster” you mean someone posting comments on this website I agree 100%. The rest is absurd propaganda. Catherine’s sphere sounds a lot like the people who got their kids taken by CPS and now promote CPS as a satanic child selling ring.
@E Rigby: You nailed it!
E Rigby. No, Catherine’s ‘sphere’ is those who understand how corrupt and money driven family court is. And as much as you might support Allan, clearly he was too stupid to see this, or too disordered to care how it would harm his family.
Blah blah blah
“… Like most of the other things which humans are excited about, such as health and sickness, age and youth, or war and peace, it is, from the point of view of the spiritual life, mainly raw material,
A mystery box? Wtf is going on? It’s like a wild book.
The story proves Catherine is a very bad author. Her copy & paste comments are tiring, so are the cliches she feeds on. It’s sad a grown woman behaves this way.
I feel bad for the kids. I can’t say much about the ex-husband. I’m sure he has a few issues because he chose to marry such a woman and have three kids with her.
BPD poster
Projecting?
Obviously this site isn’t Catherine’s. It’s a hoax
Psycho
Dad
This is the ATTORNEYS at work trying to control the narrative and stop us from speaking the truth loudly. But I’ve only just begun and I have a lot of information and proof of fraud happening in the family court in Connecticut.
“This is the ATTORNEYS at work”
No way. Attorneys have much better grammar than what’s at that hoax website.
Anon 3:06. Yes, this is not the attorneys. Or Catherine. Please. It’s a scam website
Scam. Which this entire saga reads like…. This lady is likely alive and well, laughing at all the misery she is bringing to her ex.
I hope Catherine is alive and well and laughing.
She used to like to laugh.
You all know she’s alive. Her “terminal cancer” and “Swiss suicide” is an absurd and sad hoax by a very mentally ill woman.
This must be a scam website
That sounds like a bunch of gobbledygook spewed by an AI bot in a third world country. It’s probably run by poor Ronnie’s ex girlfriend (for those who don’t get the reference, the GF didn’t exist, but was created by Nigerian scammers).
Frank. I think you are doing the scammers too much of a service by linking to them bc when you link to them, it pushes them up in search results.
This seems totally bogus
Listen to the videos of him
He’s a sick puppy
She might have been ALSO
Who knows
But he definitely needs help
Be wary of who you give money to- including susan Komen org- it’s not about helping anyone but board members salaries and research how money is to be distributed to children and who is in charge of it until they have access- family court carnage allows for hyena victim harvesters to pluck what they can
I was in a similar situation like the one Ms Kassenoff experienced. Watching the behavior of Mr. Kassenoff brought back painful memories. My divorced trial ended up 28 years ago. My ex husband had all the money to pay for attorneys, I didn’t. Many times I felt like giving up because I couldn’t take the harassment I experienced from his lawyers. I love my two special children and I prayed on my knees many times not to loose them. I was slandered, lied, and my reputation was stained by these “lawyers”. ( I have a nickname for them) The beautiful part is that I ended up winning the case on my own. The credit goes to my God, the Almighty one. My ex husband spent thousand of dollars and who ultimately won? His greedy lawyers. I believe deep inside that a Narcissist will go to the streams to use his own children to get back at his wife. It is all about his power over her. This is a very sad story because at the end his children will get back at him for everything he caused. Sooner or later he will pay for all the yelling, screaming, hatred, emotional and physical pain he directed to another human being .You reap what you sow. That is life