Barbara Bouchey Makes Her Final Statement to Raniere – and She Is in His Face

Barbara Bouchey

Barbara Bouchey, the former girlfriend of Keith Raniere and a top recruiter for Nxivm in its early days, was the 6th victim to speak at this sentencing.

Here are links to the first five who spoke before her::

Camila’s Complete Statement at Raniere’s Sentencing –‘When I Was Still 15, He Took Naked Pictures — Naked Pictures of Me!’

Sarah Edmondson’s Survivor’s Statement to Keith Raniere: ‘If There Is Any Justice, the World Will Never See Your Face in Public Again’

Vicente to Raniere: ‘I Will Struggle for the Rest of My Life With What You’ve Done to My Mind and My Soul’

Ivy Nevares Statement at His Sentencing: ‘Raniere was Hoping I Would Commit Suicide’.

Toni Natalie’s Last Statement to Raniere: ‘A Genius? What a Joke!’

Barbara told me that while she had a hard time writing her victim statement for Clare Bronfman, the words came easily for her statement to Raniere.

She came out rather aggressively and perhaps she spoke to Raniere as she had never before in the past. While she saw him in court attending every day of his trial last year, she was not permitted to speak to him.

This may be the first time she actually spoke to him since she left Nxivm and him in 2009 – and is likely the last time she will ever speak to him, the last time she will ever see him.

She speaks a lot about her history with Raniere and how he went after her. To those unfamiliar with her story, it may be hard to follow, but the gist of it is there: After she left NXIVM, he went after her with a vengeance, with Bronfman millions, and failed.

Perhaps if she sounds a little too emotional or strident or melodramatic at times in her speech, keep in mind she was facing the man she probably loved most in life but who became the man she feared the most –  and the man who caused her years of fear and torment and caused the loss of her reputation, her wealth and her career.

He was able to ruin her happiness both while she was in Nxivm and with him, taking her for her life savings while she was there which was about 9 years – and then after she left him, he hunted her for another 9 years. After 18 years, she gets a little pass, since she had to say everything she had to say, and for the last time to the man who loomed large over her and frightened her, and made her life a living hell.

Barbara Bouchey after the sentencing being interviewed by reporters.

By Barbara  Bouchey

Keith, Hi, been a long time. I read the glowing testimonials about you. I too could have written one for the many benefits gained from you in my days at NXIVM.

However, what if a woman is married to a man deemed a pillar of the community and 85 percent of the marriage is good, but 15 percent is really bad. Within five months, he cons her out of her life savings, vowing to pay her back, secretly abuses her, conceals his affairs with many women, and sexually abuses them too including a 15-year-old?

He then directs these women to conspire with him to deceive her and to spread negative propaganda calling her crazy. And any time she questions, they blame her and shame her for even daring to ask. All the while, he extorts her value, time and money to feed his selfish addictions and builds his empire.

Finally, she cannot tolerate the abuse anymore and she leaves him. He fears though that she will tell the truth about the abuse, and that she discovered that he’s the wolf behind the sheep’s clothing. So, he lies to cover up his abuse.

And to silence her, he hunts her like an animal, misusing the courts and the authorities and relentlessly litigating her on trumped charges, –  and even has her passport removed so she cannot feel safe in her own country.  And for what?

Because she broke up with you and told the truth about it? Keith, you claim to be the most ethical, honorable, and noblest of men. Is it ethical to overlook the husband’s abuse? No, it would not be. That is why you are sitting here today. Being held accountable and facing a possible lifetime in prison, which is what I think you deserve for what you did to me and to others.

I read your 96-page motion and declaration of innocence. You claim we do not understand your goodness and philosophy to help humankind, followed by your denigration of the witnesses here in this courtroom, stating that they lied, they rewrote history all for hidden agenda to extort money from the deep pockets of the Bronfmans.

Keith, why is it that I’m the elephant in the room? Never mentioned. Why am I not in the 96 pages? Nowhere.

Could it be because you know that you cannot claim those things about me? Or given that I’m not one of the eighty ex-members suing you. And with your decade-long attempt to wrongfully accuse me failed, that mentioning me would only further point to your obsessive lunacy.

It is you who has the bad intent, who desperately lied about me, concealing that you are a wolf, a predator – and who cleverly used good-intentioned people, like me, as your sheep’s clothing.

When I left, Kristin said it was like a snap. You became obsessed with silencing me, lest anyone believe me.  Did you know that I listened to the audio,where you masterfully wove a fantastical tale to everyone about why I left?  You claimed I tried to extort $2 million.

Don’t you think it’s time to tell the truth, Keith?  It was you who asked me to invest $25,000. And you who asked me to lend you $25,000 to test your mathematical formula on commodities. And you assured me I would not lose more than that.

But you lied. And you margined it and you exposed me to risk. With the account in my name and you as the trader, I was forced to cover $1.7 million of your losses.

You then feigned innocence. And not knowing that this could ever happen, another lie – all fo which I learned after I left because you did the same thing with Pam’s money.

There you were crying, vowing to pay me back, saying you were responsible knowing that I never signed up for that.

You and Nancy promised me every year to pay me back. Your inner circle espoused you were a man of your word, and that I have no reason to worry. But there was always an excuse every year, wasn’t there, Keith, for not paying me back? Then you shamed me for asking for repayment of my own money, a loan now, because a true humanitarian would not be so selfish to ask for their money.

You lied to the community and then claimed this was a gift. You then conned Clare with your lies – and placed her on the NXIVM board two weeks after I left. Then you had her go to my hometown DA to try to get me arrested, falsely saying that I tried to extort this money from her.

When that didn’t work, you launched an avalanche of litigation for eight years dragging me into 14 lawsuits, in four states, had me arrested, removed my passport, had Clare launch an investigation with my Financial Planning Ethics Board with their 29 salacious allegations, including extortion.  Additionally, you used other board members to file extortion charges against me in Mexico, having bribed a judge to toss me into a dark prison never to be seen again.

THE COURT: Please slow down a bit.

BOUCHEY: Did you get it all, Keith, or do you want me to repeat it?

THE COURT:  Please go ahead.

BOUCHEY: You bribed a judge in Mexico to toss me into a dark prison hoping never to see me again. I was driven into filing bankruptcy defending against your lies, which took me until two years ago to pay off. And so, Keith, shall we summarize the facts, or data, as you call it?

I got every one of your vexatious litigations dismissed with no wrongdoing cited. I got my Financial Planning Board’s investigation closed with the overwhelming evidence that I provided proving Clare’s salacious allegations were false.  I got that criminal charge dropped. And there was never any extortion charge or investigation started in the United States because the authorities realized it was completely bogus.

However, you did get that bogus charge filed charged in Mexico.  And I’m sure that you would be surprised to know right now that your ex-Mexican board members have come out of the fog. And right now, as we speak, they are arranging to have those criminal charges dropped.

And so, every devious plot and plan to destroy me and falsely accuse me has failed. Where you did not fail was to assassinate my character with nonstop headline news stories that reported your lies portraying me an unethical financial adviser, criminal extortionist, unfit to manage my own financial affairs, let alone that of my clients.

I took the brunt of your vengeance for eight years, being bludgeoned because I was unwilling to go quietly into the night. No matter how much you terrorized me, I did not surrender. And I never gave up trying to expose you and hold you accountable and bring you to justice this day.

A terrorist is defined as a person who uses unlawful intimidation in pursuit of their own aims.  That’s who you are, a terrorist.  A wolf, a predator, a criminal, and unethical human being.  You no longer can hide in plain sight and are now being seen for the predator that you are.

Barbara Bouchey and Keith Alan Raniere.

There was a time when I once loved you, and dearly, thinking you were my soulmate. I thought we shared common goals of empowering others in making a difference in the world. I gave you everything that I had my life, my work, my efforts, my resources for what I believed was a mutual vision.

Often you would tell me I was your greatest risk. It never made sense to me at the time, but it does now. I’m your black swan. That rare person causing the extreme event that would have severe outcomes that cannot be predicted beforehand and can cause catastrophic consequences.

Keith, you may have broken my heart, irreparably damaged my once impeccable reputation built over decades, emptied my bank account once valued at $5 million, decimated my career.  Once was I an esteemed leader in my industry, you drove me out of my hometown where I was once a pillar of my community to seek refuge in another state because my town folks shunned me, unknowingly believing your lies.

Then you forced me into hiding, where I had to live anonymously in fear of what next plot you can get away with in acting upon me. I was alone, isolated, and afraid.

Today, I may only own a 13-year-old car and my furniture, but you were never able to diminish my spirit. And I still possess the depth of my character. I have and always have and will uphold the truths and my integrity. I stand here before you a stronger, resilient, more encouraged women.

I’m a better person today. My understanding, compassion, forgiveness, and empathy runs deep within me like a river. I’ve been filled with grace after going to hell and back many times.

MK10ART’s sketch of Barbara [seated on a couch] talking to Keith Raniere prior to leaving him. This is the scene where he tells her “I have had people killed for my beliefs and theirs,”
I’ve had many dark nights of the soul not knowing if I could survive another day of false headline news story. Many years I had to choose between needed medical care, paying attorneys, or rent, uncertain if I could support myself.

You may have destroyed everything that took me decades to build, but you did not destroy me.

I forgave you a long time ago for your unspeakable betrayal, deceit, lies, manipulation, extortion of my value, intent to destroy me because I believed that right now you are not of sound mind, you are delusional and unable to see the evil intent that is within you.

I will pray for you and your soul every day. May God help you find your way back to your soul. May you spend the rest of your life in prison, and hopefully, maybe you’ll reflect or journal on all the damage and abuse you inflicted upon me and others.

As for me, like a butterfly after it struggles to survive the war zone of the chrysalis, it emerges to spread its wings now having the strength to fly.  And so do I.

Thank you, your Honor.

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  • I had to rewatch The Vow several times because I am having some pretty serious health issues, with severe allergies to medication. So I rewatched it because I wanted to make sure I heard what they were saying. Barbara’s part really touched me.

    I felt so bad for her. She was truly heartbroken as it was from the betrayal of him sleeping with all those women. Then, to go have the rest happen was just well, evil.

    I hated to see it and I hope that she will make some real lasting friendships with people not in a cult that care for her. And maybe even meet someone. She deserves happiness. She got taken because she came from a dysfunctional family background. And she never had the support and love many people have. So, she was vulnerable.

    I hope Barbara has a good life and I hope people are good to her. If she was someone I met, I would give her a big hug and offer out my hand in friendship. I think she could be a good example to younger people of how to protect yourself. YouTube is a place where many people go to learn. Maybe she can do some videos to help people avoid cults and dangerous people like Keith with dangerous personality disorders.

    As usual, Frank, big hugs to you. Keep exposing the dark, and bringing it into the light.

  • Intelligent and mindfully spoken, but with the harsh words necessary for the crimiminal of humans(women) of this century! Kudos!

    • Surprise ending – since she’s the executive producer. LOL

      Why should a Hollyweird adult, and “royalty” at that, be responsible for anything? LOL

      • —Surprise ending – since she’s the executive producer.

        How dare you, Scott!

        Professionalism and Objectivity were always front and center of this documentary.

        India even went through the entire documentary without makeup…..She is as brave as a Medal of Honor winner or Bill Buckner staying in Fenway park after the 8th inning.

        BTW: Catherine Oxenberg does not drive a friggin Toyota that scene in LA is pure B.S.

        It was done to cast them in a more pedestrian down to earth light. The princess ain’t a driving the commoners’ car.

        Ask Frank…

        • I didn’t, and probably never will, watch that show, because I realize she is the executive producer – I got my fill of BS from The Vow. LOL

          • Scott Buddy,
            I have to concur with you on this one. We may have our differences, but I wouldn’t want even you to eat a shit sandwich on rye.

  • Barbara, you are amazing. Somewhere I read about how you survived a difficult childhood and then became a successful financial planner. Unknowingly, you fell for a wolf in sheep’s clothing. As you said in your statement, you have risen above this and will continue to do so. He will rot in prison and be forgotten. God bless you.

      • Hi, Frank. The sentencing memorandum mentions you, stating:
        ‘For example, Nicole was threatened, according to her own testimony, by Frank Parlato and the prospect of Parlato releasing her name and even her collateral, which he claimed to have, to the public solely because she was seen as a NXIVM sympathizer.’

        What are they talking about? Curious to know your involvement with Nicole. Also, do you have her collateral?

        • I was given the collateral of several women including Nicole. I turned it over to law enforcement immediately and it was I believe the first time they actually got collateral which they used to build their case. I also persuaded Nicole to go the FBI.

          I mentioned to her that I had her collateral and turned it over to the authorities. She was certainly frightened by that – not of me, but of the prospect that her collateral was being leaked. Raniere’s attorney during cross examination tried to get Nicole to say that I threatened her. She refused to agree to that because it was not true. There was a minor campaign during the trial of Raniere to discredit me in front of the jury.

          • The collateral [blackmail] was the meat of the legal matter, the steak so to speak, whereas the cauterized branding was legally, figurately, and physically, the sizzle. LOL

            Everyone makes Raniere’s initials the big deal, but from a legal perspective, it was the threat of releasing the blackmail material that nailed him, the initials were just the Hollyweird drama and we know a picture says 1,000 words. LOL

      • Frank, was this memorandum what inspired Cami to give her victim’s statement at sentencing? Seems like that would make sense.

  • Frank, I sincerely thank you in your tremendous dedication to help bring this super-criminal destructive Keith R. down. While the nation is watching the election results, you are still at work. Just finished watching “Seduced” and “the Vow”. The case won was a landmark case and for years KR knew and made sure that laws cant catch him. The laws for “coercive controls for anti-human rights” must be made stronger… may be you can join India and friends to move strongly in that direction. Much appreciation for your tireless work.

  • Bravo, I wholeheartedly believe every word you said. Welcome to the rest of your life, your shackles have been removed .

  • I wish I could have read a description of Raniere’s reaction to her speech. I imagine he was not allowed to open his mouth to reply when Barbara finished, was he?

    • Raniere was given a chance to address the court – and all those who spoke out against him – before he was sentenced. He gave a short, rambling speech in which he said some of the people who spoke against him were liars – and also “apologized” for anyone suffering pain as a result of him (He did not apologize for anything he did – just for the pain that others experienced because of him). He finished by asking the judge to go lightly in sentencing Allison Mack, Nancy Salzman, and Lauren Salzman.

      • I noticed that while he “apologized” that people felt hurt, he rejected any responsibility for it. That’s his “there are not ultimate victims” philosophy at work – which, while there is some validity in it, was used by him as a tool for victimizing people, the way ideologies of burdensome and one-sided “responsibility” on followers are often used as a part of the mechanisms of exploitation in high control groups and cults.

        It’s sort of like him saying that it’s your fault that you ran into my fist – or, at least, that you failed to duck like you should have.

      • My God, he’s telling them they need EM’s. WTF. He’s still working his followers and former ones. Did anyone catch that?

  • Well said. I hope those people who lost so much financially can rebuild. Clearly some of them are very good business people with lots of skills.

  • This was a good letter and read until this:

    –I forgave you a long time ago for your unspeakable betrayal, deceit, lies, manipulation, extortion of my value, intent to destroy me because I believed that right now you are not of sound mind, you are delusional and unable to see the evil intent that is within you.

    Keith’s actions are not accidental mistakes or errors. They are rooted in willful malevolence over many years. He had many chances to stop such deleterious behavior but he only increased in arrogance and applied even more pressure to his foot on the gas (pardon the ironic metaphor since he practically never drove). Stop forgiving people who don’t deserve it. Sometimes even a just punishment can’t “burn” it out of them.

    There’s a balance between mercy and justice that needs to be maintained. A lack of justice is a lack of mercy, especially when it comes to victims.

  • Extremely well written, and fully captured the pain.

    I maintain that everyone who fights evil suffers a similar fate, almost textbook, but survives and rebuilds.

    You will, too.

  • One last sentence. The worst part is that he used the goodwill and love of others. These are unforgivable sins. Everyone trusted him because he gave me a reason to do it, and he abused it. That’s the biggest mean thing he could have done because of the crimes and other actions. Of course, in our daily lives, similar things happen, but not in this genre. He put people’s lives, fate, vocation, love in this way to Hell.

      • [redacted]

        Oh fuck. Never mind. Redact this. I will go now and take a brisk walk, enjoy the hula and add in some flamenco stomping. Move the energy to fruition.

  • This once again confirms Keith’s infinite vileness. This man really is a psychopath. I sincerely feel sorry for all the people whose pain and deception you have caused.

About the Author

Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist.

His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” He also appeared in "Branded and Brainwashed: Inside NXIVM, and was credited in the Starz docuseries "Seduced" for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Additionally, Parlato’s coverage of the group OneTaste, starting in 2018, helped spark an FBI investigation, which led to indictments of two of its leaders in 2023.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premieres on May 22, 2022.

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