Harem member: on Raniere – ‘cruel’, ‘never wrong’, ‘uninspired lover’

I have a fine line to walk. I am getting calls daily from people who claim to have been hurt by Keith Raniere. Some of them are still associated with him. All of them fear him.

Funny, he is a man women describe as one who they have loved then feared.

On the other hand, Raniere has declined to talk to me. I would like to get his side of the story. [My number is 305-393-3044/ my email is frankparlato@gmail.com].

A woman called yesterday and made her identity known.  To protect her identity, I will only say this: she is either currently in the harem and seeking to transition out, or was formerly in the harem.

She had many things to say about alleged illegal activities that are/have been transpiring in NXIVM village. I will address those later after confirmation.

She is considering revealing her identity on the record, once she feels she is safe from retaliation from Raniere. There is no male member of her family with the strength and manliness to protect her, she told me.

I asked her, is Keith a compassionate man?

She told me:  I can recall a lot of Keith’s actions that I would call cruel. Cruel in the sense of not empathizing with human needs, with human suffering, with human failures.

I asked her: Is he infallible?

She said: Of course not. I think he think he is, or he knows he’s not, but tries to cover it up. If he is asked if he is infallible, he will say, ‘yes.’ If he is confronted with his mistakes, he will give a great story about how his mistakes are not mistakes. That’s a nice story. He doesn’t behave as if he is ever wrong. He might admit with words that he is wrong about inconsequential things but in every essential decision of what is ethically right or wrong, he does not think he is ever wrong. He fancies himself the most ethical person there is, so how could he be wrong about something so basic?  Yet I do think he is wrong about the way he treats people. It is not kind. It is not what is best for them. He loves to punish. The ‘dispenser of justice.’ As he sees justice. But it is always one sided. It is their karma. But he is beyond karma. He can do no wrong. He might cause somebody a lot of pain and say it is best for them; they will grow. ‘I hurt you so you will get something. I hurt you so you will learn. I understand what’s best for you; you don’t.’ That is not the way to teat people. It is not kind. It is not ethical.

The females he is attracted to, he dedicates time; they will go up the ranks in a different way than other women. When a woman is interesting to him he starts to court her. He pays a lot of attention for a time. Then afterward they will have sex. Sometimes right away. With me he courted. One day he gave me a kiss. A romantic kiss. It just happened. I knew he was with other women, but he was courting me. I am not an oversexed person. But one day soon afterward we did sleep together. Actually I was disappointed. Extremely. I told him. It was very uninspiring. He was disappointed that I told him this.  He told me nevertheless that I could not have sex with anybody else.  And I didn’t, but I wanted to have a real relationship with someone. None of the women of the harem ever know the joy of monogamy; the love of one man who they love in return. The sex never got better with Keith either and I think the spiritual connection through having sex with him that he tells females is just bullshit.



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  • “The sex never got better with Keith either and I think the spiritual connection through having sex with him that he tells females is just bullshit.”

    “Bullshit”? Ya think?!

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Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist.

His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” He also appeared in "Branded and Brainwashed: Inside NXIVM, and was credited in the Starz docuseries "Seduced" for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Additionally, Parlato’s coverage of the group OneTaste, starting in 2018, helped spark an FBI investigation, which led to indictments of two of its leaders in 2023.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premieres on May 22, 2022.

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