Kathy Cote-Ethier, one of the NXIVM-9, encourages others to speak out against abusive Raniere on Facebook

The ‘NXIVM 9’ were the first group defection of NXIVM in April 2009.

The nine women who left were Barbara Bouchey, Susan Dones, Kim Woolhouse, Angela Ucci, Ellen Gibson, Nina Cowell, Jan Heim, Sheila Cote and Kathy Ethier.

Kathy Cote-Ethier

Kathy Ethier writes about the struggle Barbara Bouchey faced after she left NXIVM. As an eyewitness to much of the vindictive attacks Keith Raniere and Clare Bronfman launched on Barbara, Kathy essentially verifies the truth of the story published in Frank Report: Barbara Bouchey, The Woman in the Arena. 

Kathy is writing for a new Facebook page dedicated to NXIVM/ESP victims: 

Our Experiences – Support for those affected by NXIVM / ESP


Kathleen Cote-Ethier

Barbara Is an Honest Person, her account of what happened is True, what she has endured for the past 8 years I can’t EVEN begin to explain. Nor does this article even do the last eight years of Vicious legal & Psychological attacks even come close to the whole Story.

All she did was LEAVE……that’s it.

Everything that has been ever written or said or whispered about her is a LIE. She is still to this day being legally stalked. How do I know this? I was one of eight women who in 2009 resigned along with her… I lived it with her… She has endured much in order for The Truth to come forward & so it begins….


So Please find your courage & share your story here so that others do not feel alone… this goes for the men as well.

Peace & Healing to all……

Kathy Ethier


Barbara Bouchey faced Keith Raniere and Clare Bronfman in a series of lawsuits. Barbara prevailed, but at tremendous cost to her financially and emotionally. In an incredible act of savagery [Raniere-style], she was arrested and handcuffed on Christmas Eve; charged with a felony for the simple act of logging on to a social page of NXIVM, one time, which she did with permission. Clare Bronfman’s perjury resulted in the case being dismissed.  But when you are in the arena, as Barbara was, it is a harrowing experience.

The new Facebook page offers this explanation of their purpose:

Our Experiences is a page for those affected by NXIVM, Executive Success Programs, Jness, SOP, DOS/The Vow, and cult leader Keith Raniere, to share their experiences and inspire those to share theirs.

It is also a page for those who want to show support for those who share their experiences.

If you feel unsafe sharing the experience on your own, please email us or someone who has already spoken out and we will post it anonymously.

The goal is to create a community of support as well as create a resource of truth for those still supporting Keith Raniere and his dystopia.

In the near future, we will have a closed group where NXITERS/Expians can share their stories with each other. In the interim, we encourage you to share and invite others to this page to raise awareness.

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Kathy Ethier
6 years ago

First of All I don’t have a Facebook Page, I posted a comment on the Facebook Page created by those who have left & if you carefully read this Post Frank has included the link to that page. Secondly Anonymous why don’t you post your real name since you want others too as well. Also why do you have an issue If I support my friend Barbara or anyone else for that matter?

6 years ago

Why is Kathy Ethier asking others to speak out and than turns around and gives a testimony for Barbara Bouchey?

Why isn’t Ms. Bouchey sharing her own story like others who have been the brave souls and bearded their souls, brands and stories on the Frank Report? Is she above sharing on a forum like this?

Right now we don’t need a Facebook page. The Frank Report is getting world wide attention so why not use this as a forum to share what has happened as it keeps the media’s and law enforcement attention?

6 years ago
Reply to  Anonymous

They have an issue because they want to silence you. They don’t want people to share their stories on a facebook group. The more people band together… the weaker it makes them. Like all abusers, they rely on fear to silence people.

About the Author

Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist.

His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” Parlato was also credited in the Starz docuseries "Seduced" for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Additionally, Parlato’s coverage of the group OneTaste, starting in 2018, helped spark an FBI investigation, which led to indictments of two of its leaders in 2023.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premiered on May 22, 2022. Most recently, he consulted and appeared on Tubi's "Branded and Brainwashed: Inside NXIVM," which aired January, 2023.

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