Ruth Graham: Buying a Prostitute Is Rape; & Porn Promotes Trafficking, Violence Against Women

By Ruth Graham

In the 1970s, Brazil intentionally increased the open sexual deviancy of it’s populace as a distraction from their military dictatorship – as well as to distract the world from the brutality of their regime.

They implemented a hypersexualization on their own people, to dumb them down. Their marketing strategy worked. Brazil is full of idiotic machismo, rampant femicide, homophobia and fascism.

People think Brazil is a “hot, sexy, free” place because of the marketing of hot Brazilian women. In reality it’s unsafe and unhappy for women. And since there are no abortion rights, and massive poverty, the average woman in Brazil does not have that perfect Brazilian body with fake boobs. Rather, they have a body broken by hard labor and unwanted children they were forced to give birth to.

But it is not just the promotion of deviant sexuality that is hard on women.

Traditional values degrade and enslave women, either as a nurse, a maid or a whore.

Look at the top ten countries for human trafficking. They have the highest levels of porn consumption. Porn and sex slavery are intertwined. Both divide a man from seeing a woman as an equal human being. Instead, she is a commodity to buy. An object.

In the US, Utah has the highest porn consumption. And it’s an extremely conservative place. The more conservative you are, the more extreme gender roles are. The more extreme gender roles, the more the subjugation and exploitation of women. The more women subjugation and exploitation, the more violence against women.

Most importantly, the more violence against women is SEXUALIZED.

Most men do not consider that normalizing brutal, controlling behavior against women as a form of sexual satisfaction stretches from the family model (what the child learns) all the way out to every part of society.

Men do not consider the massive extent to which domestic violence exists in our societies, nor do men want to admit that 80%-98% of violent sex crimes are by men.

The more authoritarian a culture is, the more domestic violence there is against women. Fascism in the home and fascism in the city are inseparable.

And most men who are aroused by violence against women are violent people. This includes coercive violence, i.e. obtaining consent via para-social and coercive means, like buying consent to sex from a low-income woman who is in financial and emotional distress, which is the condition of the vast majority of women in prostitution.

Healthy women don’t choose to be prostitutes. And no healthy mother or father would choose that profession for their child.

As for the idea of legalizing prostitution as an answer, consider:

In Amsterdam, the red light district has so much crime, it is cordoned off from the rest of the city. Police report that men feel emboldened to misbehave leading to so much crime it’s hard to police there, to the point where people stop being compliant and groups are hostile to the police. Drug use is rampant. Trafficking is rampant among the brothels. And most women report being assaulted while on the job.

See for example this experiment that happened with legalizing it in Leeds, UK:

https://nypost.com/2021/07/03/uks-legal-red-light-district-closed-after-years-of-problems-in-leeds/

I have spoken with people in Europe about it, where it is legalized (Germany too). Reasonable people admit it’s a massive problem, and most girls are low income and/or trafficked.

Brothels are crime skyrockets, including crime against women and children not in the sex trade (street harassment of women increases, including of little girls).

Those who are delusional will literally tell me that prostitution prevents rape (i.e. prostitutes are “rape sponges” for rapists who would otherwise rape. The point is, however, that buying a woman’s consent is also a form of coercion aka rape.

See also:

https://reduxx.info/germany-convicted-rapists-are-being-offered-access-to-brothels-as-rehabilitation-therapy-2/

and:

https://www.nzherald.co.nz/world/appalling-truth-about-amsterdams-red-light-district/A4RMWQUM5RWIAY6RNDHKRWJAQ4/

and:

https://mynews4.com/news/local/former-sex-workers-sue-nevada-to-stop-sex-trafficking#:~:text=Reno%2C%20Nev.,advocacy%20group%2C%20suing%20the%20state.

and:

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2016-10-12/former-sex-workers-claim-harassment-by-pro-prostitution-groups/7924850

and:

https://nordicmodelnow.org/2018/09/08/survivors-speak-out-about-what-prostitution-is-really-l

This last link is a website that is pro Nordic model, where prostitutes are decriminalized, but Johns are criminalized, but it’s worth a read. I support the Nordic model as the best and worst option to both protect prostitutes and prevent the buying of consent from being normalized in society.

If porn and prostitution were taboo in society, it would be treated like pedophilia or piracy. But it’s not. Instead, we have a tacit agreement throughout history and cultures.

Even in cases where it’s taboo, it’s still never shut down, and it’s still considered widely acceptable among every class of men, whether a farmer, sailor, soldier, or lord.

Most importantly, it is nearly always allowed for certain classes, and certain cases, like during wartime, or in certain closed off areas. India, Russia, Europe, China.

In rare places where it has been banned from the top-down, it’s still normalized among males, such that place names have been found worldwide indicating there was a brothel here, a red light district or a famous whore.

Buying a woman (as the personal property of a man for sex or procreation) has been ubiquitous until recently, whether you buy her for an hour or for a lifetime.

People who know history know this, even if you do not.

 

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  • What do people think about political candidate Joshua Barcenago running for senate in California ? He has been promising to bring the dead back to life by taking out almost dead brains and freezing them, then later putting the brains back in bots or other bodies. In his spare time he actually runs elite sex masquerades with orgies. It’s slam dunk in your face shit. No one questions anything about it. Things are going about to get loco.
    We called out the Epstein pricks of society, but rather than change the systems behind the powers that be, they are just changing the way we look at everything, so they can continue to do exactly what they’ve been doing and get us to co-sign the depravity. If you can’t beat ‘em, join em? That kinda thing.
    People do not see what is happening. America is one huge cult .

  • Well said Ruth! #equalitymodel formerly known as the #nordicmodel hold buyers, exploiters and pimps accountable while offering support, treatment and services to exploited women AND men.

    • Yep, that’s the simplest and best solution it seems. What’s amazing to me though is how hard people will defend brothels, pimps and the men who want to buy the consent of women. Seems like a lot of people have fantasies that someday they too will have enough money to purchase the sexual consent of another human being. I do believe a lot of people genuinely like this idea of rape/enslavement. I don’t think fascism would exist at all if this were not true.

      Some people also have a fantasy of sexual prowess I think, where they are envious of what a prostitute is (in their heads) and fantasize about getting paid for sex with someone they are attracted to and enjoy having sex with. (Aka not real sexual labor in a real sexual labor market, but a fantasy of enthusiastic consent where you’re also rewarded for it.) They saw the movie Pretty Woman and think its real, basically. They think every John is a mature, clean, sexually skilled, handsome and kind rich man who will get you wet before and cuddle you after. Or save you from your life.

      Someone in the comments here was saying as much – that they were envious of college girls who got money from prostitution. Without any clue exactly what those girls actually went through. Sexual trauma isn’t something people just “share” with everyone. And for many it takes years to process what happened. And you may never think of sex again the same way. Especially when your consent is coerced so you are “just agreeing”; while you feel nothing, and/or smells bad, or the man is old enough to be your father, or young and inexperienced so he hurts you, or says something gross to you that freaks you out, or puts his hand on your throat …so you do anything in order to finish the deal, get out with the money, and be safe (not make a strange man angry.) All the while you’re supposed to pretend you enjoy it.

      Nobody wants the fantasy broken, apparently. The fantasy is more important than the lives and welfare of human beings.

  • Love your sources…

    “and:

    https://www.nzherald.co.nz/world/appalling-truth-about-amsterdams-red-light-district/A4RMWQUM5RWIAY6RNDHKRWJAQ4/

    Transphobic ‘hit pieces’ were primarily written by Sanchez Manning, but also included freelance anti-trans activist journalist Joani Walsh, who also wrote exclusively transphobic articles for The Times and Telegraph, while instigating many of events she was reporting on.

    https://medium.com/@mimmymum/transphobia-how-the-trans-hostile-media-coverage-began-in-the-uk-429dc76bf0ac

  • The Nityananda Institute..a chugga chugga choo chooo…The Movement Center…a chugga chugga chugga choo chooo….the church of Divine Dirty Bullshit….a chugga chugga choo chooo. Good TRAIN WRECK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    And, give ya one guess as to who the conductor is? You guessed right!
    It’s Swami Chetanananda!
    The spiritual Guru whom is serving humanity in the deepest possible ways.
    Belly roll…guffaw…knee slap.

  • If the prostitute consented, then it was not rape.

    Porn transforms a human being into an object of gratification. This makes porn very dangerous, and it can very well lead to abuse and violence.

    • If you consented to suck 12 dicks a day in order to pay your rent, where otherwise you would not ever do that, would you say you were fully consenting?

      If your wife demanded sex from you because she was the breadwinner who paid for your food and housing, would you say this was a healthy relationship? If not, how is it fully consent when it’s got the label “prostitute” on it?

      If it is the same as any other form of labor, fully consensual and moral, why is deemed sexual harassment if the bank boss asks the teller to also include handjobs as part of her job description, along with a year end bonus or promotion?

      Is sex really just like any other action that can be termed labor? Is it as neutral to the body and mind, like flipping burgers, being a plumber, or accounting?

      Does it do the body good to reduce your pleasure and instead turn the act of sex itself into a chore for others benefit, not your own? Is it good for your mental health?

      If it is the same as any other form of labor, why are the rates of PTSD, drug use and suicide for ex-prostitutes as high as those of veterans?

      If it is the same as any other form of labor, then shouldn’t we train children to do it, and let children pretend to be prostitutes for career day or Halloween?

      Is sexual assault just like any other assault? Is being beaten the same as being raped?

      • What constitutes prostitution? Just sex – or….oral….lap dances to completion…..tantric massages / hand jobs….

      • Your logic is wrong because it gives no weight to context. Context matters.

        For example, if giving a (non sexual) massage is a legit and moral job, why is it considered sexual harassment if your boss at the bank asks you to massage his shoulders? Or for him to massage yours? It’s not okay for the boss to ask that; therefore, massage is an immoral profession. ??? Wrong.

        • No logic was intended. Just someone ranting and demanding that you agree. This is a tantrum, nothing more.

          If you are anyone who know was raped, get help NOW.

        • Not a good analogy. It wouldn’t be considered sexual harassment pro se, it would have to be proven to also have intent beyond the scope of just a massage. For example if the bank boss asked every single teller, male and female, for a non sexual massage, where is the intent? If he asked only the women for example, btw, you could end up with a sexual discrimination lawsuit as well as a harassment lawsuit. However if he asked all the women including old women, you might only get it proven there was sexual discrimination. A better analogy would be asking every woman (but no men) for a private dinner after work. However, again non-sexual behavior has a higher burden to prove intent.

          • It’s a perfectly good analogy. If my boss asked me to massage his shoulders, and it made me uncomfortable and I reported him to HR, he’d for sure be at risk at losing his job. But that doesn’t mean that massage is bad or immoral.

          • To Anonmyous: your point does not stand At risk how? It’s just a massage. It’s not even sexual.

      • Putin? He doesn’t need porn. He gets all kinds of things delivered to him personally after he stole trillions from the Russian people. Little boys apparently is what he likes. Alexander Litvinenko was making this allegation right before he was poisoned to death by the FSB, did you know?

  • Ruth Graham makes some good points about societal and systemic sexist behavior and ideas. But, I thought all of this was about the Swami and his community? YES! He is a sexually abusive guy. We get that. But isn’t the whole point of all of this is that people who engage in this behavior are sick people, number 1, and number 2, they do it because they can. Is there more that needs to be said about it?

  • “Most importantly, it is nearly always allowed for certain classes, and certain cases, like during wartime, or in certain closed off areas. India, Russia, Europe, China.”

    Communist leaders claimed that there was no prostitution in communist countries because prostitution is driven by capitalism. Perhaps the solution to your concern is communism. Women wouldn’t need to sell their bodies if the communist economy provided for them.

    • Communism is severely authoritarian and fascist as well. Stalin’s rule (or Maos, or Pol Pots) hit nearly all of the 14 points of Umberto Eccos 14 signs of fascism except for 1 (cult of tradition) and 2 (rejection of modernism.)

      Communism treats women as public property. Or more correctly the labor of their wombs. Depending on which sub-ethnicity is on the list for communist purging, women will be mass sterilized (Tibet, Ukraine) or forced into abortions.

      Depending on the economic policy women will be denied abortions as well.

      I have heard from some Eastern Europeans as well that many women during Stalin’s time were ordered to “serve” the Komsomol (youth party leaders) or the Politburo. Aka ordered to be their concubines. This also occurred on a mass scale during WW2, that is, women were expected to serve the party in any way ordered and the army was the party and thus any soldier or leader of his company could order a woman to ‘patriotically serve’. The option to say no would equal death. Especially if you were a registered sub-group beneath the Muscovite elite. Like Ukrainians for example.

      One of the dark aspects of communism that nobody talks about is how many women were imprisoned or institutionalized for denying party demands and raped while there. Then when they gave birth, their children were taken from them. Ofc this is happens all over the world, but in communism since the scope of crimes against the party are so large to even include thought crimes; you’re put in jail for something like hiding wheat in your jacket while you’re starving, refusing to be relocated to the far east, or daring to want to protect your own culture’s ethnicity by writing poetry in your native language.

  • Ruth watched a few documentaries and hangs out on Reddit and now thinks she can tell everyone how the world works. Get a grip. I mean, it’s OK if she wants to express her ill-informed opinions in the comments along with everyone else, but it definitely does not merit a post, imo, if a post is meant to imply credibility. She has no credentials, not even personal experience, and she is unintentionally spreading misinformation because of her lack of authoritative sources and her shallow understanding of relevant concepts.

    “In Amsterdam, the red light district has so much crime, it is cordoned off from the rest of the city.”

    I’ve been to Amsterdam, and the red light district is popular among all tourists (the majority who have no interest in buying sex) because of its novelty. As I recall, it is in a fairly central area that you can easily walk to from other major tourist attractions. I strolled through there out of curiosity and it felt totally safe and even touristy.

    • I’ve been to Amsterdam and the red light district too. I’m going to guess you’re a man and therefore did not experience any street harassment. I did. I was also there pretty late at night. It’s a totally different scene then during the day.

      If you’re the one who wrote the long comment that I would characterize as a “firehose of falsehoods” I’ve also been to Brazil. I was there when Bolsonaro got elected, and it was horrible. Lula is also terrible though. Even leftist Brazilians compare Lula to vomit. So they say picking him over Bolsonaro was like picking vomit over feces. I’ve even heard Venezuelans characterize it this way. Seems most of South America is aware of how terrible both Lula and Bozo is.

      You should probably read more about what Lula went to jail for.

      https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Car_Wash

      And maybe most obviously as an indicator of quality of character, Lula is just as pro-Putin and pro-Russia as Bolsonaro. Even to this day he peddles debunked victim blaming narratives about Ukraine as well as pretends that Putin is a person you could ever negotiate with in a trustworthy manner.

      If you’re not the “Rock around the Block” person, I apologize for the confusion.

      • Im not Rock Around the Block, but I’m a woman who has done professional runway and other modeling, so I can safely say I am considered objectively attractive, and I walked through there when I was in my 20s and I was not harassed at all in the red light district in Amsterdam. I was harassed in other places throughout Europe and the rest of the world, but not that red light district, whatever that matters. I was also there at night when there are lots of drunks. And I was there during the day.

        Anyway, your memory is wrong, it is not cordoned off. Is it possible you don’t understand what “cordoned off“ means?

        • It’s funny when someone says I have confirmation bias when they can’t accept any criticism about prostitution and the harms it brings, because of their own personal anecdotes being an alleged runway model who visited amsterdam a few times and nothing happened. L.O.L

          To me it’s like you went to Saudi Arabia, had a great time, and can’t accept any criticism of that country either.

          Do you understand how broken your mindset is? You have no argument. And yet you’re seething mad at me for criticizing the thing you clearly love.

          Just admit you love pimps and brothels and men who use women as human flesh lights. You want to die on this hill?

          I mean sh*t, you should love Saudi Arabia too given your mindset. That’s like a whole country that treats women as chattel.

          Say it with your chest now. I dare you. You’re a brave woman. A quality woman. Say I love men buying consent from women for sex.

          You clearly love it, right?

          Say “I love harems, and pimps and sex trafficking. I love women facing the threat of STD, pregnancy, beatings and death, with diminished pleasure so men can ejaculate.” Say it. “Say I love prostitution as a social institution and billion dollar industry!” Say “I love normalizing that every woman has a price for her consent!” Do it!

  • This is another stellar piece by Ruth. Sound thinking. Want to cut off supply punish the real drivers of prostitution. Men create prostitution. Even gay prostitution.

    Arrest the John’s and let the women go free. They are victims.

  • FFS, (yawn)…not more of this misandrist nonsense.

    “Brazil is full of idiotic machismo, rampant femicide, homophobia and fascism.”

    Do you actually watch/read/get the news, Ruth? They’ve just elected a properly socialist president who’s hopefully going to try to save the Amazon rainforest from his predecessor, who no doubt you secretly fancied. Machismo is a Latin thing, always was. Rampant femicide sure, rampant homicide in general. I’ll wager there’s as much homophobia and fascism in swathes of the US, not to mention Europe.

    “People think Brazil is a “hot, sexy, free” place because of the marketing of hot Brazilian women.”

    No, I don’t know anyone who thinks that – maybe 15 years ago before the economy crashed, and even then it was full of favelas and rampant poverty. “Unsafe and unhappy for women”? Try extending that out a little – men, children, household pets, clumps of rainforest, species on the brink of extinction….

    “In the US, Utah has the highest porn consumption. And it’s an extremely conservative place. The more conservative you are, the more extreme gender roles are. The more extreme gender roles, the more the subjugation and exploitation of women. The more women subjugation and exploitation, the more violence against women.”

    That’s what you fail to understand, Ruth: the more the law tries to clamp down on these things, the more people want them; it’s the forbidden apple that tastes the sweetest. BTW what stats do you have for the comparative subjugation and exploitation of women in Utah compared to the rest of the US? What evidence do you have that this leads to the sexualization of violence against women?

    “Men do not consider the massive extent to which domestic violence exists in our societies, nor do men want to admit that 80%-98% of violent sex crimes are by men.”

    Remember Lorena Bobbit? I know, extreme example, but here’s the point – far fewer men as a percentage report incidents of domestic abuse than women. That’s just a fact. Domestic abuse legislation introduced throughout the world has undermined a man’s legal standing in the home to the extent that armies of men have been thrown out of their family homes for crimes as ‘serious’ as getting the wrong shopping on a regular basis.
    BTW it’s called ‘gaslighting’ and ‘coercive control’, those BS terms ringing out of social media like a harpy’s screech. In many European jurisdictions ‘coercive control’ has become a criminal felony, even though the lawmakers haven’t even been able to define it in law, quite simply cos it means different things to different folks.

    Everyone should be equal before the law, including men and women.

    “Most men do not consider that normalizing brutal, controlling behavior against women as a form of sexual satisfaction stretches from the family model (what the child learns) all the way out to every part of society.”

    How do explain the fact that just as many guys go regularly to a dominatrix? They love to lick her boots, be tied up and spanked and whipped with various chastising instruments, dressed in nappies, and given all manner of demeaning abuse and insults. Ever wonder what kind of a childhood they had? No doubt you believe they then go home and beat the shit out of their wives, assuming they’re still alive (the wives I mean).

    “Healthy women don’t choose to be prostitutes.”

    Oh really? Ever read ‘Playing the Whore’ by Melissa Gira Grant? I’d recommend it for your edification: she actually was a prostitute so she knows what she’s talking about.

    “In Amsterdam, the red light district has so much crime, it is cordoned off from the rest of the city. Police report that men feel emboldened to misbehave leading to so much crime it’s hard to police there, to the point where people stop being compliant and groups are hostile to the police. Drug use is rampant. Trafficking is rampant among the brothels. And most women report being assaulted while on the job.”

    Truly hilarious. It’s so obvious you’ve never even been there. I’ve been there quite a few times – one of my favourite cities. Cordoned off? Nonsense – it’s right in the centre of town. I never saw a single cop there day or night – there’s no cops cos there’s no crime! Drug use is rampant all over the city – in every ‘coffee shop’; they call them that, but they’re primarily for smoking decent weed. Alanzo would love it. There’s no trafficking in the brothels cos they’re properly regulated and unionized. Assaults rarely if ever take place: they have their own security and everything’s above board.

    Oh I see you’ve a link there to the NYPost, that well known bastion of liberal democracy! They’d know as much about what’s happening in the UK as the Daily Mail knows about Sarah Bromfman’s prison sentence. Nada.

    “buying a woman’s consent is also a form of coercion aka rape.”

    So says an opinionated misandrist. Love the selective citations: easy to back up your arguments using Google.

    “Most importantly, it is nearly always allowed for certain classes, and certain cases, like during wartime, or in certain closed off areas. India, Russia, Europe, China.”

    What about Utah? LMAO

    • Who is this juicy, well read and traveled author? Whatever side one leans on this topic, Rock Around The Block is a writing force to be reckoned with. Very nice.

    • I think there is so much to be said about this comment. I don’t know if Frank might make this into another article. I would call this a “firehose of falsehoods.” As an aside: Have you heard of Lewis’s Law?

      Anyway, the first sentence alone says a lot about you, Rock. That you take this serious discussion of rape, sex abuse, human trafficking etc, type “yawn” (yet write multiple angry paragraphs, lol) and then call the person who wrote it a misandrist….someone’s both angry and trying to project that they aren’t hot and bothered at the same time, I think.

      I do not think you would call me a misandrist if I was a man who wrote these same words. Similar to your use of the term “harpy’s screech” this is deliberate and directed at me because of my gender. It’s also actually very unoriginal. Perhaps I should type that I am yawning?

      Now notice, I could have easily used the term misogynist in both of my recent articles. But I haven’t. Even though that term does apply to some sadist men and predators (to deny this would be delusional), I found it 1) doesn’t add anything new and 2) detracts from my overall point that boys and men are also hoodwinked and conditioned into stances they are not aware of by deliberate commercialization of porn and a predatory, anti-woman culture. It also harms them. Which I have stated. Unironically and totally a matter of fact, I was thinking my next piece would be specifically how porn and prostitution hurts men.

      You got me so wrong. But I think we understand why. I’ll get to that in the conclusion.

      See, as justified as I was to call some men misogynists, you have to actually jump the gun and call me a misandrist multiple times for…what again? Talking about women abused in porn in prostitution? That normalizing BDSM is dangerous and unhealthy? That most women who do prostitution didn’t chose to freely or happily (are low income, or trafficked and come from abusive backgrounds?)

      So….let me get this straight. I hate men, because I don’t believe men are entitled to buy women’s bodies for sexual pleasure, I care about the sexual health of woman and men and don’t think anyone (male or female) gets to pretend violence in sex has a moral high-ground just because consent was obtained.

      That makes total sense! I never knew but now I see! According to you, what it means to be a man is buying prostitutes and getting rock hard while slapping a woman’s face and making her choke on your dick! Thank you, enlightened male for telling me what it means to be a man!

      See, I’m not even 1/15th of the way done with your ridiculous reply. Maybe you should call or email Frank too, and warn him he’s let a misandrist on his website. I’m sure he’ll appreciate you “white knighting” (lol) for him and protecting him from me and my bigotry against the true nature of masculinity.

      Let’s continue.

      So, not only have I read news about Brazil, I’ve been there. I was there when Bolsonaro got elected. And it was terrible. But Lula is also terrible. Even the left agrees. They call it “choosing between eating vomit or feces” there. Bozo is the feces. An obviously slightly worse choice. But Lula is still also terrible. Maybe you haven’t been reading the news like you claim? You didn’t know that?

      I can also attest everything you said about Brazil being not hypersexualized anymore by foreigners and Brazilians themselves is also untrue. Like I said, I’ve been there, and I’ve had multiple thirsty comments about it directed at me just for me telling non-Brazilian people I went there. “Oh are they hot there! I heard both the women and the men are hot!” “Oh did you get a Brazilian?” (cringe) “Oh I’m jealous, I heard the women there are so hot!” “Omg I bet the ass there is so good!”

      Oh and I’ve also been to Amsterdam. I had two harassing experiences there in the red light area. So. I’m pretty sure you’re a man and wouldn’t’ experience what I experienced. Very typical “I didn’t see anything therefore nothing exists” fallacy of the especially flat-brained. You didn’t even read the Post Article did you? You want to say it’s a lie? Please demonstrate it. I have hundreds more where those came from.

      Here’s the Netherlands Times:

      https://nltimes.nl/2018/07/30/amsterdam-center-devolves-lawlessness-night-ombudsman-says

      Now, onto the “homicide is bad in Brazil therefore there is no need to even address femicide.” If you were educated about criminal behavior in general, you would know that sex crimes and domestic violence are an entirely separate category of crime from other crimes and are not influenced by the same drivers. That is, poverty doesn’t have a correlation to it, rather, culture does. Are you pretending to not know that? Because you’re a genius right?

      And I will also briefly address the alt right (mens rightist, incel) canard that women might be “just as violent as partners” as men and men are just too scared to report it. Really? REALLY? Throughout history it’s women that run the majority of police and judges in the world, intimidating and dismissing male victims from reporting crimes? It’s women that have made the laws for most of human history? It’s women who were historically owners of their men when married? It’s wives who institutionalized their husbands for not being sexualy available? It’s men who have been barred from speaking in the halls of power or even attending academic institutions? It’s men who have been sterilized without their consent? It’s men who are the victims of mass rape during wartime? It’s women who are drafted into war because women are the ones who are expected to be more violent?

      You “wager” this has been a global conspiracy against men? Good thing I’m not a betting type of woman….

      I notice you wager a lot too, as a backing for your facts. Lot’s of speculation, not much substance.

      Can you give me a statistic on how many men are hospitalized by their female partner per year? How many men are killed? How many mothers murder their children by beating them to death, compared to men? How many women engage in murder-suicide of their family or simply fratricide?

      Multiple times I think in your gish gallop you throw out single examples too. Like Lorena. This is called the “spotlight fallacy” aka the fallacy of composition. You hope to take the tiny 5% (actually even less than that) of outlying cases, and throw a spotlight on it, ignoring the majority. You then jump into speculation that this whole time, globally and in history, we just haven’t seen the truth, and this tiny minority is actually the tip of the iceberg. Hello Alex Jones? How are you doing after losing that court case?

      You do the same with the statement about men who like dominatrixes, as well, except you outright lie with that one. No, the BSDM world is not 50/50 male submissive and male dominants. It’s more like 95/5 or 90/10.

      Regarding extreme conservatism making porn/prostitutions happen more because it’s forbidden fruit. Nope. Wrong. Try again. What is repressed is real emotional intimacy between men and women who love each-other and normal gender relations. (see: saudi arabia) What is repressed is any form of healthy consensual, mutually respectful sex. And what results then, is warped behavior. Both conservatism and corporate commercialization of sex do the same thing, they normalize women-as-object (lesser than man) and depersonalize people from each-other in healthy intimate relationships. Both religion and corporations don’t want you to not need them for guidance and satisfaction. And people who have fulfilling lives with healthy relationships tend to not need externalized authorities or multiple purchases to feel satisfied with themselves

      So final note regarding you believing buying consent is not rape. Coercive consent is not enthusiastic consent. I am going to guess that you, as a man, would not give other men blowjobs for money 12 times a day. But imagine if you had to because you had to feed your child, pay rent, or get your drugs. There is a reason why this is illegal to do for a landlord to a tenant, for a wife to a husband, or a boss to an employee. But somehow if you just slap the word “prostitute” on it becomes acceptable and it somehow exists removed from all the ways it is putrid and inhumane in any other situation.

      I think I dealt with 90% of what you said, but let me know if I missed something?

  • — In the US, Utah has the highest porn consumption. And it’s an extremely conservative place. The more conservative you are, the more extreme gender roles are. The more extreme gender roles, the more the subjugation and exploitation of women.

    This is so stupid. First of all, “there are lies, damned lies, and statistics.” Second of all, conservative religions, e.g., Judaism, Christianity, Islam, etc., are vehemently against porn, prostitution, and the sexual exploitation of women. This is a modern, secular disease rooted on the loosening of sexual inhibitions. Yes, religious gurus, cult leaders, despicable “religious” men, etc., have existed and exploited women over the centuries and into the present, but they are exceptions to the majority, not the rule.

  • Thanks for your enlightened contribution and sharing it here. You bring up important points for all men to consider: the subjugation of women for men’s pleasure, objectification of women leading to violence and the use of pornography as a gateway to the acceptance of violence. Finally, the use of pornography by authoritarian governments to distract the population from political change that would create true equality in society.

    Personally, I’ve had issues with pornography, sexual abuse and see how this has led to violence. I think it is time we all come out of the closet and discuss these issues.

  • Rachael Bernstein and Carol Merchasin talk about trafficking, cults, abuse, legal means to address harm and where to go for help.
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    In this highly informative and insightful conversation, Carol details some of the promising progress of the legal system here in the US and abroad with regard to prosecuting sexual abuse in spiritual communities. She and Rachel also discuss the many obstacles survivors face in the courtroom and the disappointing failures of the current justice system.

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Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist.

His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” In addition, he was credited in the Starz docuseries 'Seduced' for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premieres on May 22, 2022.

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