Women Wearing ‘Little Princess’ Outfits or Cow Udders – Sylvie Explains the Humiliation of Women in SOP – Nxivm’s Men’s Group

This is Part #4 in our series on Sylvie, the first witness in the trial of Keith Alan Raniere.  She was a Nxivm member for about 12 years – and became a DOS slave around 2016.

She brings us inside Nxivm in a unique way and in this excerpt from her testimony, shows us a little of the pressure used on Nxivm members to toe the line.

She was the first witness called at Raniere’s trial and overall she gives a good insider’s view of what it was like to be part of Nxivm.

Part #1:  Sylvie Explains What Nxivm Course Was Really Like – Rare Glimpse Into the World of Nxivm Cult

Part #2:  Sylvie Explains Her Struggle With Anorexia and How Nancy Salzman Ordered Her to Gain Weight

Part #3: Raniere Teaches Sylvie That Men Should Have Sex With Multiple Partners and Women Should Be Loyal to Only One Man

In support of the ruling of the court in the trial of Keith Raniere, Sylvie’s last name is not being used by Frank Report.

Neither are we publishing her picture.

AUSA Moira Penza is examining Sylvie. The judge is Nicholas G. Garaufis [Referred to as THE COURT]

Moira Kim Penza

Q   Was there ever another time when there was curriculum offered that you didn’t want to take?

A   Yes. At some point, I think it was in 2013, but SOP Complete One came out and, again, it was a new training that was going to be taught by Keith.

Q   So let me just stop you for one second. SOP, what does that stand for?

A   Society of Protectors.

Insignia of the Society of Protectors

Q   And how would you describe Society of Protectors?

A   It was, like, the men’s version of Jness …. -Jness was the women’s organization. Society of Protectors was the men’s organization and I think it was supposed to be men, like, being honorable or upholding their word or something like that and it was kind of like men becoming better men in some way.

Q   And so SOP Complete, what was going to be the plan of that?

A   It was to teach women what it would be like to be a man, I think.

Q   And why didn’t you want to take this?

A   Well, because it didn’t appeal to me. It sounded scary based on my little experience of what I had … in Jness One, the experience with the men giving you that direct teaching of how to be a man type thing.

I assumed it was going to be that but way more intense because it was eight days. I had heard some kind of rumors about what might be involved in it and that freaked me out.

And at the time, I was staying in Vancouver in my aunt and uncle’s house and doing some coaching in Vancouver and also running stuff out there and I was having a really good time so I just didn’t want to come back to Albany to take this training.

Q   Were there any discussion with you about why women needed to take SOP Complete?

A   Well, it had been presented, I think, in Jness specifically that women lacked character and the SOP Complete would teach us character.

Q   And were there — was there any discussion about SOP Complete and women, and women dieting?

A   I think that was one of the examples of how women lacked character, like, we’re impulsive and we can’t uphold our words. If we say we’re going to be on a diet, then we can’t uphold the diet, we just eat and, like, we’re not conscious of our actions and what we’re doing and things like that.

Q   Did you believe that that described you?

A   Well, no, partly because I had anorexia and I … was still very restrictive and controlling around food so I didn’t have — specifically with food, I definitely didn’t have an issue with making sure I didn’t eat more food than I should, let’s say, whatever that means, but also I was an athlete. I was able to be very regimented in a lot of different ways. I didn’t have any struggle with that personally.

Q   And so what happened when you didn’t … want to take it? What happened?

Pam Cafrtiz [with Allison Mack in background] put pressure on a lot of women to do the right thing – and the right thing was invariably to ruin themselves for Keith Raniere.
A   Well, Pamela [Cafrtiz] called me and told me about — I already knew about SOP Complete, but she was wanting to talk to me about why I should take it and she made a comment like, “What, do you just want to be Clare’s lackey for the rest of your life?” And that really upset me and, yes, I felt offended, but I still didn’t want to take it. So I sort of didn’t say yes to her on the phone but didn’t, you know — I just tried to kind of lay low and I hoped that nobody else would try to get me to do it, but I think I probably went back and forth with Clare a bit and I agreed that I would have an EM about my resistance to do it.

An EM, I don’t know if you’ve introduced what that is.

Q   I haven’t. Can you explain what an EM is?

A   It’s stands for exploration of meaning. And I think it’s, like, where they — I keep saying “they.” I’m sorry if I’m not being clear, but the teaching from ESP or Vanguard or whoever would say they created that, I believe it’s Vanguard, it was, the teaching was that you had these beliefs, like, two different beliefs that didn’t match up, and the EM would meld these beliefs and that would be called an integration.

Q   And in what circumstances were people directed to get EMs?

A   I felt, like, in my personal experience, it was a lot of the time, if I didn’t want to do something, that others would say it was upholding of me but if I didn’t want to do it, it was suggested that I get an EM because that would somehow, you know, help. I thought it was to make me change my mind honestly.

Q   Do EMs cost money?

A   Yeah. If you work with an EMP, you could pay, I think the cheapest was $80 and the most expensive could be $250 or $300.

Q   What’s an EMP?

A   That’s someone who becomes a professional EM person, an EM’er, or I don’t know what you call it.

Q   So, did you end up having EMs about this?

A   I think I had an EM. From what I remember, I had an EM with Dani Padilla.

Q   Who is Dani Padilla?

Allison Mack and Daniella Padilla. Padilla was an EMP as well as a sex slave and a fervent member of Raniere’s wolf pack.

A   She was a Mexican lady that lived in the community and she was an EMP and a proctor.

Q   And after the EM, what happened? Did you have any further conversations with people in the community?

Clare Bronfman, who inherited her wealth and wound up being convicted of comparatively petty financial crimes, advised Sylvie that she would never amount to anything in life if she did not take more classes.

A   Well, I still wasn’t agreeing to do it and then I got a call from Clare, I think, at the end of the first day of SOP Complete. So I believe it had already started. And I remember just, again, like, crying on the phone because I felt very bullied by her and I felt — I think she said things, like, “You’re never really going to amount to anything.” She was going very hard on me about taking this training and I was — yeah, I just remember crying a lot and I think after that conversation, I still didn’t say I would definitely do it. I think I told her I would look into changing my flights but I hadn’t committed that I was going to be there but I ended up calling someone else.

Q   Who was that person?

A   Nicki, Nicki Clyne. I called her and, just to console me somehow because I was upset and I thought that she would understand and yet, she seemed pretty understanding but she didn’t really have anything to say to me, I don’t think. She was doing SOP Complete herself so she was already in it but, yeah.

Q   How much did SOP Complete cost?

A   I don’t know because I think maybe Clare was going to pay for it again but I would say it was probably 5 or more grand, it might have been 8 grand, I’m not really — 8,000 or 5,000. I’m not 100 percent sure.

Q   And did you end up taking the training?

A   Not then. I changed my flights and I did come back but I didn’t take the training. I took it later in the second time it was offered again.

Q   Can you describe what the SOP Complete training was like?

A   Yeah. It was very, I would use the word “regimented.” I found it extremely stressful and scary. The whole way through, it’s basically, yes, it’s kind of, like, that section that I described from Jness but intensified a lot, and then there were different things thrown in that seemed, like, exercises in humiliation, of humiliating the women so that they can see where, like, sort of what they were doing wrong, let’s say.

Q   Were there any videos shown during that?

A   Yes — well, see there were different things that happened. There were videos, I think, too. That was just all part of the different humiliation exercises. Like, for instance, in the beginning, there was a girl in the training that got dressed up as a princess and she had to carry a princess wand because they said she was too princess-y. So she had Disney-like clothing put on her so that, to show that she was trying to be too flashy and be too much of a princess. And then at some point, they also did, like, a prize-giving ceremony where they pretended the women were, like, cows in a county fair because, apparently, they had their boobs on show too much. So they were given like rosettes and prizes.

It was prizes for their utter-type things as cows.


Nice teachings that Keith Raniere offered men and women. His SOP teachings were meant to make women fit for being his slaves and since many of the men were married, his teachings that they should go out and abandon monogamy was probably pretty useful for breaking up marriages, thus making the men more dependent on Nxivm and the women, in some instances, free for his taking.

But the cow udder concept is a bit of a reach, especially since Raniere himself was known to have some fairly decent man-boob udders himself.

Now. in keeping with the provisions of Fair Publishing Standards. the following warning is required before I will show

readers Keith’s udders:



This hair raising picture of Keith Raniere was actually shown to the jury at his trial. No doubt it endeared him to jurors.


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3 years ago

Parlato, you are quite the ribald character…..Showing Vanguard’s woolen chest.

Well, the fact women were banging Vanguard pretty much proves they were brainwashed.

Good article by the way.

3 years ago

NXIVM is such a crazy story that even the attorney has eyes that smell like dick!

Raniere was trolling his followers
Raniere was trolling his followers
3 years ago

S.O.P. is a term of art in the sex-kink community. It stands for Swinger, Open (marriage), and Polyamorous (multiple partner relationships).

Raniere always got “the most joy” by describing himself in ways his followers wouldn’t catch on to.

3 years ago

With his narcissism, do you think he recognizes himself as the odious POS he has been exposed to be? Now that he has lots of time to think and maybe question?

3 years ago

POS is SOP spelled backwards

3 years ago

What an udderly ridiculous story.

3 years ago

Sylvie went through all of this and still got cauterized?

3 years ago
Reply to  Anonymous

No, she was not branded. The Frank Report saved her from that!

3 years ago

That’s about all she didn’t do.

3 years ago

SOP should mean Society of Putzes.

3 years ago

Or—It would be an honor, Vanguard, if you Screw My Partner.

3 years ago
Reply to  SOP

correction, Screw Our Partners

women hurting women on vanguard's behalf
women hurting women on vanguard's behalf
3 years ago

This testimony makes it clear that EMs and groupthink pressure from the flying monkey women were an effective part of the “tech” that stops women from thinking for themselves or resisting the costly training. Imagine, paying 5-8 grand to learn how to be humiliated.

As for the woman who was shamed for being to princessy…Kristin Kreuk is my first thought.

3 years ago

As I recall the court testimony, Allison Mack called India Oxenberg a “Princess” and called another woman a “brat.”

3 years ago

“Kristin Kreuk is my first thought”

Only if you are obsessed with that one member. Edmondson said SOP Complete was first developed in 2013. According to Frank and others, Kreuk resigned and broke up with Hildreth in the first half of 2013 cuz of her new TV series.

My first thought was one of the Oxenberg’s especially since Catherine’s mother is Princess Elizabeth and Allison’s derogatory nickname for India was “The Princess.” Catherine also wrote that Casper took the SOP classes.

3 years ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Could making KK do the princess walk of shame be the reason she quit?
Was India even in the cult in 2013?

3 years ago
Reply to  maybe

Yes, India was heavily involved in the cult by 2013. According to CO’s book, India jumped right in after their first five day in May 2011, and by 2013 was spending all her time in Albany taking classes, chose to celebrate her 21st birthday out there with her Espian friends rather than her family in LA, went to VWeek and earned her yellow sash that year.

Even if SOP Complete was being offered before Kruek quit the cult sometime March 2013, I don’t see where she would have had time to take an 8 day course back then. According to IMDB, she still would have been busy filming the first season of her new TV series through April or early May of 2013. Plus Frank said his former High Ranking source told him it was due to the allegations against Raniere.

3 years ago
Reply to  Anonymous

thanks for the info

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His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” Parlato was also credited in the Starz docuseries "Seduced" for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Additionally, Parlato’s coverage of the group OneTaste, starting in 2018, helped spark an FBI investigation, which led to indictments of two of its leaders in 2023.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premiered on May 22, 2022. Most recently, he consulted and appeared on Tubi's "Branded and Brainwashed: Inside NXIVM," which aired January, 2023.

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