Toni Natalie Claims She Married a Man to ‘Prevent a Mob War’!

MK10ART- Toni Natalie and her book chock full of lies.

In her book, the Program Inside the Mind of Keith Raniere and the Rise and Fall of Nxivm, Toni Natalie writes at length about her third and fourth husbands.

She names them by their actual names – and then goes on to say less than flattering things about them for reasons that are unclear. Perhaps she harbors some grudge against them and used her book to try to embarrass them.

But her first two husbands, she gives them only a single sentence.  While writing about husband # 3, Rusty DeCook, she brings up her prior two marriages:

We [Rusty and Toni] got married when I was twenty-nine. I’d walked the aisle twice before— marrying a mobster’s son at seventeen, to prevent a mob war in Rochester; and wedding a kind but troubled boyfriend at twenty, so he could gain custody of his three daughters—and I figured the third time would be the charm.

Let’s take another look at that passage – with our new-found knowledge that Toni has been known, on occasion, to tell little white ones.

She says she married, “a kind but troubled boyfriend at age twenty, so he could gain custody of his three daughters.”

How self-sacrificing. What maternal instincts. She married husband #2 so he could get custody of his daughters – and then divorced him.

Her first marriage was yet another sacrifice, by her “marrying a mobster’s son at seventeen, to prevent a mob war in Rochester.”

Toni stopped a mob war by getting married at age 17? This requires a little more explanation than she provides in her book, don’t you think?

It suggests her family, and the family of her husband were rival mobsters.

Toni describes her father in her book:

My biological father, my namesake, Tony, was a serial philanderer. He had children with five different women, which I’m sure was a small percentage of the many paramours he’d entertained. He fancied himself a gangster, and he dressed the part: fedora, spats, pinstriped suits, pomade in his hair. He left my mother when I was very young; I barely remember a time when we all lived in the same house. 

Some who knew Tony Natalie [the father] do not describe him as a well-dressed gangster but rather as a low-level conman and thief – who ran a small bookmaking operation and dressed like a slob.

No one to fear. Just a small time grifter trying to make a buck. A low level Dago in Rochester, New York.  What some in the old time mafia might call a “shit bird.”

How did his daughter’s wedding prevent a mob war?

Toni Natalie married Thomas Didio Jr, the son of mobster Thomas Didio Sr.

If Toni was 17 when she married his son – she was born August 12, 1958 – that means she got married between August 12, 1975 and August 11, 1976.

Thomas Didio Sr.

Her father-in-law, Thomas Didio, was murdered on July 6, 1978.

He was reportedly a capo and later, for a brief time, acting boss of the Rochester crime family.

According to Didio’s “attempt to take over the Rochester mob would eventually lead to a bloody Gang-war and ultimately to the destruction of the crime family.

“Didio was the at one time the bodyguard of Salvatore Gingello and later became a capo.

“When family boss Samuel Russotti and others were convicted of murder in 1977, Didio was appointed as Acting boss of the family. Didio was allegedly the man who had tipped off Russotti, Rene Piccarreto and Gingello of Frank Valenti’s skimming of the family profits which led to the ascension of Russotti as boss and the exile of Valenti.

“Russotti trusted Didio and believed he could be controlled, but Didio soon began to defy Russotti’s orders and reached out to the retired Constenze Valenti and formed an alliance with the imprisoned and deposed Rochester boss Frank Valenti and his loyalists.

“Didio formed what became known as the ‘B Team’ opposing Russotti’s ‘A Team’.

“A gang-war erupted when in 1978, Russotti was released from prison and Didio refused to relinquish control of the local mob. Several gun battles and bombings occurred during this time causing casualties on both sides. The feud culminated with the murder of Salvatore Gingello in April of 1978 and Didio’s demise in July of the same year when he was shot to death in a motel in Victor, New York, ending all hope of Valenti regaining control of the Rochester crime family.”

Based on the above, I’m not sure exactly what mob war Toni’s marriage prevented. Indeed, it seems that shortly after she married, there was a mob war and her father-in-law was murdered.

What did 17 year old Toni have to do with this mob war?

In researching this article, I examined various sites on the history of the Rochester mob and I could not find her father, Tony Natalie, or any one with the last name of Natalie anywhere. Her father, or any of her relatives, seems to have had no role in any mob.

And clearly, Toni did not prevent a mob war. There was a mob war.

I think the truth is that teenage Toni married a gangster’s son. He was a few years older than she.

She [and probably he] had nothing to do with the mob or its warring factions. They were just young people who got married.

No one in the mob knew or cared anything about Toni Natalie – or were willing to stop their war because she married Thomas Didio Jr..

Toni likely took the fact of her marriage to a gangster’s son and embellished it to one where she is a self-sacrificing heroine, marrying a man to prevent a mob war.

It’s a provable lie and, as Toni said about Keith Raniere in her book, “If he was willing to lie about something provable… how could he be trusted with anything else?”

Movie Based on Toni’s Marriage to Mobster?

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While she did not put it in her book, Toni told many of her friends that the movie, “Married to the Mob” was based on her marriage to Thomas Didio Jr..  The movie is a 1988 comedy film starring Michelle Pfeiffer [as Toni].

Pfeiffer plays Angela de Marco, the wife of mafia up-and-comer Frank “The Cucumber” de Marco (Alec Baldwin), who is murdered by Mob boss Tony “The Tiger” Russo (Dean Stockwell) when he is discovered in a compromising situation with Russo’s mistress Karen (Nancy Travis).

Angela wants to escape the mafia scene with her son.

Janet Maslin in The New York Times wrote that “Married to the Mob … [is] the story of a woman trying to re-invent her life.”

The Washington Post described the film as “all decked out in Godfather kitsch, but underneath its loud exterior, a complex heroine struggles for freedom.”

Was the movie really based on Toni Natalie and her redemption as a mafia wife?

Or is Toni’s story of her life a copycat version of the movie?


Book Is Enjoying Poor Sales

Toni’s book has been ranking in the past few weeks at between 101,000 and 41,000 among Amazon books. As of press time, her book ranked 68,432.

According to, Amazon Best Seller Ranks, a ranking of between 50,000 to 100,000 means her book is “selling close to 1 book a day.”

In a month that would mean almost 30 books sold by Amazon, the world’s largest bookseller. In a year almost 365 books!

Of course, she could be making sales in bookstores.  But her book does not appear to have made any best sellers’ list.

Already there are many of her used books for sale at discount prices. No one seems to be keeping this book in their library. Used hardcovers of Toni’s book are selling for around $11. New books are selling for even less – being steeply discounted in some bookstores to unload them – for as little as $10. 90.

The book was originally sold at more than $22.

Word in the publishing world is Toni Natalie’s book tanked – failed to come anywhere close to its expectations. Her whistleblower memoir is not selling. The book is a dud.

I suspect more people read stories about her on Frank Report than read her book.

Maybe its karma and maybe the bullshit she spewed in her book did not appeal to readers.  Readers of books, buyers of books are discriminating people. I suspect they bought her book and found it to be trash, worthless nonsense, not deep at all, not revealing but childish and immature.

Book sales come not from advertising and not from publicity, although those things can certainly prime the pump.  What sells books is content – how good a book is – how truthful, how nuanced – how it appeals to serious readers. And people who buy books today are serious readers.

What sells books is the buzz. People telling other people they read a good book. More perhaps than any other product, what sells a book today is readers telling other readers.

And no one evidently, maybe not one reader has told another person – go get Toni Natalie’s book, it’s a must-read.

No, it’s not. It’s garbage and it’s full of lies – like Toni married a young man and stopped a mob war. Just immature nonsense. Provable lies. And it shows.

Better luck next time, Toni.

MK10ART’s painting of Toni NataLIE. She has an honest face!


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  • One of the holdouts of buying the book and reading it.

    Appears that was a smart choice. Saved me some money and it’s a pack of lies anyway.

    Suprises me Chet Hardin would get himself hooked up with such a witch as this woman to write a book.

    Appears she could make into the Guinness world book of Records herself.

    Best con woman
    Best grifter
    Told the most lies in one book Took the longest to be pulled from shelves
    More post than Barbara Bouchey
    Most hated woman of Raniere’s
    Destroy the most family relationships
    The list goes one

  • Stop these comments about Toni they are personal and do no good to the world. Her heroism is what counts. Even her marriages were heroic.
    Husband #1 stopped mob war saving people’s lives
    Husband #2 got him his three daughters back
    husband #3. Rusty Got him a son named Michael -left her husband when he stopped loving her. And saved her son from Keith Raniere doing the most extreme sacrifice a mother can do -giving up Her son for his welfare. How much she must have suffered.
    Husband (unofficial ) Keith Raniere -she tried to make him honest and gave him 8 years of beautiful love but when he turned bad she took him down (though it cost her 20 years )
    Husband #4 Scott. Taught him everything she knows. Made him a man even though she had to be aggressive with him to teach him about fidelity.
    Now Toni has done so much for others. She freed the slaves and stopped a sex cult. And now she is alone. With no man to protect her and give her love. I don’t count married men like Chet or Ron Von. No happiness there. Toni if you need a man I am it.
    You are my queen.
    Your liege

  • What a glimmering face of calculated menace! Pretty in Pink backdrop?

    MK10ART, please consider, maybe think it over and yake a bow.

    Take a bow for how you keep bringing it out to light
    The impact your art gives over here
    as medicine, truth serum

    Here’s lookin’ at you

    • I take it you prefer MK”s art over Marie? I personally think they are both great. I think with the right lighting you can see Keith’s herpes on his balls in that judo painting.

      • Yours is the first comment I’ve read on this board suggesting some kind of competition between the frequent FR artists MK10 and the newer Marie White? It seems out of place and unnecessary. Mk10’s art illustrates this article, Shiv gives her some very deserved praise. Why would you interpret that as a mark against Marie White? I hope your not MW and a bit jealous? If your a friend or supporter of MW’s, you ain’t doing the artist any favours.

  • Summer Lovin, Having a blast
    Summer Lovin, Queef couldn’t last
    Met a Girl, A Liar like Me
    Met a Limpy, smells like Blue Cheese

    Summer Fun, the Grift has Begun
    But Oh, for those Summer Lies!

  • So, basically, The Program by Toni Baloney is a work of fiction, tall tales, legends, and make-believe.

    Okay, so where have we heard that before? Hmmm… East Coast Judo Champion, learned College Calculus in one day, tied the 100-yard dash record, concert-level pianist, World’s Top Three Problem Solvers, Sets off Radar Detectors when he drives, Can Walk through the Rain without getting Wet, Walks 20 miles a Day…

    Coincidence??? More Tales of Toni Baloney and the Karate Queef!

  • “Toni Natalie Claims _______________.” (fill in sensationalist melodramatic hyperbole here)

    She’s a fabulist fraudster with a stupid on steroids sham to sell. She was, in fact, the first faux feminist fool on the Vanguard bus – and the first to get thrown under the bus when the wealthier, younger, smoother, sexier, skinnier suckers jumped on board.

    That we’re still talking about her means her BS sympathy/publicity scam is still working to some extent.

    Her 15 minutes of fame is more than spent.

  • So Toni was married at 17 while in high school?

    Or as Toni maintains she was a “beauty school dropout”?

    Oddly enough, Toni’s high school drop-out story mirrors the movie Grease.

    Here is a clip of Toni’s exact story in a scene from the movie Grease;
    “Beauty School Dropout” performed by Frankie Avalon…

    I will have to ask Shadowstate but if I remember correctly, Frankie Avalon won a Tony-Award. 😉

  • #IbelieveToni
    Toni did marry a monster’s son. Then stopped a mob war. She married a poor troubled kid and helped him get three daughters back. She married Rusty and gave him his son. She was with the one real bad guy Keith for eight years and she took him down though it took her 20 years. She married Scott who Keith got him to betray her. But she helped Scott grow up and be a man. Even if she had to teach him the hard way.
    In between she helped out many different men along the way. She is a teacher and natural born healer.

    Toni after all the sacrificing you have done for men isn’t it time for you to have a man who will care for and pamper you ?

  • What happened to her first husband, the mob bosses son? Since she remarried at 20, her first marriage was very short, so she wasn’t “married to the mob” for very long.

  • MK, I don’t know how you do it with the water colors but that painting of Toni is spot on. Great job.

    • Actually, the MK depictions of Tellme Nuthalie are kinder to TN than the actual photos of TN seen here on the Frank.

  • Natalie likes the movie because she fancies herself as pretty as Pfeiffer, and probably as talented as well.

    I’m sure the movie writers can confirm what the movie was based on, and we have some minor celebrities who were involved with NXIVM who should be able and willing to help out. One thing Natalie’s life has in common with the movie is the movie is a comedy and Natalie is a joke (just not the funny kind).

  • like words fly off the page when she reads them…
    lies fly out of her mouth when she opens it….
    toni natalie is nothing more than a con artist trying to keep making a buck off the fact that she knew keith raniere
    she has played both sides of the tracks with raniere.
    when it was a good thing to saddle up to boy wonder, she did.
    when it was good to be his victim, she played that part too
    natalie has burned every bridge of friendship she had in the cbi/nxivm community just to make a few bucks off a book that is mostly full of lies
    hope it was worth it for her
    just like raniere, her past caught up with her

About the Author

Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist.

His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” Parlato was also credited in the Starz docuseries "Seduced" for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Additionally, Parlato’s coverage of the group OneTaste, starting in 2018, helped spark an FBI investigation, which led to indictments of two of its leaders in 2023.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premiered on May 22, 2022. Most recently, he consulted and appeared on Tubi's "Branded and Brainwashed: Inside NXIVM," which aired January, 2023.

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