Heidi: Was Keith Raniere Abused By His Mother?

Editor’s note: In a subsequent post, FR will examine Heidi’s recollections of Keith Raniere and her sister, Gina. We will also examine her claims about Kristin Keeffe. 
 
This story, written by Heidi, details her recollections of a young Keith Raniere and what he said about his mother.
Keith’s mother, Vera Oschypko Raniere, was born January 19, 1931 in Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania.
 
According to records, Vera died December 13, 1978, aged 47, in Irvington, Essex County, New Jersey.  Keith was 18. 

Brooklyn, New York. He died on April 10, 2020 – almost a year after his son was convicted for a spate of crimes in Brooklyn.  He was 87.

James was an advertising salesman.

There are those who wonder if Raniere will complete his 120 year prison sentence. He has but 98 years to go.  Consider his paternal grandmother, Marion Raniere, lived to be 106. She was born Jan 8, 1911 in Brooklyn and died on August 7, 2017 – in Brooklyn.

Keith Raniere’s dad with his mother Marion.

By Heidi Hutchinson

Was Keith Raniere abused as a child by his mother, Vera?

She was a ballroom dance instructor of 1st generation Eastern European descent. She reared Raniere alone in a large suburban home in the heavily Yiddish-populated town of Suffern, New York.

Keith Raniere’s childhood house. Photo courtesy Mark Jackson


Vera and her only child, Keith Alan Raniere.

I had a few conversations with Raniere about his relationship with his parents, especially his mother, in the ’80s.

Raniere often told tales about his mother to elicit sympathy. That worked well on our overly kindhearted mother, who never turned away anyone or anything in need.

Our mom acted as a surrogate for all the strays Gina, who had the exact sympathetic, kindly nature brought home. Raniere appeared to be one of them. He was a lost, wounded, misfit soul who’d lost his mom far too young in life.

Raniere portrayed his mother as an abusive drunk.

Even though I heard the same story from Keith, I always sensed Keith was lying about or exaggerating this woeful tale.

By the strictest definition, Keith never claimed any abuse was inflicted on him due to Vera’s alcoholism or pill popping.

I don’t recall each word of these 20-something-year-old conversations. Still, some clear, stand-out memories and impressions of incongruities led me to further probe Keith about his childhood.
Keith’s responses always led me to the same conclusion — Keith was lying and concealing something very dark about his mother’s untimely passing.

For example:

Keith liked to be photographed and followed around with a video camera to capture his every genius thought. He often put others to that arduous task.

Gina, my sister — a leading, early acolyte and unfortunate Vanguard victim — often obliged Keith by video recording him.

I found this strange, immature, and dull behavior — especially when it came to watching the playbacks to help analyze Keith’s delivery as much as learn from his sales master.

I remember asking Keith if this was something his Mom or Dad often did with him. Did they follow him around with a camera? Was he trying to recreate this need to feel cherished and adored as he (ostensibly) was as a child?

I didn’t realize then the contradiction in the thought that an abused, neglected child with a stumbling drunk parent looking after him isn’t cherished, adored, and photographed.

What I recall most about Keith is that — apart from his arrogance and know-it-all attitude was an infantile need to be the absolute center of attention.

Wherever he stood, he’d command a spotlight somehow.
He would want a camera on himself or a worshipful audience absorbed in his pontifications.

There were many props he’d have around to amaze and grab attention, like the Rubik’s cube he carried everywhere.

Keith was a closet exhibitionist.

In any case, Keith never claimed physical or sexual abuse, per se. He did hint at such, but as Keith preached it to his early CBI sales trainees (I was one of those briefly), part of the NLP shtick is to empathize with one’s target prey.

Ergo, the NLP salesman (or therapist, what have you) might drop a nod, tap a wrist, or verbally empathize by mirroring or claiming his own mother forced him to dance [closely] with her when hearing of someone’s past abuse scenario.

And, didn’t Raniere always love hearing those little tidbits he could exaggerate on and stock away for “collateral”?

James Raniere

I surmise Keith did not go any further than making an implication of abuse about Vera — when James Raniere, Keith’s dad, was still alive.

James died while Keith was at MDC.

Decades past, James was talking (too much for Keith’s comfort) to the “girlfriends” or “fiancés”
Keith brought home from Albany to tour the Big Apple. Daddy Raniere also visited Keith in Albany back then.

However, the lawsuit Keith brought against James Raniere didn’t shut Keith’s old Madison Avenue Madman up about Keith’s quirks.

James told a few tales from school that suggested Keith had a gift for scamming girls by flattering and promising each his undying love —pitting them in competition for his attention — to the extent it caused a huge hassle in the neighborhood Keith grew up in.

James also said Vera was an excellent mother to Keith, although she may have had more than she should have to drink on occasion.

James also said Vera was slowly “dying” of an incurable disease while rearing Keith. She spent a lot of time homebound in bed in the end.

I recall Keith complaining about caring for Vera in her final days. This would likely cause a lot of ‘survivor’ guilt if they were burdened with that responsibility and unable to save their mother.

Looking back on these discussions about Vera, I had with Keith — in sympathy mostly then, as it hadn’t been long since Vera passed away.

Keith brought it up so often that I feel he was using his endless sorrow to pull as hard on our family’s purse strings as he was on our heartstrings.

I remember noticing Keith didn’t always appear as affected by his own tragic story in the retelling of it in front of some others who were less responsive to it than our bleeding heart mother — known as St. Rose from Cohoes. She wept with Keith and never failed to fork out something to help — a homemade meal or at least enough money for pizza at Cosentino’s, etc.

There’s a Hindu adage:

“Never trust a woman who laughs too much or a man who cries too much.”

Suppose Keith’s “mother-on-her-deathbed” tale is accurate. Why wasn’t James or another relative around to assist the boy with his dying mother’s medical supervision?

Keith continued using this sympathy ploy — that he was his “mother’s sole caregiver” on her deathbed for years as a teenager.

Vera finally passed when Keith was 18.

I’m not sure I believe the sole caregiver bit. How was Vera’s care left solely up to her teenage son?

No other provisions were made for her to be hospitalized or receive hospice care?

Did Keith watch Vera twist in painful torment to her last breath? If so, when did Keith ever describe any gory details on that? Not to me, he didn’t.

Just the “facts” to which Keith sometimes appeared overly, but more often not at all — strictly depending on his audience’s reaction — affected.

Was teenage Keith expected to use his omnipotent powers over life and death itself?

Barbara Jeske and Pamela Cafritz

Providing his own version of Jr. hospice care for Vera himself — as he did later in life for Pam Cafritz and Barbara Jeske — two longtime members in Keith’s inner-circle harem who died of cancer, who relied on Keith’s alleged powers to remedy any ailment.

And possibly, cryogenically, bring them and their ovaries back from the dead.

And, what didn’t anyone get about Keith losing his first patient, in that case, his mom?

Not that Toni Natalie didn’t beat everyone out as “patient zero.”

If no one ever noticed before, Keith definitely has a God-complex, a belief that he can control life or death and the fates of his subjects here and in the hereafter.

How that complex sits with a bed-bound, dying mother on the young god who couldn’t save her all alone could be the topic of a long, Freudian Ph.D. thesis.

Let alone if this child was sexually abused by her.

However, I doubt there was actual child abuse.

I’m open to any detractors on this topic who can present a hard fact that Vera Raniere, Keith’s mother, was abusive to him, apart from — excuuuuuse her — dying on him.

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  • Kim-

    You say you’re a Christian with Christian values…..

    What values do you have when you attack a woman that’s mentally ill?

    You are as much a sinner and a wretch as the rest of us….

    Maybe more so because we’re not nearly as big of hypocrites as you are.

  • Frank
    To answer anonymous’ question- Heidi told mom & me – KR was NOT abused at home. He was NOT ever abused and this is Heidi’s crazy brain 🧠 to get attention. Heidi wants to be very badly believed- but is LYING now. Gina was NOT ever in NXIVM – nor did she know my sister, Kris, nor did KR kill her sister, Gina. This is Heidi’s dillusional mind set and she needs therapy.

  • Frank
    Sorry Heidi – YOU told mom & me that YOU NEVER took Raniere around your mom to have conversations – because YOU knew she would be angry about the “sex” through the window with Gina. Why didn’t YOU lock the window and go to law enforcement?

    Why haven’t you still?

    NXIVM is NOT stalking YOU – and rocks are NOT being drawn on & left – NO ONE is breaking into your house, bank accounts, etc. These are ALL of your made-up delusions.

    YOU told us that Gina knew Kris very well and that she was in NXIVM. NOT true either. We have documents to squash those allegations. Kris and Gina did NOT know each other, and YOU NEVER knew my sister, either. Why did YOU come to Dillon? That is crazy 😜-!!!!!!!
    YOU also told mom & me, Keith was ONLY attracted to Gina for ALL of those years – and NO ONE else. That is a LIE too.

    YOU need help -!!!!!

    Stop with your blogging and making up tales- enough is enough -!!!!!!!!!

  • Hmm. Interesting perspective.

    I can see the connection you’re making. Unloved child craves attention. Acts in ways that insure he receives it.

    But let’s get real. Keith Raniere was not exactly a child solider from Rwanda or something like that. Kid had braces, went to a private school in a safe country.

    Sorry, but my sympathy for him is only about 15%.

  • “She was a ballroom dance instructor of 1st generation Eastern European descent. She reared Raniere alone in a large suburban home in the heavily Yiddish-populated town of Suffern, New York.” Heidi Hutchinson

    Clarification:
    Yiddish is a tongue common to people of Jewish heritage.
    There is some argument whether Yiddish is a separate language or a dialect of German.
    The word Yiddish comes from the German word for Jewish which is jüdisch

    “The basic grammar and vocabulary of Yiddish, which is written in the Hebrew alphabet, is Germanic. Yiddish, however, is not a dialect of German but a complete language‚ one of a family of Western Germanic languages, that includes English, Dutch, and Afrikaans. Yiddish words often have meanings that are different from similar words in German.”
    https://www.yivo.org/yiddish

    Suffren would be a town heavily populated by Jews.
    So Raniere might be of Ukrainian Jewish heritage.

    Here is the ancestry.com listing for Raniere’s mother.
    Note she is listed as being part of an infamous family.
    I wonder why!
    Vera Oschypko found in 3 trees
    Vera Oschypko from tree Infamous Family Trees
    Record information.
    Birth xx xxx xxxx xxxxxxxHuntingdon, Pennsylvania, USA
    No publicly available family members
    602 People5 Records5 Sources
    Contact Tree Owner
    Vera Oschypko from tree Famous & Infamous
    Record information.
    Birth xx xxx1931
    Death xx xxx xxxx
    No publicly available family members
    4848 People1 Record1 Source
    Vera Oschypko from tree Raniere Family Tree
    Record information.
    Birth xxxx xxxxxxxHuntingdon, Pennsylvania, USA
    Marriage xxxx xxx xxxx xxxxxNew York, USA
    Residence xxxx xxxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxLuzerne, Pennsylvania, USA
    Death xx xxx xxxx xxxxxxxxxxEssex, New Jersey, USA
    https://www.ancestry.com/search/categories/42/?name=_oschypko

  • Keith was a beautiful child. Just think he was talking in complete sentences when his mother was holding him. Gosh

    • And his first complete sentences were. Uh.Uh.Uh. Raniere still speaks those sentences. Amazing, isn’t it!

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