Insider in the know: Bouchey – a sad story – and a misleading one

Keith Raniere and Barbara Bouchey during their heyday.

This is a guest view from an insider with a deep knowledge of what transpired behind the scenes in NXIVM.

By An Insider in the Know

The issue with Keith Raniere and his gal pals already sleeping with him is, they worked together like a pack of spotted hyenas to get his next prey for him. It was a group lie that they didn’t collude together.

Women were approached by some in the pack to test if there was a possibility to get this woman to spend time with Keith. It was cleverly set up that Keith could help them with whatever their goals were. These goals were extracted during the trainings.

Next Keith would start spending time with the woman, pretending he was single and not sleeping with anyone else. His pack affirmed this story. He’d take charge of the seduction “game,” and his hyenas would support a relationship with “The smartest man in the world.”

Keith could have never pulled off his sexual conquests without the help of his hyenas and the grand lies that took place.

Keith would pretend this new conquest was “his only true love,” but the relationship needed to remain quiet due to his status in the company.

When a woman found out “she” was not the only one, the pack of his female followers (sleeping with him, if only once a year) would be beckoned to handle the reactions of the new prey once they discovery was made about the lie.

Hence the mind-bending would commence by the “fold/inner circle” as referred to by Barbara Bouchey in her latest interview.

Some women like Karen Unterreiner, Barb Jeske and Pam Cafritz who had been with Keith for decades didn’t get the fruit of his passion very often as they were Old Hags to him. KR seems only to want younger women who are super skinny and foolish.

Some women like Barbara Bouchey continued to have a polyamory relationship with Keith even after finding out Keith was having sex with other women. Bouchey is now claiming she only knew about only three other women who were sleeping with Keith. After almost a decade, Bouchey still finds it necessary to lie to make herself and her “soul mate” look better in the eyes of the unknowing public.

Bouchey is rewriting history and what she said in the interview with Megan Kelly is not the same story she told people when she was recruiting people to leave NXIVM, or right after she left.

She told me and others she knew about many women like Ivy Nevares, Esther Chiappone, Lauren Salzman, Marianna, and Camila Fernandez, a Physical Therapist who left NXIVM, Siobhan Hotaling (when KR was helping her to be a straight woman), Allison Mack, the Bronfman sisters, and many others.

Bouchey had known about these other women for years. We also were told it was within the first six months she found out the group lie, not a year as she is now claiming.

Keith sleeping with students and everyone on the Executive Board was an issue Bouchey brought to Keith during meetings with him right before she resigned from NXIVM.

The lie Bouchey still believes is Keith was her boyfriend, and he was only sleeping with three other women once in a while. How does this lie make her situation any better? It’s sad that she cannot open her eyes to the fact that Keith was using her for her money, her ability to enroll others into NXIVM, and for sex/attention. The downside is Bouchey lied to thousands about who Keith was as a man, enrolled hundreds under this lie, and helped to keep people to stay in NXVIM.

So why not leave sooner?

It’s well known that NXIVM sent their wealthy clients to Bouchey to “manage and invest” their money. Again, the pack of spotted hyenas worked the crowd of rich students, suggesting they should consider Bouchey to be their financial planner. Doing so would be upholding the ethics that NXIVM members brought to the plate in dealing with such matters. I never bought this collective pressure to change who I used for financial advice as it appeared too incestuous.

Bouchey ran her financial planning business on a percentage basis and was making bank off these referrals. When Bouchey took on the Bronfman sisters as clients, it was like winning the NY Lotto for her bank account.

Bouchey did funnel a great deal of the referral paydirt back into NXIVM, giving to “the company store” which was Keith and his many great ideas.

One has to wonder if she bought her sexual status with her soul mate and how she lose her “seat next to him.”

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      • I agree, Scott. It was said for dramatics. If you were in fact hiring hit men to kill people, would you announce it a room of eight/nine women on the verge of leaving the cult? Makes no sense.

  • Thanks for backing me inadvertently — in a sense — with some of the “facts.”

    I feel bad for Barb. Maybe she does have some SEVERE cognitive dissonance to the point where she MUST “minimize” the reality of 12 women down to 3. Or 2 1/2 if one’s a lesbo? 🤷🏻‍♀️. There are some other minimizations but not the right place to get into it. I pray for the best for Barb considering all she’s going through.

    Seems the “girl trap” pattern’s been the same with Keith for decades. It includes the lure (or fact) of ez money, eventual financial depletion and subsequent total dependency on Keith and “the businesses” as you, as the sad facts themselves, describe. But there’s much more, I’m sure, than the money/security trap and the fantasy genius man fraud you also describe.

    Starting with Keith enjoys abusing, controlling and hurting females, especially — maybe power is the only thing close to an emotion he can feel — and is obviously, jealously incapable of close to “love” as most humans know it.

    And maybe some people recognize that as “Daddy” love – no offense, Emiliano — or the kind of unrequited love they deserve, IDK.

    Whatever. I tripped on Barb but gotta admit Barb, you knew you had it comin’.

  • How many people can love like Barbara can? I would be proud to be her boyfriend or marry her if she wanted me. But I know she could never love another like she loves Keith and every fiber of her being showed on Megan Kelly that she is still in love with Keith and Keith only. And because I am a man I would not be willing to be with a woman who secretly loves another unattainable man and accepts me as second fiddle. Jim Del Negro did that with Esther Chiappone but I am not made that way. Still I knew Barbara and I wanted her but she loves another. I don’t think much of Keith but on the other hand he must be at least somewhat ok since a beautiful woman lives for him and loves him even after he left her 9 years ago.

  • I hope for Barbara Bouchey’s sake that she chooses to wake all of the way up. She could still have some life to live instead of pining away from someone who was only interested in her until he used up all her $.

  • Barbara loved him and still does deeply madly. She will always live him. She’s haunted by the question: Did he ever really love her? That’s hard to say. But if she loved him and loved him intensely eternally her heart will be pure. He may be a bad man or a good man. But Barbara was intensely good for she loved. And it does not matter who you love or how you love but that you love. When Barbara Bouchey loves she loves forever.

  • The writer of this article has given an accurate account of Barbara and her relationship with Keith and the money she earned from her enrolling students and being fed clients for her financial planner business.
    Barbara left when she asked for her money to be returned and Keith told her the $1.2million was a gift.
    That is when she had a problem with the harem she had joined 9 years earlier.
    She wasn’t his special lover. Keith has no clue how to love anyone nor does he care. People are tools to be used and discarded when they run dry either out of money or literally dry as in aged out sexually.
    Barbara was the joke of Nxium. They were laughing at “Ya” and she didn’t see since she was blindly in love with the sex and money, two very intoxicating ingredients!

  • So Allison Mack was fucking Keith Raniere before Barbara Bouchey left NXIVM? So what about Kristin Kreuk?

    Also, Kristin Kreuk and Allison Mack were rich students of Raniere. Did either of them go to Barbara Bouchey for financial advice?

    • Frank doesn’t know when Allison Mack started having sex with Raniere. In various posts he has written 2010, 2012, and 2015.

About the Author

Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist.

His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” In addition, he was credited in the Starz docuseries 'Seduced' for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premieres on May 22, 2022.

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