I noted in a previous post that Barbara delivered a statement of more than 2,000 words in what was supposed to be a 10-minute time allotment. I assumed she spoke fast and perhaps she did a little. But it turns out she was the only victim to be allowed to go over the 10-minute time limit. Her statement apparently lasted 14 minutes.
Though four minutes may not seem like much, the judge was strict about time. He had a 10-minute timer and he apparently enforced it with the others. Perhaps the judge was fascinated with what Barbara had to say, especially when she addressed Clare directly.
Barbara began her statement by greeting her longtime persecutor, by saying, “Hi, Clare.”
At one point the judge asked her to “Slow down a little. I want to absorb your words.”
BOUCHEY: I’m just nervous.
THE COURT: Take a deep breath and slow down.
She talked about how she had “been smeared by Keith Raniere” and “then [he] guilted me and shamed me … then I had to suffer being trying to be arrested for extortion.” And that they “launched a thousand court filings…. [addressing Clare] You launched a year-long investigation by my financial planning board, accused me of twenty-nine salacious lies … I’ve been dragged into 14 lawsuits that lasted eight years, in front of eight judges, in four states. My legal fees have been $700,000…
“And I have been ridiculed and shunned… I lost two-thirds of my clients, millions in revenues, and my reputation was totally destroyed… And I was innocent. And I was the one that was being accused of having done wrongs to you and to Nxivm.
“And all I did was decide to break-up with Keith Raniere, get punished, then leave and try to tell people, and just tell the truth. And this is what I have endured…
“You had me arrested wrongfully. You had my passport removed for an entire year. I was handcuffed on Christmas Eve and arraigned… And the Times Union ran a Sunday front-page news that I was a criminal…
“When your lawsuits against me that were $50,000 a month, I filed Chapter 11… that was Sunday front-page news, news… 11 years that you have funded lawsuits against me.”
Then she turned to Clare and said, referring to Keith Raniere “he used you; he conned you; he manipulated you; he made you feel special just like he did to me, just like he did to Kristin. It’s the same playbook he used, just words, just played on you.
“You just haven’t had that defining moment that I did yet. That’s all. But I know you’re a good person. As your financial advisor for a brief time, I saw the goodness in your heart.
“I know you wanted to be a humanitarian. I know, and I helped teach you how to spend your money and be responsible and how not to feel guilty and ashamed of it and to be proud that you had the opportunity to be a true humanitarian. And I know that resides deep within you. And you could truly be that and go on to do more of that.”
The judge finally told her her time was up. Bouchey added just one more sentence, which says more about her than it does about Clare.
She said “Thank you” to the judge then turned to Clare and said, “So, I will be praying for you, Clare. I know, I know you can do this. You can.”
An interesting way to end – by telling your persecutor that you will be praying for them.
Yes, congratulations, Barbara, for listening to God’s heart. ❤️
Former cult members might still have many wounds and triggers from having joined a high control group, yet eventually, all of them have been fooled by the wrong spirits. And that includes Keith Raniere who might have had good some intentions, too, though… long ago. 🙄
Praying for KR will be hard for them. That demands a long period (decades…?) of healing, of letting out all anger, wrath, and the desire for revenge.
Matthew 19:26 ESV: “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”🙏🏼
Yes, one of the best statements particularly as it gave faces, details of money and actions rather than I was hurt or upset. Judges like facts.
I only pray that we are well beyond any risk that any, um, ‘victim’ misstatements could be said to have wrongly influenced the Court.
Without reference to the article:
Barbara knows it doesn’t serve her to hate or have toxic feelings. To wish Clare well, that is real healing there.
What human greatness it takes for Barbara Bouchey, despite all her pain and law-abating, to say forgiving words to the person to whom she “owes” the ruin of her own life. I think we can all learn from her. (Forgiveness is not a weakness.) I commend Barbara and wish her goodness to be compensated by the Creator.