No Longer a Leader of Human Growth Potential, Lauren Salzman Is a Bitter, Resentful, Middle-Aged Hag Without a Life to Call Her Own

Lauren Salzman

Another deeply insightful piece from Shivani.  This analysis, in my opinion, captures the essence of a woman who spent 20 years with the monster and her own very wicked mother.

By Shivani

Lauren Salzman has earned her hard-faced rigid, blank expression and the grim anger underlying it. This ugliness and whatever she has still has materially are what Lauren has been left with for herself, after 20+ years of choosing to remain blindly stuck in her completely disambiguous rut, incapable of allowing herself any independent thoughts or actions, beyond such rudiments as brushing one’s teeth, sitting on a toilet, wiping and flushing.

March 18, 2019 – Lauren Salzman leaves the Federal Courthouse in Brooklyn  (Natan Dvir / Polaris Images)

Of course, Lauren the slave seemed only too willing and accepting of acquiring slaves of her own eventually. How did her supposed inherent conflicts not drive her crazy? She shows herself as both self-perceived as being worthless and hopelessly unworthy, the miserable magpie of self-denial. Yet simultaneously, out of the other side of her mouth, she cluelessly boasts of her executive self-importance, her position as a significant and prosperous member of the very organization enshrining her unworthiness.

She and all of her cohorts walked a fine line of utter insanity while pretending that theirs was a superior way of living, perpetually churning the same crock of rancid choices, like economically less-deprived girlfriends of Charles Manson, only their hero was costumed as Keith Raniere, the world’s smartest man.

Keith Raniere flanked by Barbara Bouchey [l] and Lauren Salzman [r] Pam Cafritz left of Salzman.
Even Lauren’s court testimony was a psychological mishmash. Her concept of self-awareness never once eluded the heaviness of her self-prescribed vacuum of “growth.”

What Lauren spent her life “growing” has been her very own virus, which she received eagerly and avidly from Raniere and her mother and finally, from herself. Does she seriously think that she has accomplished a single thing, devoutly spreading her virus, trying to engender the same complete failure to others?

Now, Lauren stands a good chance of spending the rest of her life as an embittered puppet, without the eyes to see herself.

Lauren, still the dutiful parrot, unwilling or unable to see beyond her own ego, her own ambition and greed. Fantasizing about having had a special life, a special (nonexistent) lover, a special never-to-exist baby. Lauren, hungry for her pathetic position on top of the garbage heap. Now, Lauren cannot realistically continue to follow Raniere, so instead Lauren seems to be back to following her original head Daisy Duck, her hideous mother.

Daughter of the cult. Lauren Salzman [right] with her mother Nancy. They followed, they said, the smartest and most ethical man in the world.
Lauren Salzman, the group leader, the writer of desperately meaningless psycho-babble and twisted, stupid schlock, all designed to make others point fingers of blame within and to ignore intolerable living conditions, based upon lies, deception and ultimately, self-deception. Lauren, the self-important hallucination, imagining a spiritually-advanced way of living, the proud representative of a predatory, pedophile monster.

Lauren, the advanced asshole, championing a lifestyle of complete falsehood, whitewashed with smug words, pretending to be oh-so-helpful, all of the while satisfied to ignore her own burgeoning criminality, step by step.

It seems that the only thing that stopped Lauren Salzman in her tracks was getting caught and arrested. She was fine with keeping a prettier and younger woman captive and corroborating with stealing two years of this captive’s life. Apparently, the girl had no humanity or significance to Lauren Salzman at all.

The shocking thing is that Lauren kept at it, seeing nothing wrong with the concepts or with the actions of keeping someone a prisoner. Yet does anyone hear Salzman acknowledge her own competitive jealousy about the younger, prettier woman, a woman whom Raniere found more attractive and desirable than Lauren Salzman?

Lauren can talk a semi-adequate game of “redemptive” thought as part of a plea deal, but every word out of her testimony has been full of undigested personal resentment, aimed primarily at others, for her own choices. Lauren is willing to blame Raniere now, (it’s the thing to do!) but she has stuck to her Mommy Dearest, who once again appears to be Lauren’s primary ruler and guide.

While testifying, Lauren seemed to manage to maintain her obliviousness to her own personal responsibility. Lauren had done the same number on herself for years in ESP/Nxivm/DOS. She has spent her entire life standing behind her mother in a Starbucks line, keeping her head down while Nancy Salzman gloated.

Nancy Salzman with her daughter Lauren over the Thanksgiving holiday 2019 at a thruway rest stop Starbucks.

Lauren sat through court sounding like an officious fool, dipped in the absolute solidity of her own adopted illusions. Linguistic self-abnegation was treated by Lauren as if it were an actual reality. And then there was the counterforce to “balance” her cold, delusional cruelties towards herself and others.

Lauren made her income, bought her properties, kept two cars, bought herself her big ugly scarves and oversized blouses, a disgusting failure purchasing her symbols of executive success.

Here she is, the ‘chatty Cathy’ of spirituality, of self-help and growth.

“I am not worthy,” says Lauren Salzman. “I am so very worthy, though,” says Lauren Salzman. “Oh, wait a minute. I am not worthy. But that IS being worthy.”

Evidently, Lauren has never been able to be alone with herself. She has lived as an echo chamber of stunning unoriginality and it is doubtful that she has realized even this.

She is a half-alive testament to the “therapeutic” skills of her mother and of her mother’s interests. Always, Lauren appears to have looked to satisfy herself with a vacuous imitation of life. She maintained a fictional “love” relationship with Raniere for years and years and seems to resent him for all of his madness instead of taking her own self into account for sticking to him like superglue.

Her face is also a perfect example of how successful her women’s empowerment bullshit has really had made her.

“Whatever you do, evince nothing real from the self.”

MK10ART’s painting of Lauren Salzman ready to punish her slaves as Raniere has taught her.

It looks as though never once in Lauren’s life was she in touch with her own thoughts, and she seems to have trusted mostly that her own mind couldn’t be trusted or given room for any realistic self-expression.

During her court testimony, Lauren seemed to have transferred her bitterness and resentments, for her own nauseating decisions, onto Raniere. How convenient for Lauren, because what she said in court gave voice to how very little she has been able to even begin to change her own lifelong dynamic.

Lauren acknowledged what was required of her, by the prosecution to acknowledge, and the extremities with which she lived might make her admissions seem like a big deal.

So how has Lauren changed? She seems to have finally given herself permission to be a bitter, resentful middle-aged hag without a life to call her own. Lauren no longer has to stand behind her half-baked socially-acceptable excuses, as a leader of human growth potential. She is now what? The self-righteous and much put upon deceived victim?

Still, Lauren Salzman kept a much younger woman isolated for at least two years, a young woman whose identity papers were being held from her. Lauren was well aware that Raniere had more direct sexual interest in the young lady than he had towards Lauren herself.

Lauren knew about Raniere’s sexual involvement, not only with her captive but with her captive’s sisters.

Who would want a relationship with Lauren Salzman today? Would she put a baby of her own through what she put one of her “romantic” rivals through if the baby was too much competition for poor Lauren?

She might have to pay a little for her crimes. She might be a broken woman, as Judge Garaufis mentioned in court. It looks as though her worst punishment is going to be living with herself.


Marie White’s painting of Lauren Salzman with Allison Mack -in the halcyon days.


Marie White’s Nancy and Lauren.


Marie White’s Lauren Salzman on the witness-stand crying, not the brand in her eye.

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3 years ago

Great article Shivani!!!

The major reason I feel Lauren Salzman deserves 3 years:
“Lauren Salzman kept a much younger woman isolated for at least two years, a young woman whose identity papers were being held from her. Lauren was well aware that Raniere had more direct sexual interest in the young lady than he had towards Lauren herself.”

Not only was held her identity papers held back , but money and her family as well.

Don’t forget Dani was in the United States illegally and would have been arrested and deported to Mexico with nothing. Nothing whatsoever. Think about that. She was in a de facto prison.

3 years ago

Interesting thoughts about Salzman.

I don’t think we have enough information about where her head is at now, to judge, though. I can’t say I see any positive signs, but you never know until you have some actual evidence like reliable reports.

And I wonder if she is yet out of her mother’s orbit. It may be that Nancy is relying on Lauren for a place to live; property records show that Lauren still owns both 21 Lape Rd., which I think is the nice large house that she’s been described as living in, as well as 7 Minuteman Ct., a condo in the Knox Woods subdivision, though there’s a clue the latter might be a rental and thus a source of income for Lauren.

3 years ago
Reply to  AnonyMaker

7 Minuteman was definitely a rental

3 years ago

Well well well….mother and daughter coffee run together, how quaint. Must’ve been mom’s idea as Lauren never learned to think for herself.

Nancy must not be so mad at Lauren anymore.

So I think it’s 50/50 that Lauren and mom will end up in the same federal low-security prison. If that’s the case, I give it 50/50 that they will end up in the same housing/dorm unit. If that’s the case, I give it 50/50 again that they will end up as bunkmates and try to brainwash their other bunkmates. They won’t change their ways around other people, especially Nancy.

See, young inmates will like Nancy, she will be the dorm mom. A “mom” to run to with problems, a mom who will stand in the TV room and decide who gets to hold the TV controller and settle arguments over what to watch.
The mom who will break up heated arguments with her years of NXIVM wisdom.

Lauren on the other hand, imprisoned with mom, will be back to square one. Again, letting mom make all her decisions only this time it will be:

What Lauren can buy from the commissary, what she can and cannot tell her sister when she visits, in fact, I doubt mom will let Lauren visit anyone without her. Mom will supervise how Lauren handles conflicts with other inmates, mom will tell her what inmates she can hang around with and which to avoid, In fact, mom will even make Lauren’s requests for her to the staff even if it’s a request her daughter doesn’t want – that’s never stopped Nancy before – see it’s Lauren’s issue.

Luckily, staff will be onto this dynamic duo and put the leader Nancy to work in the bathrooms where Nancy will choose to be joyful. If Lauren can’t be joyful in prison, again, it’s her issue because there are no victims in this world.

Unfortunately, for every corrections officer who has Nancy’s number and won’t put up with her, there will be plenty of others whom she will manipulate to make their lives so much better.

Unfortunately, she will only be making her daughter’s life so much worse because of the missed opportunity for Lauren to

……Just pure speculation on my part…..

Scott Johnson
3 years ago
Reply to  DJ

I doubt the Salzmans will be assigned to the same prison, the prison system doesn’t work that way. I also doubt they will be anywhere except on the very bottom of the prisoner food chain. Word will get around about what they did, and other prisoners don’t like those involved in sexual deviancies. Most of the women in prison are tough, these two are relative pansies. The bad-a$$ b!tches reputation was pure hogwash. Think about it, when her “hero” was arrested, she was about to participate in a group blow-job and then he hid in a closet. Bonnie and Clyde they ain’t.

…..Just pure factual analysis on my part…..

green eyed monster
green eyed monster
3 years ago

—Salzman acknowledge her own competitive jealousy about the younger, prettier woman—

Jealousy seems like a common and understandable emotion amongst the harem, even tho they pretended not to know or swallowed their pride along with Keith’s juice. But some could stay in His good graces by providing younger, prettier girls for him. So I wonder if the soon-to-be harem-hags would try to keep some pretty young thing like Kristin Kook away from Keith’s penis, or be the hero that gets Kook to kneel before the Vanguard?

Scott Johnson
3 years ago

Raniere won’t be seeing any females except perhaps for the occasional female prison guard for a very long time, perhaps for the rest of his life.

3 years ago

God help any child who has either Lauren Salzman or Allison Mack as a mother.

3 years ago

If they do not have biological children they will never have kids. Well, unless they get with a partner who has custody of their own kids, or a female partner who will have a baby for them to raise together. But one thing that happened to them is they are felons and will never be able to adopt or foster in a 100 years. Adoption won’t be their option if they can’t have a baby.

Speaking of kids,

It’s my opinion that Allison is less than a devoted aunt. No loving aunt would falsely declare on video that their nephew is being abused by the father (?) I think it was. If she had a baby while in NXIVM would she have used her own baby as collateral and say she caught someone abusing her own baby? Yes, she would if Keith told her to do it.

Scott Johnson
3 years ago
Reply to  DJ

I find it amusing all of the “collateral” [blackmail] that involved abusive relationships, contracts to give up possessions, etc. It would have been so simple to state it was provided under duress and, IF they were taken to court, which is doubtful given the nature of the “contract,” laughed out of court by the judge.

3 years ago
Reply to  Scott Johnson


Not everyone possesses your genius or legal acumen.

Most people would have stayed in Amway for their entire lives, not the 10 years you did.

Shadow and I want to know if we can have some free $85 dollar boxes of Amway powdered detergent from 2003?

Your friend,

Scott Johnson
3 years ago
Reply to  NiceGuy2.0

Not everyone is scared to talk on a telephone. LOL

3 years ago
Reply to  DJ

What Allison Mack did to her nephews is unthinkable to any normal person.

And she also hurt both her father and her brother, the father of her nephews.

3 years ago

Mack has a younger sister, considerably younger. Remembering when Allison, while living in RaniereWorld, befriended a young, female neighbor (pre-teen) and that neighbors were not happy about this little girl being anywhere near the “overly-friendly” Allison Mack.

What could have stopped Allison Mack from bringing her own young sister into contact with Raniere/ Nxivm or even DOS? Did Mack have what could be called foreknowledge of guilt by association?

Allison Mack could have known that she had trapped herself into an environment in which she didn’t want her own little sister to be caught. On the other hand, maybe Allison’s family were increasingly alarmed by her lifestyle and choices and managed to protect their youngest child from her own sister.(?)

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