Frank Parlato
The Ordinary Building Where Extraordinary Power Lives
The Family Court building was not beautiful. It was not meant to be. Like all terrible places, it looks ordinary. But to the men and women who worked there — the judges, the lawyers, the therapists — it was home.
At the center of it all sat The Judge. There is no jury. And what The Judge declared — became true. Not because it was true, but because he said so.
Lord Acton said it plainly.
“Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.”
In Family Court, you can see it living and breathing.
The Family Court Judge does not wear a crown. He does not command armies, but his power is more precise, more absolute. He controls not nations — but souls. He rules not land — but the bond between parent and child.
There is no jury to temper him. No citizens to object.
The lawyers work beneath him, not beside him. The therapists work at his command. The evaluators write reports that disappear into his file. He is at the top of a structure built to insulate him from ordinary life.
The Tyranny of One: Power Without Witness
This was the nightmare Lord Acton warned against: not the tyrant with soldiers in the street — but the Judge in a quiet courtroom, pronouncing the destruction of a family with a few words, recorded neatly, stamped by a clerk, and entered into the system forever. What is more absolute than that?
If the Judge says a mother is unstable — she is unstable.
If the Judge says a father is dangerous — he is dangerous.
If the Judge says a child is better off forgetting — the forgetting begins.
It is not the King’s tyranny of taxes or land. It is not the gallows. It is exile from your own child.
And this is done without a crime. Without a jury. Without proof, beyond doubt. Often without proof at all.
Lord Acton was speaking of Popes and Princes. But he might as well have spoken of the Family Court Judge. Because power unchecked does not care about time or title. And in Family Court, it has been allowed to grow. A single man or woman, unquestioned, deciding the fate of a family not because of law — but because they can.
Power tends to corrupt. Absolute power corrupts absolutely. And what is the power to erase a parent from a child’s life — forever — if not absolute?
Why The Founders Gave Us the Jury
The founders of the American nation were not naïve. They had seen the King and the King’s Judges. They had seen a courtroom where one man controlled the evidence, the verdict, and the punishment.
And so, when they built their new republic, they built it with the jury.
Twelve human shields between the citizen and power.
They knew a trial without a jury was not a trial.
It was sentencing in disguise.
Without a jury, the Judge becomes the law.
Without a jury, the Judge decides who wins.
Without a jury, the Judge becomes the King.
The Room Where Freedom Died
In Family Court, the Judge decides who speaks and who stays silent. He decides which facts matter and which do not. He decides whether a mother will see her children or disappear from their lives.
He decides whether a father will be a parent or a visitor. He decides these things alone. No jury hears the evidence. No jury weighs the credibility of witnesses.
No jury listens to the child’s voice and says: “Enough.”
No jury stands between the power of the State and the terror of the ordinary citizen facing the destruction of their family.
In Family Court, the Judge is older than the King. Older than the Constitution. Older than the idea of freedom. He is power — pure, stripped, and ancient — the kind of power men once fled across the ocean to escape.
The founders knew. That is why they gave us juries. Because power — real power — does not rage. It sits quietly in its throne or bench and decrees. Without a jury, there is nothing left to stop it.
That is Family Court — where the Judge is more than the King. Because even the King, once upon a time, feared twelve good men and true. But in Family Court, there are no twelve.
There is only One.
There is no shield.
There is only the Judge.
Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist, media strategist, publisher, and legal consultant.
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“IT IS OK TO ABUSE A CHILD AS LONG AS IT IS PSYCHOLOGICALLY.” Divisions of child services.
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Family Court:
The willful infliction of agony upon innocent children and parents.
Kidnapping, psychological torment, and larceny by sadists dressed as judges, lawyers, gals and psychologists.
Greatest racket concealed by our government and mainstream media.
KASH PATEL IS COMING FOR YOU
We can help his office with the investigations and prosecutions as soon as Connecticut’s law enforcement offices are honest.
Any new decent contacts in any Connecticut law enforcement offices yet?
The 12 Clear Signs Someone You Love Has Been Abused by Family Court—and the Ex Who Weaponized It
By Michael Phillips | REBUILT
Family court isn’t just a place where divorces get finalized or custody schedules get set.
For many, it’s where lives are torn apart.
It’s where abusers find legal validation. Where manipulation is rewarded. And where the protective parent is vilified for simply trying to survive.
You may not know what they’re going through. But if you pay attention, you’ll see the signs.
Here are the 12 most telling signs that someone you love has been taken advantage of—and abused—by the family court system and an ex who weaponized it against them:
1. They Seem Permanently Exhausted—Mentally, Emotionally, and FinanciallyIt’s not just “divorce stress.” It’s trauma. Court-induced, system-sanctioned trauma. You’ll notice they don’t sleep well. They’re always fighting fatigue. They may have drained their savings or even lost their job. Every dollar and every ounce of energy goes toward survival.
2. They Flinch When You Mention ‘Custody’ or ‘Court’Even the word “court” is a trigger. It reminds them of how powerless they’ve felt. The humiliation. The silence when they tried to speak truth. The fear of losing their child—again.
3. They’ve Been Alienated From Their Child, and No One Seems to CareThey show you pictures of their kid like a grieving parent shows photos of a child who died. Except the child is still alive—just hidden, withheld, and brainwashed by the other parent, with the court’s passive approval.
4. They Speak in Legalese Without Meaning ToThey’ve read more case law than most lawyers. They throw out terms like “ex parte,” “guardian ad litem,” “discovery abuse,” “motion to compel,” and “with prejudice” like they’re talking about dinner plans. Because they’ve had to become a lawyer just to survive.
5. They Can’t Afford a Lawyer—But Their Ex Has One (Or Three)The court expects both sides to be “equal” in a system that is fundamentally unequal. One party comes in with a legal team. The other is a broke parent with PTSD, scribbling notes on the back of old receipts.
6. Their Reputation Is in Shambles—and the Allegations Don’t Add UpFalse allegations are a tactic. A smear campaign. The court doesn’t require proof; just the appearance of impropriety. Suddenly, the loving father is “unstable.” The caring mother is “uncooperative.” The narrative is flipped—and no one checks the facts.
7. They’ve Stopped Believing in JusticeThey used to believe that the truth would win. That the system would protect children. That due process mattered. Now? They know better. They know the system protects itself, not the people inside it.
8. Their Health Has Deteriorated RapidlyStress manifests. Migraines, stomach issues, heart problems, flare-ups of autoimmune conditions. They’re not “being dramatic.” They’re being destroyed—slowly, systemically, and often in silence.
9. They’ve Withdrawn From Friends and FamilyThey’re tired of explaining. Tired of the judgment. Tired of hearing “just go back to court” when court is the very place that’s destroying them. So they go silent. Isolated. Ashamed of a story no one understands.
10. They Seem Paranoid—But They’re Usually RightThey check emails five times. They record every interaction. They save every receipt. It seems obsessive—until you realize their ex has twisted every conversation, every action, and every benign moment into a weapon in court.
11. They’ve Become Fiercely Protective of Their TruthThey document everything now. They keep binders and files and timelines. Because they’ve learned that truth alone isn’t enough. You have to prove it. Over and over. Even when the system won’t listen.
12. They’ve Started Speaking Out—Even if It Costs ThemEventually, many of these parents become advocates. Because staying silent almost killed them. Because they don’t want others to go through what they did. Because their pain has to mean something.
And because the court took so much—but not their voice.
Final Thoughts: They’re Not ‘Crazy.’ They’re Criminalized for SurvivingIf someone in your life shows these signs, don’t dismiss them. Don’t fall for the narrative that they’re “bitter” or “unstable.”
They’ve been abused—by a system that claims to protect children, but too often protects power, manipulation, and silence.
Support them.
Believe them.
And help us change the system before it destroys even more families.
Children should be taught about family court in school in sex education. No one ever warns us about any of this growing up-not as children, teenagers -even as adults. The suffering doesnt end when the kids turn 18. It. goes. on.
You captured the pure phugging horror in “family” court. One, just one single person can erase a parent from a child’s life without evidence being properly tested, without the safeguards our entire system was supposedly built on. They can & they do make horrific mistakes repeatedly~with impunity, shielded by immunity and cloaked in “procedure.”
You’re right—this is a monarchy. Its medieval. These “family judges” are like sadistic assassins. They take their time–bleeding out all hope, pull on the “thread’ and just pull -unravel secuirity –trust. The only thing they “create” is PTSD for the children, then the judge aims and shoots at these souls and just annhiliate their childhood. Literally wipe their innocence out. And I think the judges are proud of it. Sick, twisted, mentallly ill -cowards-like the great Oz.
This piece should be read aloud in the halls of Congress. It should be posted outside every courtroom door. Powerful.
Family court Judges and attorneys arr judt sc*mb*gs
🧠 It’s called Brandolini’s Law, and if you don’t know it, you’ve already lost half the war. It states: “The amount of energy needed to refute bullshit is an order of magnitude bigger than to produce it.” Let that sink in.
That’s not just an observation—it’s a law. A law of information warfare. A law of psychological exhaustion. A law of spiritual attrition.
This is why every time you kill a lie, it feels like nothing changed. It’s why no matter how many facts you post, how many sources you cite, how many receipts you show—the swarm just keeps coming. Because while you’re out in the open doing surgery, the machine is behind the curtain spraying aerosol deceit into every vent.
The lie takes ten seconds. The truth takes ten paragraphs. And by the time you’ve written the tenth, the people you’re trying to reach have already scrolled past.
Every viral deception—the fake quote, the rigged video, the synthetic outrage—takes almost nothing to create. And once it’s out there, you’re not just correcting a fact—you’re prying it out of someone’s identity. Because people don’t adopt lies just for information. They adopt them for belonging. The lie becomes part of who they are, and your correction becomes an attack.
And still—you must correct it. Still, you must fight.
Because even if truth doesn’t spread as fast, it roots deeper. Even if it doesn’t go viral, it endures. And eventually, it makes people bulletproof to the next wave of narrative sewage.
You’re not here to win a one-day war. You’re here to outlast a never-ending invasion.
The lies are roaches. You kill one, and a hundred more scramble behind the drywall.The lies are Hydra heads. You cut one off, and two grow back. But you keep swinging anyway.
Because this isn’t about instant wins. It’s about making the cost of lying higher. It’s about being the resistance that doesn’t fold. You don’t fight because it’s easy. You fight because it’s right.
Now get back in the trench.
Mars Lewis
As everyone blames the judges and attorneys which are a huge part of the problem. There are the people who are responsible for the family court battles. Some times the biggest lies being told are the same people who have been caught at the court house telling them. You can’t fix a broken system with the same people who manipulate it .
Judges are educated. They know what they are doing. If you lose a child it is possible to get another. But there is only one family court.
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👉 Education is in the eye of the beholder.
https://www.timesofisrael.com/a-jewish-photographer-has-captured-alexander-vindman-and-his-twin-since-the-80s/
How long can Connecticut judges, lawyers, legislators and law enforcement hide Jennifer Dulos’ May 1, 2019 PLAINTIFF’S MOTION FOR REMOVAL OF GUARDIAN AD LITEM, PENDENTE LITE from the public?
https://www.wtnh.com/dulos/exclusive-michelle-troconis-attorney-on-his-motion-to-dismiss-her-criminal-contempt-charge/
PREDICTION: The judge will dismiss the charge, Connecticut’s worst of the worst judges, lawyers, legislators and law enforcement officers will continue to hide Jennifer’s May 1, 2019 motion from the public and the charade will continue.
… The United States Attorney charges:
… 1. From in or about July 2016 until in or about November 2018, in the District of Connecticut, the defendant SIMON HESSLER did knowingly employ, use, persuade, induce, entice, and coerce a minor to engage in sexually explicit conduct for the purpose of producing a visual depiction of such conduct, including but not limited to images depicting SIMON HESSLER’s genitalia on and near a partially clothed, prepubescent child under the age of 18, whose identity is known to the United States Attorney, which visual depictions were produced using materials that had been mailed, shipped, and transported in and affecting interstate and foreign commerce. In violation of Title 18, United States Code, Section 2251(a)(l). …
“… Pierre Hessler retained Kent Mawhinney to represent Hessler in his postconviction proceedings on November 9, 2020. …” Did Pierre Hessler retain Kent Mawhinney to represent Hessler knowing Jennifer Dulos disappeared on May 24, 2019?
“… Mawhinney was purportedly Hessler’s cellmate, doc. no. 1 at 24, while Mawhinney faced criminal charges for conspiracy to commit murder. …”
Was Mr. Mawhinney Mr. Hessler’s cellmate? What’s “doc. no. 1 at 24”?
Who ordered that Mr. Hessler and Mr. Mawhinney would share a cell?
”… At oral argument, Attorney (Michael?) Sussman argued that the images cannot constitute child pornography because they depict Hessler’s flaccid penis. …”
Who knows the details about Attorney (Michael?) Sussman’s involvement in the US case against Mr. Hessler?
https://www.nbcconnecticut.com/news/local/ellington-man-charged-in-sex-dungeon-case-sentenced-to-29-years-for-child-exploitation/2318434/
Michael H. Sussman … (not Michael A. Sussmann)
https://dockets.justia.com/docket/connecticut/ctdce/3:2023cv01270/156124
Agreed. With all the media coverage what was buried along with Jennifer Dulos is that her case was a child trafficking case. The CT family court used their quack psychologist (not a medical doctor who can be held to account) to say Jen was unstable and Fotis was the better parent.
To conceal the blatant fraud of the report, the court puts it under seal – as of to protect Jennifer and the family. In reality it is out under seal to prevent the public from seeing a psychological/custody evaluation which is pure fraud.
These evaluations by court appointed criminals like Jessica biren caverly and Linda smith, are the weapon of choice upon which a family court judge can rely to change custody.
Never are parents like Jen or the thousands of parents whose children are kidnapped from in family court- ever reported to DCF. If any child is suspected of abuse or neglect these psychologists are required to file a referral to dcf because they are mandated reporters.
These court appointed psychologists DO NOT file with dcf bc they know it’s a scam. There’s no unfitness.
The plan I’m the Dulos case was for the GAL to traffic the kids to Fotis and require supervised visitation to Jen, along with court appointed therapists etc. Why is it that families are required to be in counseling when they want a divorce???
But the CT media committee and CT family courts made certain to ignore Jen Dulos’s court filing to remove her corrupt gal.
What the public isn’t told are GALs are the directors of child trafficking. Attorneys for both parties and all court appointed “experts” work for the gal and stay on script to plunder family savings, silence children and prolong litigation.
In the case of Jen Dulos why do you think it is that family court attorneys have a 40 year gag order placed on them?
The police know the charade and are active participants in concealing evidence of abuse and failing to investigate claims.
They never looked at Jen’s filing regarding the gal? No one questioned what the gal was doing that resulted in the murder of hen Dulos?
Another mom from Westport killed her child and killed herself. She was tortured by ct family and private courts. There’s the same gals and corrupt attorneys on that case. It got buried quickly.
Perfectly healthy parents enter family court and after years of terror take their own lives as the court cabal take their checks to the bank.
https://www.wfsb.com/2025/04/21/troconis-due-back-court-being-held-contempt/
Darnell Crosland represents Michelle Troconis and Simon Hessler with help from Kent Mawhinney.
He and Dennis Bradley defend his paralegal in a case and Mr. Bradley’s a court-appointed attorney for investigative reporter John Flynn. Does anyone know where John Flynn is?
Will Mr. Crosland be able to solve so many puzzles and tell the public about the corruption he finds in Connecticut’s judicial branch?
Or, did the Connecticut cabal catch Mr. Crosland in their trap, too?
As soon as possible, the Connecticut judicial branch must inform parents about the various philosophies of Connecticut “family court” judges and lawyers. Here’s why: Connecticut “family court” judges and lawyers fully control parents’ lives, their children’s lives and their families’ futures.
Consider this: Leonard Nimoy thinks Shekhina “is at once spiritual and sensuous”. He enjoys taking photographs of naked people posing in various poses. His work is featured on the R. Michelson Gallery website: https://www.rmichelson.com/artists/leonard-nimoy/shekhina/
Respectable for some, not for all.
During the public hearing a few months ago, Mr. Adelman mentioned his intent to write and publish a book about his various philosophies. He’s apparently been working on that and should be able to offer a sample to Connecticut legislators.
How many Connecticut legislators are okay with Connecticut parents being allowed to know more about the various philosophies of Connecticut “family court” judges and lawyers?
This One carries our sins and suffers pain for us, and we regarded Him as one who is in difficulty, misfortune, and affliction. But He was wounded because of our sins, and He became sick because of our lawless acts. The discipline of our peace was upon Him; by His bruise we were healed. We all have been misled like sheep; each person was misled in his own path, and the Lord handed Him over for our sins. Isaiah 53:4-6
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The Judge Without a Jury: When Justice Becomes Isolation
To the Author,
Your piece, “The Ordinary Building Where Extraordinary Power Lives,” reads like a haunting elegy for a system that once promised to protect — and now destroys. Every word resonated with me, not just intellectually, but viscerally. Because I have lived it.
Family court was never designed to wield this kind of unchecked power. And yet, today, one individual — a judge behind closed doors — can sever a mother from her children, redefine truth without evidence, and banish a parent from a child’s life indefinitely. No jury. No accountability. No due process in the way our Constitution envisioned.
This is not what our Founding Fathers fought for.
They had seen the tyranny of monarchs and courts built on loyalty to crowns, not to people. They enshrined the right to a jury trial precisely because they understood that justice cannot survive when it rests in the hands of one. They believed in checks, balances, and in the dignity of citizens to be heard — truly heard — before their liberty, property, or family could be taken.
What happens in family court today is not merely a betrayal of modern judicial ethics — it is a betrayal of the very foundation of American freedom.
The courtroom, as you so accurately portray, has become a place of isolation. A parent stands alone. The Judge decides who is credible. Who is crazy. Who is “alienating.” Who is fit to parent — or forgotten. Often based on impressions, innuendo, and hearsay cloaked in the language of psychology. And once that label is stamped, the truth no longer matters.
There is no appeal for the mother whose child is ordered to forget her. There is no constitutional remedy for the father erased without evidence. And there is no jury to say, “Stop. This is not justice.”
The tragedy is not just in the rulings. It is in the silence. The silence of an entire legal community that has tolerated — even profited from — the slow corrosion of rights in the name of “best interests.”
But how can a system claim to serve the best interests of a child while severing them from a loving parent without cause?
How can a judge claim to protect a child while ignoring abuse, dismissing evidence, and empowering professionals who answer only to him?
We are watching not just families fall apart — we are watching the slow death of a sacred principle: that no citizen should be judged by one man alone.
This article is more than powerful. It is prophetic. It reminds us that absolute power does not need to shout — it simply stamps its order, silences the room, and leaves a family in ruins.
Until we bring juries into family court, until we demand oversight, due process, and transparency, the system will remain what it is today: a quiet throne room, where freedom dies behind closed doors.
Thank you for writing what so many have felt but feared to say. I stand with you. And I hope more voices rise with us.
With deep respect and sorrow, Margaret
In order to reform family court you need: jury trials, no immunity for judges, GAL’s and lawyers, and the legal profession should no longer be self regulating. We need people outside of the legal profession to sit on disciplinary counsel.
Yes but it’s going to be difficult to find the right people for that job. Ordinary people who have not experienced family court usually don’t want to do that . I definitely don’t trust the people who would volunteer for the job.
“difficult to find the right people for that job”
Sitting on the disciplinary counsel.
Thank you Margaret Sullivan for your fearlessness and advocacy which has helped so many of us navigate and endure the treachery of the family court system; a place where barbaric court orders and sadistic abuse to innocent children and parents thrives; where children are a commodity and the ruthless disregard for their well being is by design- to terrorize, to paralyze, to break their spirit and compromise their ability to cope – making it easier to erase their past and replace their reality with the manufactured narrative of court appointed actors who steal a families life savings through fraudulent billings.
Your words capture the calculated evil acts, and the inhumane and unconscionable experiences and outcomes resulting from institutional betrayal.
It’s spiritual warfare. For decades family courts have participated and profited in the systematic destruction of the family unit. Our children have been muted and sacrificed. But across the country and beyond, parents and children who have been targeted, traumatized, and threatened into silent submission are coming forward en masse. The exposure from non mainstream media has allowed those targeted to find one another and the flood is coming. Good will prevail.
Thank you frankreport for your years of investigations and publications which have educated and warned the public of the realities and dangers of family court.
Is anyone aware of the facts of the case?
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Thank you so much for your deeply moving and courageous words. I am honored and humbled to receive this message. Your recognition means the world to me—especially coming from someone who clearly understands the depth of pain, injustice, and spiritual warfare that so many families endure within the family court system.
It is voices like yours that fuel the movement and remind us why we continue to expose the truth, advocate for change, and stand in solidarity with those who have been silenced and shattered. We are not alone, and as you so powerfully said—the flood is coming. The light is breaking through.
Thank you again for your strength, your clarity, and your shared vision for justice. Together, we will prevail. 💜
And agreed, thank you to the Frank Report for having the courage and willingness to raise these issues and discussion in a public forum.
With gratitude,
Margaret Sullivan
Lovely.
Prior to the mid 1990s, police didn’t write reports for domestics unless an arrest made. That all changed with the introduction of Mandatory Reporting and the DIR. Lawyers and their clients soon realized that whoever shows up in Family Court with the most DIRs is likely to prevail. When a DIR is written, it’s simply the allegations only one party. Without an injury or something smashed, the police and courts are going on their word, and we need to Believe all Women, right? Women lie. Men lie. Lawyers lie. Police were trained that a husband throwing a plate of spaghetti at a wall requires a report.
How many domestic violence restraining orders are violated and nothing is done? Plenty. If you have been arrested multiple times,b I think it’s a safe bet that are a risk. Some of the biggest complainers of restraining order are the ones who repeatedly violate them. Women and men complaining have restraining order. Violate them because they are incapable of excepting boundaries and feel entitled. If you read the real court documentation you see it. Most police don’t arrest people when they should. Unless you are half dead or dead will they do anything. Was the plate of spaghetti inches away from the wife’s head?
Westchester Supreme Court Matrimonial division was investigated by the FBI, which triggered several judicial replacements.
Judge Fra. Con. survived the purge, despite ignoring NYS legal standards, because of exactly this phenomenon of judge=monarch. Later, she was so bad at matrimonial, she got promoted to Appellate.
A Cuomo Jesuit buddy who has himself now returned to the scene.
If you have a judge who is religiously biased, they are easy to manipulate. You will be tried by the Pope, even if you’re not Catholic.
Thinking one side is totally good and the other side totally rotten is a temptation to zealots. They were raised in that framework and taught not to question it.
But avoiding such bias is why we have laws in the first place.
Trial (and error) has shown that some people lie very well, especially when the other side has no control at all over the narrative:
The law exists to try to find balance, to be objective. If money controls who gets all the monologues in the court’s theater, then there is no need for judges. Just cast the pearls before the swine lawyers and let em at it.
Ever have a divorce financial trial in which pre-existing Discovery was not offered in evidence? I did.
Judge didn’t even notice it was missing, which means she did not read the case history deeply if at all. She lost the plot: Universe of total marital assets never ascertained. So how did she figure out what was equitable distribution?
Simple, by deciding who should burn in hell.
My trail lawyer was playing with the other side behind my back. She did not present Discovery at the Financial Trial.
My lawyer provided a credit card I had barely used (which was supposed to show how much I spent raising kids.) I had told her repeatedly pretrial that was not the card I used for most of our living expenses. She ignored me. The only thing to believe was she was throwing my case away intentionally.
My lawyer knew my ex had hidden 95-99% of compensation in tax deferred stock and “underwater” investments, but perhaps she saw trial as her opp to cash in with a backroom deal, not as the time to represent my interests.
Ex makes millions per year on those stocks even today. Poor judge didn’t understand the basics of how wealth is generated and self-sustaining. She was worried about him.
She took care of the wealthy at the expense of the kids and their mother. She said I could keep one house if I gave up the other, then took that away too, in private.
–They (lawyers, ex, and judge/court) scheduled appearances for dates they knew I was traveling with my children. I pointed out the scheduling issue to Judge Connolly’s law clerk in advance, who would not change the date. That how she took both homes away.
Judge was led around like a bull with a ring in its nose. She liked the idea that I’d had dozens of miscarriages (when I hadn’t even had one.) Ex cleverly lied to make it seem that my fertility problems were my fault. Reality was he kept putting it off, for over a decade as my fertility, of course, decreased.
Ex fed into judge’s fantasy that there is a man in the sky making sure evil people are punished. Hence bad women are struck barren.
The truth was he resisted having children. When they were born, he ignored them; until it was convenient to use them for a custody battle drawn out so he could hide stocks and renegotiate company contracts.
Superstitious people, like judges who are religious fanatics, should not be entrusted to carry out the law. They cannot be objective by definitition. Faith is not objective: by definition faith is not based on proof.
Ex told judge I prevented his playtime with our kid when the truth (proveable) was he lived for his coporation and spent his free time with his mistress. The biggest lie in his litigation may be that “he worked for his family”–unless by family he meant his mistress and the kids she had during their affair while she was married to another man.
It is the mistress now who will determine what if anything my legally born children will inherit. He has told her she decides that in the event of his death.
So Judge Con.’s ineptness lasts for generations.
Judges are not or should not be judging who is good and who is evil. That’s goes beyond monarchical power, that is Divine power.
Playing by her own rules then, I suppose the judge is now guilty usurping the God position in matters human. I think that’s a sin of pride or something. Right?
Instead I saw her as P. Pilate up there giving the Pharosees what they wanted. Smiling as she read her decision while my ex and his lawyers high-fived each other.
What a garbage court! More like a hockey game than a place of law and Rights.
What theater, what lunacy. and nothing could be farther from justice!
“Westchester Supreme Court Matrimonial division was investigated by the FBI”?
the FBI was supposed to investigate and prosecute crimes committed in Connecticut’s judicial branch 2014 – 2015 … anyone know whatever happened to that “public corruption investigation”?
Clarifying: I did not miss any court appearances.
The first house: in court the judge forced me to give it up in order to keep our main house, where the children were close to good schools. (Why I chose it, under pressure.)
Forced to sell the summer house by the judge–which is worth 3x now what I was forced to sell it for. She tore through my economic security with a vengeance that bore no semblance of sense or reason. Didn’t she understand that the children with me 26 days of every month would be impacted? Didn’t she understand they’d notice their mother moving all their possessions in her stationwagon to a shabby house behind an abandoned wreck after living in two mansions?
How does such a judge sleep at night??
–Both houses the children lived in from birth. And there was no financial reason to give up any house, if only the judge bothered with full discovery.
But in a private meeting in her chambers–where I was excluded intentionally–she did not honor her promise to give the primary house to me: I had filed for divorce with two deeds, one house without any mortage at all.
I walked away from FC’s court not owning any house, and with the burden of uncertainty on an $800,000 mortgage. We were allowed to “stay” there, but couldn’t afford it–largely because the gullable judge simply accepted ex’s financial testimony on face value. I ended up giving my “half” to my ex, as I couldn’t afford the tax, repairs, upkeep.
Good going judge! Pushing kids out of their homes!! Why not take a look at the millions coming in on the mixed marital stocks he hid from you? He doesn’t have to sell any stock to live like king, even in this market. Take a look at his stable of cars.
The only court time I missed was when Judge Fra. Con. sent me out of the courtroom during trial. I timidly had tried to correct a major lie in my exhusband’s lawyer’s testimony, disguised as cross questioning.
–Throughout the “trial” his lawyer was allowed to testify orally and on a blackboard. What kind of judge allows that?
Yes, ex’s lawyer perjured himself. But that’s okay, because he wasn’t quite a lawyer and had no license to lose. For his performance, he won partner at the law firm nonetheless.
I passed notes to my lawyer, who said she would deal with it in my testimony. But after 3 years of billing, she had come unprepared. She threw the case away. My lawyer did not even Object to obvious trial malpractice. When she questioned my ex, she only helped his case.
–Previously, one of my lawyers had tried to subborn perjury from me. I refused and fired him. I needn’t have bothered. There are no rules, only money wins. He is also head of a matrimonial firm now, a big kahuna.
During one appearance, in a day-long wait milling around the court halls, a guard insisted that I store my briefcase in an empty room. Reluctantly, I stored it there, because it was heavy, but the contents contained important evidence. When I took the case home later and opened it, my evidence documents were gone. The only person who had known what was in it was the judge’s righthand woman–who later went to work for my unscrupulous trial lawyer.
–It is all a set up. Criminals are running that court from top to bottom. Filthy lawyers are rich, the filthier the richer.
That meeting in judge’s chambers was scheduled by my ex for a day he knew I was taking our kids camping: I had to notify him in advance. (He’d cut us off at Christmas. Campsites were $5 a night.)
I wrote to the judge’s clerk weeks in advance that I needed a different date for that meeting and was refused. The part of school vacation that I had the children; I couldn’t give that up.
Nasty, nasty dirty tricks.
A self-righteous judge engaged with and surrounded by unethical behavior galls me. It was bad enough dealing with my conniving ex.
Family Court reform should focus on 3 things:
If the DOJ offices in Connecticut keep refusing to investigate and prosecute the rogue judges, lawyers and accomplices, mandatory psychological evaluations and random lie detector tests for the worst offenders might keep them away from children and families.
The feds should take over Connecticut family courts like the feds took control of Connecticut DCF. Organize a federal civil rights class action lawsuit ASAP.
Look up Erie County Family Court Judge Anthony P. Lorusso. Read the complaint of affiants listed as A and B. Be warned it’s not for the weak of heart.
https://www.wkbw.com/news/i-team/protecting-a-predator-how-the-system-failed-buffalos-kids-and-let-an-accused-abuser-go-free
Let’s talk real talk show on parental alienation and disability rights with Joan klot Zanard. ” You are still going to have to co parent with an abuser”. ” The children are half biologically the other parent” . Three stricks your out. An expert in psychological. Giving legal advice. A degree in government. “A study group”. Including the education to convicted batters. Using Ada accomodations to receive special treatment in family court. When does ” coaching services” cross the line in child custody cases?
Special notes in the budget. **** No oversight for high risk studies***
Agreed with the caveat that medical doctors complete the evals.
Not psychological evals. You need medical doctors- psychiatrists to do emails. Legally the court is to rely upon medical testimony.
Psychological evals are bought and paid for and are used to justify removing custody without any finding of unfitness and no valid or reliable testing completed.
It’s nearly impossible to hold these court appointed quack paychologists accountable because the standards are a joke.
They are not held to standards. The department of health doesn’t investigate them.
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One must not practice in a field that they have not satisfied requirements to call themselves a legal expert. Parental Alienation is an unregulated and unrecognized practice. You are not an expert in some things that don’t exist. There are conditions to qualify as an expert. There are eithical guidelines to a profession. Even if there is a court order doesn’t mean it is eithical. You don’t have to have a license to be told to stop engaging in practice. There are standards of care that are not effected by court orders. A multide of court professionals not living up to eithical guidelines. Experimental psychology is allowed but is not an excuse to willing and knowling engage in practice that result in harm.