Father Denounces Son for Using CT Family Court to Purchase Grandsons

After publishing the story  CT Stay-at-Home Mother, Cobie Jane, Lost Her Kids to Wealthy Dentist Father, people who knew the couple, dentist Neal Graber and his wife Cobie Jane, have contacted me.

Everyone said that Cobie Jane was a good mother and what happened to her in CT Family Court was a grave miscarriage of justice. But unfortunately, as they often do in CT Family Court, they terminate the parental rights of the stay-at-home mother when the wealthy dad insists.

One call I was surprised to receive was from the father of Neal Graber, the wealthy dentist who snatched two sons away from Cobie.

Dr. Stuart Graber called me to explain what happened between his son, and Cobie, his former daughter-in-law, from his perspective.

Here is my interview with Dr. Stuart Graber.

Parlato: May I get you on the record?

Dr. Graber: Absolutely. You’ve only touched the surface of the injustice in your last story. I’ll put it in writing. Then, I’ll go to court. What was done to Cobie by the Connecticut Family Court is abominable. Cobie is probably the most excellent, caring, nurturing mother I have ever met.

Neal’s mother destroyed our son. He’s a monster. Neal has an extreme personality disorder.

And the CT Family Court gave the two boys to this monster. He has ruined them.

The last contact I had with my son was about four years ago. Neal’s oldest son, Harrison, is like his father, with a huge personality disorder.

Stuart’s son, Dr. Neal Graber.

Parlato: So what happened? How did this mother, Cobie, wind up being homeless and the boys being just with Neal?

Dr. Graber:  They bought a house in New Canaan, Connecticut, a very affluent, beautiful area. Cobie found a home for a good deal, and they used her inheritance from her grandmother for the downpayment. Neal absconded with it because he had sharp and cunning lawyers, and he had the money to pay and pay. He bullied her. He had the money

Did Neal Graber abscond with his wife’s money to pay cunning lawyers?

And the fact that he’s gone through umpteen lawyers is a clear indication they probably don’t want to deal with him after they make a deal to do what they have to do.

At one point, I lost contact with Neal when he was in college at Emory. But we went to the 96 Olympics together in Atlanta. He then went on to dental school in Alabama, and we lost contact because he refused to have contact when he was with his mother. His mother forbids it.

Parlato: The mother alienated you from your son?.

Dr. Graber: One hundred percent.  So, after Neal married Cobie, I got a call from Neal. He said, “You know, my wife wants to meet you.”

We met at a restaurant in Stamford. I was immediately impressed with his woman. I remember coming home and telling my wife that Cobie’s a wonderful person. She’s bright, and she’s beautiful, she’s intelligent, she’s well-spoken. She’s accomplished. Amazing.

Cobie Jane

I was shocked because Neal demonstrated severe personality disorders from the very beginning of his youth. Typically, his mother would not let him play on the street because those were street kids. And we lived in a decent neighborhood in Stamford in a private community. It was beautiful, but she would not let Neal play with street kids because ‘you’re above that.’ So this is the mentality she created.

Insecure and conceited, she has illusions of grandeur. This is what she created for this poor boy. He is antisocial.

At one point, I invited him to my dental practice. He met my partner, and my partner said, “there’s something wrong with him. He could never come into our practice.”

How he practices dentistry is beyond me because he has no friends. No male friends. He belittles women. And the only reason that kids are with him is that he bought them skis and things. Cobie was what I call ‘Mother Earth.’ And he is just spoiling these kids just to alienate and buy them.

Cobie and her two sons

Any judge, anyone in a room speaking to her and then speaking to him within five minutes will realize the problem. The judges missed it. Totally.

Parlato: Why do you suppose that is? Why have the judges ruled against Cobie as if she’s the evil one? She’s the crazy one?

Dr. Graber: Is there one instance they’re saying that she’s crazy or evil? One example? What? Give me one thing? Nothing.

There’s nothing. There is no evidence. There is no incident of her ever being crazy, incompetent. or not a good mother. Just the opposite.

Parlato: Let me retract that and say that she’s the one that’s lost the children, alienated against her, and then no one would be willing to enforce her legal right to see her children when your son refused to permit it.

Dr. Graber: Right. And I have no idea why. She had one of these Guardians. Am I correct in saying that?

Jill Plancher is the GAL for the Graber boys. She endorsed the alienation of the boys from their mother and saw to it that Dr. Graber retained the marital assets.

Parlato: The guardian ad litem, Jill Plancher.

Dr. Graber: The guardian ad litem said to Cobie, “the kids are afraid to see you because the father would not punish them but alienate them, and they would be upset. And this is what happened. So I mean, first of all, these kids are now ruined.

From what I understand, the older one is now following in his father’s footsteps at Emory. The last contact with him sounded like his words were like his father’s. Very dangerous. Very improper, very wrong. I mean, I can’t express this any greater.

Neal’s my son. Talking to you like this about my son is only because of what he’s done, and what the Connecticut Family Court system has done to Cobie is a total injustice.

And what they’re doing to my grandchildren. They’re destroying my two grandchildren.

I will never be able… they’ll never be able to connect with me. Not with a father like that. They’ll be damaged goods. I cannot express it more.

Parlato: I see.

Dr. Graber: Neal has been a problem. The only thing I find fault with Cobie is, why would you have married him? Because he was no different from when she met him to now.

There was a period of time I guess he behaved. In their courtship and they had two kids, obviously. But when I met them, he introduced me to Cobie as ‘this is my beautiful wife. I love her. She’s great.’

Cobie Jane

And why this turned into hatred, I don’t know. I can’t give you one instance in which Cobie was wrong from my observation. She kept a beautiful home. She kept nutritious organic food, healthy foods, television, and community. She had very nice friends, social friends in the community, and was an activist to get schools better, libraries, so forth and so on.

And Neal has no friends and never did.

Parlato: So, how does this system work? What’s wrong with this system? That a mother like her winds up with no relationship with her own two sons?

Dr. Graber: I don’t know how the legal system allowed this to happen. I don’t. This is poor investigative research by the courts by the legal attorney. Absolutely poor.

Parlato: Is it possible that money influenced the results here?

Dr. Graber: Absolutely. Neal made a good living. He has good hands. He said, ‘I got that from you, Dad.’ But he can’t establish a relationship with me. I’ll give you a very poignant story of when I was divorced from his mother back in 1980. I sued for more visitation rights with my sons because she made it very difficult. She made it difficult for me to attend ball games, very difficult for them to continue their religious training, which was minimal, but every week they were sick, or they couldn’t go or whatever. So every week I couldn’t go. I tried to take them skiing. No, they’re sick. The stories abound, so I finally sued for more visitation rights in Stamford courts.  A guardian ad litem attorney was appointed.

So I was now living in Bedford on four acres with a stable and paddocks, and we had four horses. And this is the most shocking story I’ve ever told. I’ve said it over and over many times.

The guardian ad litem attorney came over to me because I represented myself in court. After all, I thought it was a slam dunk type thing. And I had a very liberal divorce agreement that I was gonna pay for college and health and everything else because I was a dentist, and I was doing well.

So the attorney comes to my house. I can’t breathe when I think of this. She comes to talk dining room. I was remarried, and she said, “Oh my God.” She said, “Can I sit down?” So I said, “What’s the matter? Is something wrong?”

She says, “my husband is down the end of your driveway. I was so frightened to come here because the stories I heard from your kids were so bizarre that I thought I was going to the monster’s house.” She said, “Oh my God. Your house is what my husband and I would die for. You have horses and paddocks and a beautiful home. You have no idea what this woman is having these kids tell me.” She says to me, “I have to tell you that you could never tell this to anybody else because I could lose my license. Get yourself an attorney because this woman is a witch.”

Parlato: Was the guardian ad litem that said this?

Dr. Graber: Yes. She said, “do not repeat what I said. I will lose my license because I’m not allowed to give you this kind of advice. So you’re dealing with a witch. And she has done this to these kids.” I am very close to my oldest son, Marc. I speak to him every single day in my life, and I’m close to his wife and his two kids. Marc doesn’t talk to his mother and Neal.

My ex-wife’s mother, Ita, was from Italy. She was a doll. I was at parties with her and she would say, “I don’t know what happened to my daughter.” Her sister told me, “Stuart, how could you not see what she was like? Why would you have married her?”

You know, I was 25. She was pretty. We were having fun. I was stationed in Germany for three years in the Army as a dentist. My life was good. But she was very insecure. And antisocial. She liked to call herself a contessa. So she created this attitude in Neal, who evidently absorbed it and became a very, very disturbed young man.

How he practices I have no idea. Other than the fact he may have very good hands and he is bright.

Parlato: I see. Was Neal known to be violent with his wife, Cobie? Do you know?

Dr. Graber: Well, she called me at some point. Neal would come home from stress in the office, drink too much vodka, and become somewhat violent. I didn’t follow any of that.

I don’t think she ever really accused him of any violence, but he was vulgar to her and her friends. And these are wealthy people from New Canaan. I mean, she had lovely friends, not him. Not a one. Not a male friend has he ever had. And he’s a very strange perception of women.

Parlato: In what way?

Dr. Graber: Somewhat sexually. Somewhat belittling. He can’t be friends with a woman. He doesn’t view them as an equal. I think one of the problems may have been that Cobie was accomplished. She was marketing for UPS if I’m not mistaken. She basically put him through dental school.

Cobie supported Neal Graber through dental school. After that, Graber used money and power to isolate his sons from their stay-at-home mother.

I think he was challenged by her. And when she and his mother had disagreements, that was all that he needed to alienate him. So he now lives with his mother.

Parlato: Has Neal remarried? Or does he have a new girlfriend?

Dr. Graber: Supposedly. The last time I had any contact was when my partner was thinking of bringing him in as a third partner back in the 90s when Neal was going to school and expressing an interest.

My partner met him at a meeting in Fairfield, about three months ago, and he came over to me and said, “Neal’s no different. He’s the same weird person”. I mean, he’s not socially correct in any way whatsoever. I mean, anyone would recognize this in five minutes.

But I’m sure he stood behind the aprons of his attorneys. And these attorneys did what he asked them to do.

And what he did is he destroyed two boys. There’s no reason why Cobie shouldn’t be seeing these kids. None whatsoever. if they want to get divorced, it’s fine, but there is no reason he alienated these kids against her. Zero.

Parlato: Would he be the type of man to punish these kids if they tried to show affection or a wish to be with their mother?

Dr. Graber: Absolutely. Absolutely. He brainwashed these kids. And then like I said, the last time I had contact, which was maybe five, six years ago with Harrison, the older one. The words he spoke when he referred to his mother. He said, “oh, you don’t understand.” “Understand what, Harrison?” He couldn’t come up with an answer. Bizarre. It was bizarre words coming from now a bizarre 14- 15 year old.

Parlato: Was she a stay-at-home mother initially?

Dr. Graber: Yes, very much so. They always make very decent income. Cobie made all suggestions regarding buying the practice that he eventually bought, setting it up and developing the marketing scheme, and getting everything going. Cobie did it. Neal was not swift enough. Cobie has business acumen. He didn’t.

Parlato: So she put him through dental school, found the house that they lived in, and made a deal.

Dr. Graber: Absolutely.

Parlato And then, she raised the children and supported and guided his business.

Dr. Graber: Absolutely.

Parlato: And then, when did they divorce? Do you know how old the children were?

Dr. Graber: I think when they were like 12 and eight, so you’re talking about six or seven years ago.

Parlato: So she raised them during the hardest, early years.

Dr. Graber: Absolutely. I mean, this is an injustice that is beyond belief.

Parlato: What could be done now if anything?

Dr. Graber: I don’t know, that’s why I called you.

I had dinner with Cobie about eight weeks ago when she happened to be in from Ghana. She’s trying to pay her bills and make money doing some exporting, which she doesn’t deserve to be. But it was a job that she found, and she was out of the market for ten years of her life.

Not only was Cobie beautiful, but intelligent, well-spoken, accomplished. And when she bought that house, a good deal on the house, and Neal would agree to that, it was her grandmother’s inheritance.

Parlato: Oh, so she made the down payment on the house?

Dr. Graber: Yes, yes,

Parlato: Did she get that money back?

Dr. Graber: I don’t think so. I wasn’t privy to it. I tried to only develop a relationship with Neal, trying to help because he called he said, Could you help? We’re headed towards divorce. So when he asked for my help, I jumped at the opportunity absolutely because I had nothing.

Within those couple of weeks and months, or maybe a year or so, I had numerous contact with him, more so than with Cobie, but my opinion of Cobie never changed from the first time I met her. A delightful young woman.

Neal ruined Cobie’s life.

Cobie Jane with her sons.

And he’s destroying these two boys. I can’t imagine these two boys having a normal social life. So I’ve lost contact with them. And I hope one day they’d reach out to me. I always left that as a possibility. But they haven’t.

Parlato: How old are they now?

Dr. Graber: Harrison is in his first year of college at Emory, so that would be 18. And the other one is about three-four years younger.

Parlato: I see, so they’re closing in on being adults.

Dr. Graber: They are, and I still hold out hope to Cobie. I said, “hopefully, they’ll have friends in college, and they’ll have some questions like you had some questions of me when you met Neal.”

Neal had lied to Cobie about me. But he was manipulated. Cobie heard about me from Neal, but when she met me, she told Neal “that’s just not true.”

Parlato: Right. Right. How many children did you have with Randy?

Dr. Graber: Two, Marc and Neal. We were living in Germany when Marc was born. I was a dentist in Germany. I was a captain and became a major. We came home with a child and then Neal was born in Stamford.

Parlato: You have a good relationship with your older son?

Dr. Graber: Excellent. Every day we talk. We’re in business together on a ski house in Vermont with two other friends. My son Marc is the most personable people person you could imagine. He is in the hospitality business. Marc has a wife and two delightful kids. We are as close as could be.

Parlato: Do Marc and Neal talk?

Dr. Graber: No.

Parlato: So I assume then that Marc doesn’t have a relationship with his nephews?

Dr. Graber: Zero. I don’t know if he’s met them.

Parlato: And Marc has children too, right?

Dr. Graber: Yes, he has two. This coming September, the 18-year-old is going off to the University of Indiana business school. And young Emily, who’s now 14 years old.

Parlato: Does Randy have a relationship with Marc’s children?

Dr. Graber: Zero.

Parlato: So it’s a truly divided family right down the middle.

Dr. Graber:  Truly divided. But not only do Randy and Neal not have a relationship with Marc, they did not have one with Randy’s own mother for the last five or seven years of their relationship. She does not have a relationship with her younger sister Sondra, which I do.

Randy is not unlike Neal. I don’t want to go there because I’m not a psychiatrist, but I believe most of this is through Randy’s manipulation. And brainwashing. Neal is a product of his mother, and he can’t overcome it.

Parlato: Would you be open to your grandchildren contacting you?

Dr. Graber: One hundred percent. Let them know that in the end, I’m here.

Parlato: Dr. Graber, you said you were a dentist for many years?

Dr. Graber: I retired at 72. I sold my practice. I’m 76, and I’m now working two days a week at Montefiore Hospital with 12 of the 60 residents under my instruction. And it’s become very successful. I started about nine months ago.

Parlato: Congratulations on that. And how is Neal’s practice? Do you think he’s running a successful, profitable dental practice?

Dr. Graber: I think he is.

Parlato: His claim to Cobie, according to Cobie, was that his business was down, and he, at least at one point, barely had any money, yet she said he bought a new house and drove an expensive car.

Dr. Graber: Neal’s bright and has good hands, so he probably is a very decent dentist. However, how he relates to his patients, I have no idea.

But he probably has an extensive insurance practice in a very blue-collar neighborhood. The demographics are very blue-collar, with a lot of insurance. And he’s probably fast. And he probably does pretty well. I saw something in your article where he claims his income is down because he has some health issues or back issues. I doubt that.

Neal Graber, Dental Center of Huntington, Shelton, CT

Parlato: I see.

Dr. Graber: I’m not sure he’s making $600,000, which he may have done in his good years. But he’s undoubtedly making $400,000.

Parlato: Net?

Dr. Graber: Net. Oh, yeah. No, I’m talking gross would be a million, a million two.

Parlato: I see. So he had the money. Cobie did not. I think you said he could spoil the kids with trips and finer things.

Dr. Graber: Skiing and trips. I took Neal to ski when he was a kid. I taught him how to ski. I had a ski house up in Okemo in Vermont. Right now we have another one that I bought with my son.

Parlato: Would you trust Cobie with your kids?

Dr. Graber: In a second.

Parlato: Does anything about her seem dangerous, or is there a valid reason to keep her from her children?

Dr. Graber: Nothing. I have never, ever seen any problem. I use to call her “mother earth” to the kids. And we kept in contact all these years. Occasionally, she’d write to me, or I’d write or call her.

Parlato: Did you get the feeling, or do you feel that if it had been up to her, she would have worked to keep the relationships?

Dr. Graber: Absolutely. Yes, she would have. She would never give up on those kids. Never.

Parlato: And how about keeping a relationship with you and trying to promote one with you and your son?

Dr. Graber: That’s what she tried to do. She contacted me to back a relationship with Neal being my son.

I guess maybe it made it worse when she challenged him. She said “your dad’s nothing like you told me. He did not marry someone in his office. He is not an evil person. Your mother is telling you this, but that’s not your father.”

Cobie and I have a nice relationship now. I would have loved her to be my daughter-in-law. And I miss her terribly.

I would welcome any help you could give us. That’s why I’m reaching out to you to help. It pains me as a father to admit that my son is damaged goods.

Parlato: Is there any hope for him that maybe he may mellow out? Or calm down or realize that the mother overly influences his behavior towards you and his brother?

Dr. Graber: Well, I think it would take intensive therapy.  I think too many years have gone by. He’s been poisoned so intensely for so many years that I don’t see it happening. He would need intensive therapy with psychiatry. And I’d be more than willing to go with him as often as required. I would pay for it.

Parlato: Is there anything else you’d like me to know?

Dr. Graber: It’s just that what you did is you touched the tip of the iceberg. The injustice is beyond belief.

Parlato: Well, we have to keep chipping away.

Dr. Graber: Do you think you could help in any way whatsoever? I mean, I will testify. I will do- I will give supporting information and do anything.

Parlato: Well, one of the ways that’s worked in other cases I’ve written about is sometimes children reunite. The children read the stories, and then they recognize that there’s a narrative that’s different than what their father has told them.

Dr. Graber: Well, if that would help, fine. An excellent result is that my grandchildren, his two sons, reunite with their mother. So that would be my hope, minimally.

I have no vindictive feelings towards my son. I feel bad for him. I feel bad that he must be suffering. Because nobody, nobody could function and feel comfortable with his life the way he is. He cut out their mother. He’s without friends.

No male friends, no female friends. No family. This is bizarre. I mean, attached to his mother is nuts. He didn’t have a close relationship with his brother or his aunt or nobody, and pretty much everybody will tell you exactly what I just told you.

And the courts did this. They missed it; they missed it greatly.

Parlato: I wonder if they were incentivized. The guardian’s desire for money and the lawyers. Knowing that Cobie couldn’t match Neal dollar for dollar, they leaned towards Neal, giving him the upper hand.

Dr. Graber: Absolutely. I mean, when she left, I think that she got back some of the money from her inheritance, but it wasn’t a significant sum.

Parlato: Lawyers would take that in no time at all.

Dr. Graber: She couldn’t pay a lawyer’s bills. We knew that.

Parlato: Dr. Graber, you’ve added a dimension that I think is important.

Dr. Graber: You could research my professional and personal contacts. I’m open to anything.

Parlato: Okay, Dr. Graber, I appreciate that.

Dr. Graber:  I’m open to any verification. You could contact my colleagues and even my past partner in the practice we sold. He’s now chairman of the dental department in Montefiore, probably the largest, if not the second-largest program in the country.

And anything you need, I’ll give you any backup information. We just need help, justice.

Parlato: These are strange, Godless animals at CT Family Court. Time after time I see the stay-at-home mother robbed of her children. Always it is the guardian ad litem who takes control and squeezes the money out of the father and the mother is left homeless and without contact with her child. Godless creatures. Damnable, execrable.  Someday there has to be justice for Cobie Jane and a grandfather who never got to know his grandchildren. Cobie would have tried for him.

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  • Neal Graber couldn’t handle being called out for his abusive behavior and as such, resorted to destroying his family. He took his children away from their mother who has fought every step of the way to be a part of their lives. One day the boys will know the truth about their father.

  • This story is horrific. I’ve been a patient of Dr. Neal Graber for 10 years, recently stopped going since he dropped our insurance. He was always very pleasant with our family and is excellent at his trade. I’m so saddened to read about his personal life and my hearts breaks for Cobie and the boys. Keeping your children from their loving mother is disgusting, I have no words. I’m happy that I’m no longer supporting his practice after reading this.

  • Frank-

    I cannot put into words the injustice which has been done to this mother.

    I applaud you and the work you are doing investigating the vast injustices occurring in Connecticut divorce court.

    I hope you are able to get the laws in Connecticut courts reformed.

    I believe your work on this story is second only to your work helping to bring Raniere to justice.

    The last time you were fighting for your own life and this time your fighting for the lives of other people. That’s truly virtuous. Sincerely.

    The last reforms done in Connecticut divorce court were a joke.

    If anyone can get the laws changed it’s you.

  • Thank you, Dr. Stuart Graber, for being brave enough to speak the truth.

    Your grandsons may be hurt and confused but hope Neal Graber reaches out to make amends and quickly. Life is short.

    Do the right thing Neal Graber.

  • Kids are deprived of mother and grandparents. This is genocide by CT family courts.

    They are literally killing off parents, grandparents and extended family. And only abusive parents would use bs no-contact orders to deprive their own children of love, affection and attention.

    This is Connecticut family courts. To hell with the 14th amendment.

  • Was caverly the custody evaluator? Is there a report you can post? I’m truly intrigued by this case because it doesn’t match up with the others.

  • This is such an injustice and it’s terrifying that this could happen. Thank you Dr Graber for speaking out. I know Cobie is wonderful mother. We were friends before her life got turned upside down and I can tell you everything said about Neal is true. Hang in there Cobie, keep fighting and stay strong.

  • It’s unbelievable that this kind of injustice can happen in America…having witnessed Cobie’s unconditional love for her children, I hope this article both helps to unveil the truth to Harrison and Chase so that they can reunite with their amazing mom, and gets the ball rolling to fix the broken family court system so that no more loving moms like Cobie can have their lives torn apart by this type of corruption.

    Dr. Stuart Graber, thank you for coming forward to speak your truth, as difficult as it must be.

  • Cobie is a wonderful mother. I knew her and the boys when they were younger. That this could be happen is beyond my comprehension and appalling. To say this is a terrible injustice is an understatement. Cobie and the boys can never get these years back but I pray that at some point they will be reunited.

  • I knew Cobie for many, many years. We had a falling out around the time they were buying the house. Though we no longer speak, she is all the positives outlined in the interview and comments. Heart of gold, smart and caring. He’s awful. I knew it the few times we chatted.

  • I am heartbroken for Cobie and her sons. My children are the same ages as Cobie’s, and we were close when they were very young. Cobie is the kindest, most compassionate, caring mother I’ve ever known. After growing apart when we moved out of the country for a few years, Cobie found out that we were moving to her town of New Canaan and our kids would be going to school together. To ease the transition to a new school, Cobie invited us over for homemade muffins before our first day of school, and she and her boys walked us to school. The Graber boys walked my kids to class, introduced them to their friends and made them feel comfortable. This was ALL Cobie. She led by example and taught her boys to be kind and respectful.

    I have never put my name in print because I do not trust Neal. I’ve witnessed his explosive temper and belittling treatment of both Cobie and their sons.

    Neal was asked to leave the boy’s baseball games several times by coaches and staff because he would stand in the outfield and chastise the boys. He stopped coaching bc none of the other coaches would agree to work with him bc he was such a negative influence on all the kids.

    I would be happy to talk to anyone in the press or go to court. Cobie – you know who I am and how to reach me. Stay strong and we love you. 💔

  • It is obvious from the responses to this article by those that know Cobie all agree that a gross injustice occurred. Alienation of affection can have long term severe repercussions for the children well into their adulthood. Not only did the court system ignore this but supported a toxic environment over the wholesome, caring and nurturing love of their mother!

    • There is no injustice where the sovereign people of Connecticut empower the judicial mafia to inflict such damage on families, destroy childhoods and allow monsters in black robe to operated outside constitutional limits. Let that sink in. The people of Connecticut are doing this to mothers and their children

  • Thank you, Dr Stuart Graber, for bravely coming forward to bring his son, Dr Neal Graber’s personality disorder, narcissism, and treachery to the public light. The court system is obviously very broken but this man, Neal Graber, caused it all. It takes a very small, insecure, raged man like Neal Graber to lie to his children and everyone around them and forbid his children from seeing their mother. Hopefully the children will soon recognize what a monster he is.

  • This story is 100% the truth! I’ve been involved from the start as a friend of Cobie’s. I went to meetings, talking to lawyers and keeping her sane during this experience. A mother like Cobie shouldn’t be denied her children. The courts failed her, the judicial system is broken. Neil is a typical narcissist. I’ve always told Cobie that Karma has no expiration date. I don’t know if Harrison can be salvaged but I believe Chase has a solid chance as he’s more like his mother.

  • These cases are violations of basic human rights.

    They are simply unconscionable!

    A select group of professionals – psychologists, guardians ad litem and attorneys engage in organized schemes that generate a lot of money between them.

    They know the grave harm they cause to children, protective parents, extended family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, friends, the community).

    How do they sleep at night?

    There is no legitimate explanation that can justify dollars over the harm they cause!

    Thank you, Dr. Stuart Graber, for your courage in speaking out on behalf of your grandchildren and your ex-daughter-in-law. It takes a strong, honorable individual to speak up about such atrocities!

    The bottom line, making money by inflicting emotional harm is simply wrong, foul, and cost-prohibitive.

    Look at the studies by actual professionals who don’t engage in authoring false narratives for money (psychiatrists, psychologists, and other professionals).

    This financial scheme that has gone on way too long has and continues to harm society. The harm caused goes from one extreme to another, and in far too many matters, the result is the ultimate loss of life.

    As with all other issues that have had such horrific consequences on society, history teaches us that the only way to ensure change is for society to work together and demand accountability.

    By enforcing existing laws and establishing new laws, we must close the gaps that have allowed these professionals and public officials to benefit financially from these cases.

    For those that think, ‘it’s not my problem,’ and ‘it’s not my child,’ remember, it takes a strong community to raise a well-rounded child, to achieve the most reliable outcome of that child developing into an adult that can thrive as an individual and a member of society.

    So bottom line, all of these emotionally damaged children impact everyone. The consequences can be minimal to grave.

    We must come together to support change.

    • You forgot to blame everything on those nasty Jews, Nikolai.

      This ignorance and anti-Semitism that has“gone on way too long has and continues.to harm society.”

      How do you sleep at night?

  • I’ve worked with Cobie, she is a loving caring person. This is a tragedy. The day I met her she shared her story, it is heart breaking. No one should have that much control.

  • I wanted to say that this is very authentic. It’s too real to make it up. This woman should not have lost her kids.

  • Neal- Be a real man and father – make amends. Step up, reach out to Cobie and get her together with your sons!

    This is cruelty. Just move forward with Cobie in their life. You eliminated her. Now you can make amends and bring her back into their lives.

    Do it. Life is short Neal.
    Be a man. Stop engaging in child abuse and give your sons their mother.

    It doesn’t have to be about fault or blame. Just let them reunite and allow Cobie a chance to rebuild the loving bonds.

    Pretending she’s crazy, dead or disinterested is criminal. Please do it Neal.

  • So many court appointed experts needed to destroy a family.

    The greater the court appointed experts, the greater the damage.

    • GALs are designed to tear families apart, loot family savings, inflame litigation, that is why they operate with absolute immunity, conferred on them by the judiciary, not by statute. The system is designed to destroy, for the benefit of the Bar and those who run the state …. not by elected representatives of the people. Get a clue, this is how the ruling elite rule.

  • CT family court does this to families everyday. One parent is left in despair and the threats are so severe that you are afraid to speak out.

    These are not issues of “high conflict” they are issues of “high earnings” – for gals, psychologists, and custody evaluators like Jessica caverly and Linda smith.

    The children are deprived of so much love which is child abuse by the father and the courts.

    I’m the end the children will hate the father for taking them, lying and denying them their mother, their grandfather, and All extended family under the guise of a “high conflict divorce”.

  • If a dad can’t purchase his own sons who else should? The grandfather?

    Connecticut family court sells children to one of their parents, not strangers. It seems to me that if the father has more money than the mother it’s her fault for being a lazy stay at home mother while the dad was out working his tail off.

    He earned the children through damn hard work. She sat on her butt and now she’s griping.

    Stay-at-home mother is another word for lazy

  • Thank you, Frank, for publishing this. And thank you Dr. Graber for being willing to express your views, as hard as it must have been to speak against your son. I can see that truth and justice matter to you and hope that Cobie will one day finally experience it. She is a wonderful person who has been absolutely devastated by the loss of her sons who she loves more than anything. If they ever read this article, I hope that they will start to realize the truth and desire to see their mother.

About the Author

Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist.

His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” He also appeared in "Branded and Brainwashed: Inside NXIVM, and was credited in the Starz docuseries "Seduced" for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Additionally, Parlato’s coverage of the group OneTaste, starting in 2018, helped spark an FBI investigation, which led to indictments of two of its leaders in 2023.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premieres on May 22, 2022.

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