In Family Court, The Fight is Fake — But The Money (and Destruction) is Real

April 12, 2025

It happens every day in Family Court. Two lawyers walk in. They bow to the judge like it’s church. They shake hands like it’s Christmas. Then fight.

For the mother — Ed Nusbaum, who charges $750 an hour. He says “We are only here for the best interest of the child.”

Nancy Aldrich

For the father — Nancy Aldrich, who looks like your favorite aunt but bills like a surgeon. “My client has grave concerns, your honor.”

They fight all morning. Then at lunch, they sit together and order soup and laugh about the fight like poker buddies.

“We’ll run with parental alienation against my client, right?” Nusbaum says.

“Oh, definitely,” says Aldrich. “And therapy for the kids.”

“And monitored visitation.”

“Always.”

“Jocelyn Hurwitz can be the guardian. She needs the work.”

The Guardian Ad Litem: Your Child’s Court-Appointed Assassin

GAL Jocelyn Hurwitz

Hurwitz is the guardian ad litem. The lawyer for the child. Hurwitz calls her friend, the custody evaluator, Jessica Biren Caverly. She knows her job is not to find the truth but the money.

The mother who has a pension from teaching twenty years of math? She will lose the pension in fees. The father with the high income – the real abuser – has the money. The mother will fight until her last breath for the welfare of her children. The father will pay until his wife’s last breath to punish her. The children have lived with their mother all their lives. Their father is virtually a stranger, a cruel sadistic stranger.

The father, of course, will get custody. It was planned by the attorneys in advance. This is business.

Ed Shatbaum

Hurwitz knows the evaluator will will find parental alienation and recommend flipping custody and destroying the children’s happiness.  She wants more referrals.

“Supervised visitation for the mother.”  The lawyers know this will lead to motions, objections, replies, letters, court dates.

The custody evaluator knows what she will find

 

Judge Jane Kupson Grossman

Judge Jane Grossman says in court: “It appears counsel are working together professionally to resolve these difficult matters.”

It is one of the few truthful things Judge Grossman ever said.  Working together? Oh, yes – to keep the case alive.  To keep the money flowing. Working together to keep the children hostage until the house is sold, the accounts are empty, and one of the parents are gone.

At the end of the day, Nusbaum says to Aldrich, “See you tomorrow.” And Aldrich says, “You bet.” And they smile. For it is not really a bet. It is a sure thing.

The Victims

They wait at home for their mother with coloring books they do not color. She never appears. They wait in the back seat of a car outside where their father will pick them up and blame them for their tears, for missing their mother. They wait in bedrooms in silence missing their mother. From a happy home, the team flipped them to a lonely home, the home of the parent who could pay more.

Slowly, one parent disappears. First from dinners. Then from weekends. Then holidays. Then from life.

Judge Grossman calls it “in the best interest of the child.” The lawyers call it “billing.” The custody evaluator calls it “parental alienation.” The guardian ad litem calls it “recommendations.” 

The child calls it “Where is my father?” Or When can I see mommy again?”

The missing parent is alive but gone. They ran out of money. They refused to break. They loved too loudly or fought too hard or could not afford ten-thousand-dollar experts to say what was true. Family court does not care who was right. It cares who can pay. It cares who can last. It cares who complies. In the end, the child learns what family court teaches: Love is conditional. Safety is money. Truth is a thing you buy. Parents are temporary. Family is fragile.

They call it family court. But what it does is something else. It makes orphans of the living.

As Fagin said to the youth he taught to steal, “It is our living.” So saith the players of family court.

 

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Will they investigate ”family court” corruption?
Will they investigate ”family court” corruption?
7 months ago

BREAKING: FBI to Leave Hoover Building, Major Relocation Plan Announced

FBI Director Kash Patel announced that the Bureau is officially moving out of the Hoover Building, citing safety concerns for the workforce.

“This building is unsafe. If you’re going to come work at the premier law enforcement agency in the world, we’re going to give you a building that reflects that—and this isn’t it.”

Patel revealed the FBI will reassign 5,000 employees from the D.C. region to field offices across the country, aiming to decentralize operations and strengthen efforts against violent crime.

“Every state’s getting a plus-up… We want agents out in America doing the work.”

The full relocation effort is expected to roll out over the next 3–9 months. 

Anonymous
Anonymous
7 months ago

The system is not broken. It’s working like a fine oiled piece of machinery that will churn out parents and their children in to pieces. Perfectly sad, dragging out the case, in order to extort money of parents that are losing and or have lost everything. These criminals and third-party parasites have gotten away with this for how many decades?? This is why we have personality disorders, 1 in 20 are Sociopaths. Abolish family court, take it down to civil court where a good, fit parent can have a jury and possibly a victory, along with their children. – Maryann Petri

Social Engineering
Social Engineering
8 months ago

The custody evaluator calls it “parental alienation.”

“… Political abuse of psychiatry refers to the misuse of psychiatric diagnosis, treatment and detention for the purposes of obstructing the fundamental human rights of certain individuals and groups in a given society. The practice is common in, but not exclusive to, countries governed by totalitarian regimes. In these regimes abuses of the human rights of those politically opposed to the state are often hidden under the guise of psychiatric treatment. …”

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4768845/

Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson
Jeffrey Moussaieff Masson
8 months ago

“It had never seemed right to me, even as a student, that Freud would not believe his patients.” p. xvii

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

https://www.childabusivejudges.com/Click here:  IN all 50 STATES.Reported judges
​Many judges are accused more than once.
“IT IS OK TO ABUSE A CHILD AS LONG AS IT IS PSYCHOLOGICALLY.” Divisions of child services.
Newest Letter and box containing all 1000 judges sent to the fbi.

Which religion controls “family courts”? 🧐
Which religion controls “family courts”? 🧐
8 months ago

“Trump tariffs will cost average American family $4,700 per year, Yale study says”

Do the people at Yale know state “family courts” cost average American families far more than that? Has anyone at Yale calculated the exponential costs of purposefully adversarial for profit “family courts”?

For example, how much did the Dulos case cost taxpayers — and who interfered with the prosecutions of Simon Hessler and Kent Mawhinney?

Will Yale tell us how much the Dulos case cost Connecticut?
Will Yale tell us how Joette Katz still influences the judicial branch?
Will Yale tell us who allows Michael Sussman to influence the judicial branch?

(HINT: It’s not “the Jews”.)

As soon as Governor Lamont feels comfortable talking openly about the Canaanite alter under the Rockefeller cottage on Jekyll Island — and the pagan statue in Greenwich — and how The Federal Reserve conducts business in private for profit, maybe Yale will feel comfortable enough to tell us how and why Connecticut family courts conduct business in private for profit.

Last edited 8 months ago by Which religion controls “family courts”? 🧐
The politics is the religion.
The politics is the religion.
8 months ago

… The argument was that the West wanted to “secure as much of the dark magic of the Nazi [war] rocket program as they could.” …

https://nypost.com/2025/04/15/us-news/unbelievable-operations-the-cia-actually-carried-out/

Tucker
Tucker
8 months ago

… And Maine is another one of the most secular states, unfortunately. And those trends are rising there as well, famously. And there’s something about, there are lots of left-wing ideas that, or liberal ideas, or socialist ideas that like, well, I don’t disagree with all of them, honestly. But some of them I do, a lot of them really disagree with. the transgender thing, the abortion thing, human sacrifice and turning your children to eunuchs, those are so clearly expressions of cultish religion, of pagan religion that like, I can’t turn away. I’m like, the Canaanites did this. I know what’s going on here. This is not, you claim you’re secular, you’re not secular at all. These are religious rituals. …

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Tucker

Will the person who disliked Tucker’s comments share their opinions?

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

Does the religion controlling the world’s “family courts”
also control The Bank for International Settlements?

Different Michael Sussman in the Hessler case ..
Different Michael Sussman in the Hessler case ..
8 months ago

“Will Yale tell us who allows Michael Sussman to influence the judicial branch?”

November 20, 2023

Filing 12 NOTICE of Appearance by Michael H. Sussman on behalf of Simon Hessler (Sussman, Michael)

If only Connecticut were in Kansas …
If only Connecticut were in Kansas …
8 months ago

“… HB 2311
Short Title
Prohibiting the secretary from adopting and enforcing policies for placement, custody and appointment of a custodian that may conflict with sincerely held religious or moral beliefs regarding sexual orientation or gender identity and creating a right of action for violations. …”

Margaret Sullivan
8 months ago

A Personal Response to Frank Parlato’s “In Family Court, The Fight is Fake — But The Money (and Destruction) is Real”
By Margaret Sullivan, Co-Author of Exposing Family Court Corruption in Connecticut

Frank Parlato’s article is not an exaggeration—it’s an accurate, unfiltered depiction of the soul-crushing reality many families face in family court. I know, because I lived it.

When I co-authored Exposing Family Court Corruption in Connecticut: A System Betrayed, I did so not as a legal scholar or journalist, but as a mother who watched the system destroy everything I had built to protect my children. What Frank describes—the collusion, the manipulation, the money-driven decisions—is not satire for me. It was my life.

The so-called “fight” in family court is often choreographed behind closed doors. The attorneys may appear to battle in the courtroom, but outside, they’re shaking hands and planning the next billing cycle. Meanwhile, mothers like me are drained of our savings, dignity, and most tragically, our children.
Parlato writes of “parental alienation” being used as a strategy. I’ve seen this weapon used to silence protective parents, discredit abuse allegations, and justify custody reversals that traumatize children. He writes about GALs and custody evaluators trading referrals like currency. I’ve watched these very people influence life-altering decisions while ignoring evidence, dismissing experts, and spinning narratives that suit the highest-paying client.

And the judges? Like the one he names, I’ve seen them praise “professional cooperation” between opposing attorneys while turning a blind eye to blatant injustice. It’s not just unethical—it’s state-sanctioned cruelty.

What hurts the most is that the children, the ones the system claims to protect, are used as pawns in a profit machine. When the money runs out, so does the court’s concern. Parents are pushed out of their children’s lives, not because they are unfit—but because they were outspent, outmaneuvered, and outlasted.

In my book, I called for transparency, accountability, and reform—not because I believe the system is beyond hope, but because I know that silence allows this machine to keep running. I wrote for the mother holding court papers instead of her child. For the father who couldn’t afford another hearing. For the child asking, “Why can’t I go home?”

Frank Parlato’s piece may shock those who’ve never stepped foot in family court. But for those of us who have, it’s validation. It’s truth. And it’s overdue.
This system doesn’t need another year of “working groups” and closed-door reforms. It needs exposure. It needs overhaul. And it needs to remember its purpose: to protect families, not profit from their collapse.

Until then, I will keep writing, speaking, and fighting. Because I know what it’s like to lose everything to this system. And I won’t stop until it changes.

Margaret Sullivan
Author, Advocate, and Mother
#FamilyCourtReform #ExposeTheSystem #JusticeForChildren #EndCourtCorruption

Pennsylvanians call that “kids for cash” 💰
Pennsylvanians call that “kids for cash” 💰
8 months ago

“… He writes about GALs and custody evaluators trading referrals like currency. “

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kids_for_cash_scandal

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

Good mainstream news outlet writers and editors should already know:

In an ideal world, family courts would function flawlessly, ensuring that justice prevails and that all parties receive fair treatment. These courts are essential to maintaining social order and stability by resolving conflicts that could otherwise escalate into more serious societal issues. When functioning properly, family courts provide a critical service, offering resolutions that are in the best interests of children and families.

Good mainstream news outlet writers and editors should already know:

Corruption in family courts can take many forms, from blatant bribery and favoritism to more subtle forms of bias and incompetence. Judges, lawyers, and other court officials may act out of self-interest, be influenced by personal biases, or simply lack the necessary training and resources to handle complex family law cases effectively. These issues can lead to unjust rulings, prolonged legal battles, and immense emotional and financial strain on families.

How can Connecticut mainstream news outlet writers and editors NOT tell Connecticut residents the whole truth about the Troconis and the Mawhinney cases?

One of Jennifer Dulos’ motions to the Court dated May 1, 2019 is:

PLAINTIFF’S MOTION FOR REMOVAL OF GUARDIAN AD LITEM, PENDENTE LITE

That particular motion says attorney Michael T. Meehan violated C.G.S. 46b-7 and P.B. 46b-60A and 46-60A. Which individuals have withheld such critical information from Connecticut residents?

That May 1, 2019 motion to the Court says, “… The GAL, then gave and permitted access to the report to the Defendant and his counsel …

That May 1, 2019 motion to the Court says, “… It appears that the GAL became aware of the contents of the Custody evaluation before he was authorized by the court to see the report. …”

That May 1, 2019 motion to the Court says, “… Based on the Defendant’s and GAL’s advanced access to and knowledge of the content of the report, the Defendant was given the opportunity to disseminate the findings of the Court to third parties …”

That May 1, 2019 motion to the Court says, “In addition, based upon the actions of the Guardian Ad Litem it appears that the Guardian Ad Litem has made his own determinations concerning the purported validity of the custody evaluation and has acted upon the custody evaluation assuming that it has evidentiary value under seal … despite the fact that the evidentiary value of the report (if any) is dependent upon a judicial determination that can be made only after the author of the report testifies and is available for cross examination in an evidentiary hearing at trial. …”

That May 1, 2019 motion to the Court says, “… The Plaintiff also notes, that the GAL who had previously been requested by the Plaintiff to update and to disclose the contents of his file, and who advised Plaintiff counsel that he was going to provide the updated materials, has failed to do so despite being reminded of the request. The requests for the supplemental disclosure by the GAL of his file was made prior to the GAL receiving the Custody Evaluation; prior to his disseminating it to the Defendant and his counsel; and prior to the Court appearance on April 30, 2019. …”

Jennifer disappeared on May 24, 2019. Good mainstream news outlet writers and editors should tell the world what happened.

May this attract a mainstream reporter …
May this attract a mainstream reporter …
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

@news12ct
@marissaalternews
@MarissaAlter

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

The only way this system will reform is if the Trump administration sends the DOJ and FBI to investigate and shut down this RICO racket which literally only involves around 50 or so lawyers, judges, and other “ professionals” in CT. The courts in CT should be placed under federal oversight until the swamp is drained.

People should start writing complaints to President Trump, Pam Bondi, and Kash Patel urging them to do this.

Margaret Sullivan
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Agreed!!

Jon
Jon
8 months ago

Look over at Cohen and Wolfe they all just became Guardians. Congratulations you will surely help the children get justice.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Jon

One of their partners just lost his license for 3 months for a something outside family court. Yet, no one is disciplined for family court cases. Dumpster fires generating wealth for the players in the game.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Jon

The GAL’s there charge $650 per hour and up in the service of keeping children safe, while draining their parents bank accounts and college funds.

Welfare reform custody capture
Welfare reform custody capture
8 months ago

Karen’s case is one of the many tails coming up around the state and county. . While Chris Ambrose was absent from the marital home in Hollywood, Karen was raising the children. When a pattern of concerning behavior started to accure when he resided back in the family home. Divorce papers where filed. Connecticut has documented through the fatherhood initiative that it’s likely to be difficult to collect child support when you don’t see your children. Child support services is also responsible for alimony. Possibly leading to the need for public assistance. Nusbaulm and the gang where only to happy to brancrupt Karen into forced agreements. Like 50/50 custody and split the assets. With no financial support. While Karen and other mothers put up a hell of a fight and don’t surrender they have their children taken away. Through the psychologist and Alienation industry. On the heels of the custody capture scam exposed in the Dolus case. The bar association sent Cuda in. Because more public assistance money may need to be paid if the state of Connecticut recognizes abuse and starts protecting children. Prosecution of it. As seen in the testimony of the black lives matter 860 judiciary hearing for judicial reappointment. Single black mothers. ” Welfare queens” welfare reform . Ignored by Senitor Gary Winfield. Champion of criminal justice reform and black community leader. All assisting to get statics to run to Congress and pass 50/50 legislation and at least reduce child support. Experts from the Alienation industry have realized that mothers are coming forward. So their is a push to get the mom’s like Karen on board with the complaints about family court. Knowing that Karen doesn’t fit the 17 symptoms. Despite believing either Karen and her children are fibbing or Chris Ambrose should be allowed access 50 percent of the time. Despite the alligations . These are similar experiences of women involved in family court. Equal and shared parenting has been using the fatherhood initiative run by Diana Ditunno wife of Joseph Ditunno head of family relations. Statics and appear to be bultered by the finding or lack of findings in the court . Blaming the courts when they don’t order 50/50 or access. Ditunno also running violent offender programs. Friend and long time co- worker Karen jarmoc. Karen jarmoc left the ccadv during the scandal in which Karen’s husband unjustly enriched the lives of himself and Karen with the money from his father suffering from Alzheimer’s. Martin Looney decided after a cooling off period that Karen jarmoc should be appointed to the commission on women children seniors equity and inclusion. Supposed to weight in on the legislation for the group. Considering that the legislation for fatherhood is passed basically pushed as a minority community project the voices of women and children are not represented in the input for legislation. Bringing more funding into the state. No voice for legislation when children were trafficed out of the DCF home and living under horrible condition. No voice when DCF did not investigate the 68 pound man when he burned his house down to escape captivity through out childhood. Suddenly Norm Pattis is in on the case. His license reenstated. The big supporter of criminal justice reform. Supporting pedophiles be kept out of jail. While DCF safety plans. Who’s ass is Norm really covering? The wicked stepmom or the state of Connecticut? While Tong files suit against the president and keeps Doge from snooping around. The comptroller reports are late. The ccadv is underfunded and begging for scrapes. While Marsh Klein Pruitt is running a first of it’s kind study for ” problematic fathers” receiving hundreds of thousands for studies through the welfare reform and DCF funding. Husband Kyle Pruitt head of children psychiatry unit at Yale. Fatherhood initiative and equal and shared parenting. Gotlibe is at war with the mee too movement . At war with safe parenting. Using a hit list collected by Joan klot zanard. Equal shared parenting and largest nonprofit organization for Parental Alienation. Referral network for “coaching”. Now selling alienation coaching lessons to parents and unsuspecting women who children are court napped and desperately want to see them. With the promise of 50)50 custody will cure all the problems. Blame the Attorneys who don’t support Alienation and prove abuse cases. Dubrubba custody capture gone wrong. The initial silver bullet police call backfired. So the GaL called the prosecutor office. Cost savings for production. Setting the stage for alienation. Child support and alimony off the table. Gotlibe critism of mothers posting their cases and pictures of children. Minewhile kloth Zanard joins Dubrubba in posting Ann Marie and the kids. Goes after the adult stepson on the internet. All ignored as Gotlibe turns off the comments on tic toc and attacks Tina from one mom’s battle and Danielle Pollack from safe parents organization. While the appearing of coaching sessions for $240 dollars an hour over the phone for Amy Barker Joan’s ideal is exposed. In 2023 Amy Barker states in an interview that an evaluation must be done to rule out estrangement for good reasons and performs coaching sessions without evaluation on a case. Perhaps leading to a court order to the reunification camps. While financially ambushed mothers children are court napped they are not eligible for state assistance and the state is off the hook. Minewhile the equal and shared community of angry child support payers are going after the system for enforcing child support. Collecting money from the federal government to fund the crusade. 4 ever dads is on the board of the children’s law center and judicial branch employee. A conflict of the and leading the statistics planning. Assisting to keep the welfare funding down and create the illusion it’s a minority project. Helping to guide the country into a motherless society. Where father’s have all the power and control of their children. Including domestic batters and pedophiles when they claim Alienation.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

Any suggestions on how to improve this situation?

BTW. does “Their father is virtually a stranger, a cruel sadistic stranger…” refer to our old friend C.A.?

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Yes, get the FBI and DOJ to investigate the CT family court RICO racket and put it under federal control until it is cleaned up

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Some one should shut down David Wegal and his terrorist warrior operations. Uneducated people who don’t know how to use the family court system are being misguided. Poor legal advice is being administered. Threatening to bulldozer the family court judges. These are the people pushing 50/50 legislation. Telling half stories about the case. The same fear and intimidation tactics, because they want everything their way. It’s not high conflict couples. It’s spreading mob mentality and Alienation cult cool aid. This is not best interest standards. It’s not selfish parents who should work it out.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Wow.. maybe you should know what the project is about before making comments. It has nothing to do with legal process but to call out the corruption. No legal advice is given because “family court” does not follow law.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

I had Nusbuam. He transferred custody of my life savings to his children’s college fund.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Which Connecticut politicians are supposed to help you and didn’t?

If you’re willing and able, you can find other parents who are also victims of Mr. Nusbaum’s criminal activities in Connecticut “family courts”.

Meet with other parents he’s harmed. Organize and develop a plan. Find and record the patterns of criminal activity. Gather evidence. Note the names of other attorneys, guardians ad litem, evaluators, therapists, mediators, reunifiers etc. etc. showing up in each horribly mismanaged case.

The extreme harm done to children and families in Connecticut “family courts” since the 1970s is called “racketeering”.

Find Your Representative, Senator and Congressperson by Town:
https://www.cga.ct.gov/asp/content/townlist.asp

Mr. Nussbaum’s office is located in Westport.

Jim Himes, Ceci Maher, Dominique Johnson and Jonathan Steinberg must address all the harm Mr. Nusbaum did to children and families.

Jim Himes, Ceci Maher, Dominique Johnson and Jonathan Steinberg must also protect children and families from further harm.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

why would they help you… they are all bought and paid for by the attorneys and judges…. like stringed marionettes

Which facts prove that?
Which facts prove that?
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

🤔

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

The family court system is guided by government funding. Policy and procedures.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Did he challenge you to a wrestling match if you refused?

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

Legal Fees & Family Court Spending$55 Billion annually in U.S. family law industry:
Source: Institute for Family Studies, “Family Law Reform and the High Cost of Divorce”
Also referenced in Divorce Corp documentary and related financial analysis

Attorney fees ranging $400–$600/hour:
Source: National Center for State Courts (NCSC) and Martindale-Nolo Legal Research
Nolo’s Legal Cost Survey 2023 reports that divorce attorneys charge an average of $270–$600/hour depending on location and case complexity

$20,000–$100,000 per custody battle:
Source: Forbes AdvisorNolo.com, and U.S. News legal finance articles

Parental Alienation & Custody Outcomes
25% of children in high-conflict divorces are estranged from one parent:
Source: Warshak, R. (2015). Ten Parental Alienation Fallacies That Compromise Decisions in Court and in Therapy.
Also supported by Bernet et al. studies on long-term effects of alienation

70% of alienated parents are mothers:
Source: Harman, J., Kruk, E., & Hines, D. (2018). Parental Alienating Behaviors: An Unacknowledged Form of Family Violence.
Published in Psychology, Public Policy, and Law

Fathers with greater financial resources win custody nearly 80% of the time in contested cases:
Source: Brinig, M. & Allen, D. (2000). These Boots Are Made for Walking: Why Most Divorce Filers Are WomenAmerican Law and Economics Review
Also discussed in ABA Journal and Journal of Law and Family Studies

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

We can thank the Alienation industry it’s self for the significant amount of mothers who have lost their children. Stop the funding. Start policing the psychology. Fraud is real. It’s a bipartisan responsibility to expose and squash it. Stop dividing our nation spreading hate between white and black/brown. Stop the gender and race wars.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

A well connected family attorney in CT charges more than $650 per hour.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

The only way to retain custody if you are not the monied spouse is to bow your head and comply. My children were forced to apologize to their father. And I understood I was expected to treat him with deference.

I supported his time with them even though they were seriously injured in his care. Even though my stomach churned every time I said goodbye, knowing their lives were endanger.

Even if I knew what he was capable of, I had to pretend he was normal and safe.

When CPS visited, the children pointed out on an anatomical chart where he had been touching them. Kids had told me what was happening when he was alone with them.

In divorce court I had to pretend that meant nothing.

But why did none associated with court realize how dangerous it was to entrust someone with almost zero childcare experience with helpless young children? He needed child safety classes. (I had done that as a teen, and infant CPR when the first was born.)

He left them alone at his house unsupervised, while they burned toys in his gas fireplace. He left a child alone at his house when he flew out of the country. They ran away when he told them, “Resist me and you won’t see your mother.” They ran away from him in parks, from restaurants, from hotels in other cities, out into traffic.

A married couple told me he left our kids with them at a waterpark in a foreign country. Saying, “Can you watch my kids for ten minutes?” Then he was gone for hours. He hadn’t given them his cell number or even his name. They had to stay there waiting for him. They told me, “We will testify for you.”

But justice never arrived.

Instead my reputation is ruined forever:

For decades after, he presented the NYS validator’s report at their schools and even to my new town’s PD. A report that says I and the kids lied. Why did the validator say that? Because…all reasons weaker than the kids pointing at the chart. Because she is incapable of saying, “I don’t know.” Because no one wants to believe that crime is real. I didn’t want to believe it. Not for years after the first child showed it. Not until the second, then…

In another case, her testimony put an innocent woman in jail. The verdict was later overturned. During the investigation that overturned the conviction, the validator admitted she believes God tells her who is innocent and who is guilty. NYS still employed her as an validator after that!

The children’s court-appointed psychologist told the kids they are responsible for their own safety (beginning under age 10.)

You must cooperate with those absurdities under threat of losing custody: alienation.

However, the idea that a litigant is innocent until proven guilty only belongs to the monied spouse. The “no fault” divorce only applies to the monied spouse.

That is the injustice that kills.

By reporting to people who are trained to hate you and revile you, you have also protected your children from rape.

Because you reported, he was not be able to groom them in private. You turned a light on in the dark corner. He thought you were too afraid, and you were, almost.

Was risking their lives alone with him on post-separation parenting time worth having tried to protect them from rape?

Well, you did not know that was the choice, at first.

How could you know how little the children’s safety matters? How would you know that you would be the only one scrutinized?

What we need are courts that don’t punish reporters. Reporters must accept that no video of the acts means no proof. How do you get a camera everywhere? You can’t. Too bad.

What we need are validators and evaluators who can say, “I don’t know what happened. There is no objective proof. We’ll monitor the situation to ensure child safety.”

Right now the insistence that reporters are liars, blamed if the state can’t make its case, is entirely unjust, cruel, and very dangerous to children and their protectors.

If a thief steals your wallet and you call the police, but they can’t catch him, are you guilty of a crime for calling? Are your children stolen from you for that? Are you forced into court for a decade and all your assets up for grabs?:

Not in a dmocracy, which begs the question.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

It’s not in the best interest of children to have to under go these toxic people who have no clue how to parent. They are causing harm to the ” family”. These children are possession not people. Growing human beings being damaged by the monster who Fancy themselves the head of the family. Just like the Mafia. Emotional cruelty is ignored by the modern judge and family court therapist. The lawyer go along to survive.

Gary Cohen fan
Gary Cohen fan
8 months ago

The great Gary Cohen would never collude with other opposing counsel, who are all inferior to him, to decide the outcome of a case. At $950 per hour, he will litigate to win the justice his client seeks.

Gary Gets What He Want$
Gary Gets What He Want$
8 months ago
Reply to  Gary Cohen fan

And if you don’t pay his legal fees, he will put you in jail!

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

Because CT has debtors Prison

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

Gals are assassins. They have no conscience. They are the choreographers, the directors of family court where decisions are made before stepping into the courtroom. Where attorneys speak on cue with rehearsed lines resulting in the condemnation of the targeted parent. Step by step the playbook is carried out as life savings is plundered by soulless actors and parents are tortured and virtually killed by the unsubstantiated barbaric orders of our kangaroo courts.

Thank you Frankreport for your continued coverage to warn and protect innocent children and parents from the horrors and reality of family court.

These are not “rare” outcomes of “disgruntled litigants”. These outdoors result from criminal conduct of gals, custody evaluators and judges.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

In Connecticut the judicial branch licenses and oversees GAL’s. If you have a complaint about a GAL, you need to submit it to the judicial branch with a list of your evidence and witnesses. Only after simply reading the complaint, a panel of mostly judges and lawyers, including Judge Leo Diana, who is the chief family judge, decide if there is probable cause to investigate. In nearly 100% of the cases, this panel decides there is no probable cause, without ever seeing any evidence or hearing a witness.

Therefore, given that GAL’s have immunity, and there is absolutely zero recourse against them outside of this committee, it is fair to say that the 14th amendment rights of parents, and children in CT are violated because there does not exist any actual recourse one can take against GALs who violate their duties and act egregiously.

I agree with the other poster that the DOJ and FBI need to come in and temporarily take over this court system while they root out the corruption.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

Grossman is a piece of sh*t. Filthy and demonic.

Lipson Kupson
Lipson Kupson
8 months ago

This is so wrong. Ed Nusbaum would have kept the case until he got the family destitute – both the father and the mother. Not just the mother. Very shallow reporting.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

A clear attempt to continue brainwashing the kids.

K didn’t need more money or to cash out her pension. She just needed to actually show up to court and gee, idk, maybe follow court orders?

She may have taught math, but she clearly skipped logic classes.

Heidi
Heidi
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Dear Your Honors, I followed the court orders. Which were in fact all directed by Mary Bergamine the GaL. The end result was a very poor outcomes. Perhaps she should have been not allowed to play games in your court room or at the psychologist office. Perhaps the bar association should hold her accountable. She should be filling reports so parents can dispute her with evidence she doesn’t present to the judge and ignores. She should have to file billable hours. Council should not conceal payments for her service. Forcing the other party to pay to financially subdueing them into agreements. Parties should not have to pay approximately $4000 dollars to fight with their own attorneys who are forcing agreements that are not in anyone’s best interest. Family relations counselor should not be requesting parents not to attend hearings. The family relations councilor should be trained and be able to handle the emotional complexity of the cases. The end result severed relationship including siblings. Cause you let the GaL run the show. One with a conflict of interest. Financial insensitive because of fees that are ultimately paid by the union. Transparency accountability and trust of the judicial system is key to upholding intergery to the family law industry. Fear and intimidation and using financial drainaging to guide cases has lead to poor outcomes. A mistrust in the entire process. Countless people suffering emotional distress.

Queen of the custody capture
Queen of the custody capture
8 months ago
Reply to  Heidi

Perhaps the judicial branch should take note of how many of the 70 % of women cases did Mary assist in the Alienation of the mother. In 2014 there were conversations about disaplining Mary. 10 years later she is placed on cases . How many cases has Mary been involved in where alligations were made and the children were handed over to the alleged abuser? How many DV charges were dropped and agreements were made because of a transfer of custody? How many cases was she involved in where alligations of Alienation were made against the mother?

Who's paying attention
Who's paying attention
8 months ago

How many times has equal and shared parenting recommend Attorney Bergamine? . How many attorneys in Connecticut are equal and shared parenting attorneys? AFCC custody capture attorneys? The Facebook went radio silent after 2019. How many father’s rights attorneys have tried to bring her into a case? ” He was one of the good guys” ” He helped a father get custody”. Almost sole garduim ad lithium on the cases. In control of all the files.

Connecticut “law” is in the eye of the beholder
Connecticut “law” is in the eye of the beholder
8 months ago
Reply to  Heidi

Legislators and judges created Connecticut “family law” and practice to allow family court lawyers and judges to do as they please.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

The rules of professional conduct are ignored and covered up by judicial immunity. I’m sure even the bar association grievance panel is persuaded not to allow the currpt operations to be revealed. When Mary Bergamine can’t even remember her appointment in a case. She decides to tell the judge she is in a cross over position. It’s hard to tell if the confusion is for double billing for AMC and GaL or she is could care less about the minor she represents , details. Same day appointment are supposed to be frowned upon. She happened to be roaming the hall of Hartford Superior Court. Perhaps after represting the parents as the attorney of the girlfriend/ allied AP.in another custody matter. Ignoring the information reported. Which resulted in multiple text and phone calls no one at the courthouse ever heard about. Which the child found out about at school. Information runs through neighborhoods fast. Some how the mother is always to blame. The only one responsible for court costs. When the information when the text and various messages where sent to council before pretrial the case was settled. Cause the eyes and ears of the court house often become a filter. The AFCC operation are designed to run the case to the last minute. ” Custody capture”. Didn’t stop a bogus contempt motion to get the father from paying for driver’s license. Family relations councilor should not be locking people out. Over priced attorney should not suppress evidence forcing agreements. Billing you $4000 to point out their shitty representation.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago

Wake up, Connecticut.

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Wake up FBI and department of justice

Anonymous
Anonymous
8 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Wake up, Hartford Courant.

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