Parental Alienation Webinar: Breaking Through to Alienated Kids:

Breaking through to alienated kids

PAS Intervention Executive Director Joan Kloth-Zanard offers a two-part live webinar “Breaking through to alienated kids,” beginning on Saturday, May 20, at 12 noon ET.

The cost is $60.

To register: https://education.lovefraud.com/courses/breaking-through-to-alienated-kids/

In Part 1, Koth-Zanard discusses how parental alienation affects children’s psychological and emotional development.

In Part 2, focuses on strategies for breaking through to alienated kids “to help them overcome the effects of this insidious manipulation.”

Kloth-Zanard’s work is mostly with fathers whose children do not want to see them, and who claim the mother alienated the children from them.

Since family court is a money-making enterprise for the people who control it — attorneys  – it is not a system to trust your children in or to seek justice. It is not a system capable of distinguishing between true and false claims of alienation, though it is a system quite capable of distinguishing how much money can be extracted from a divorce and custody case.

Below Kloth-Zanard discusses her webinar.

By Joan T. Kloth-Zanard

Parental alienation is a form of psychological abuse in which your ex encourages your kids to break your heart. It’s terrible for you, but even worse for your children.

Why?

Parental alienation interferes with your children’s brain development, emotional growth, and executive functioning.

Yes, you love your kids and want a relationship with them. But there’s another important reason for breaking through to alienated kids: Parental alienation inhibits your children’s ability to mature into healthy, happy and productive members of society.

Key steps include building their self-esteem and teaching them critical thinking. When your kids can trust their own perceptions, they may realize they want you in their lives after all.

Learning objectives 

In this two-part webinar, you’ll learn how parental alienation affects children and learn strategies for supporting your kids day-to-day.

After this course, you should:

  • Understand what the alienated child experiences
  • Recognize the effects of psychological child abuse
  • Describe how alienation affects a child’s executive functioning
  • Boost kids’ self-esteem to help them resist alienation
  • Respond appropriately to negative behavior by your kids
  • Collaborate with your kids to solve problems

Program Agenda

Part 1 – Understanding how parental alienation affects children

  • Parental Alienation — what it is
  • Alternate terms for parental alienation
  • Parental alienation is terrorism
  • DSM 5 diagnoses for the alienated child
  • What the alienated child experiences
  • Lack of emotional and mental maturity
  • Effects of psychological child abuse
  • Children’s self-worth and self-esteem
  • Behaviors of the targeted parent
  • Behaviors of the alienator
  • Psychological abuse and actions that an alienator may use
  • Other victims of parental alienation
  • Children and resiliency
  • A child’s brain development
  • 11 Executive functioning skills and how alienation affects them
  • Treatment of parental alienation
  • Is your counselor helping or hurting?
  • The goal of intervention
  • What happens in reunification/reintegration therapy?

Part 2 — Strategies for supporting your kids day to day

  • First and foremost, take care of yourself
  • Happy, healthy, successful and spiritually positive
  • The importance of unconditional love for your children
  • Why alienated children are afraid to love you and how to help them
  • Alienation seems to stunt children’s emotional growth
  • How to help children make progress in emotional maturity
  • Helping kids understand the impact of their own behavior
  • Boosting kids’ self-esteem helps them resist alienation
  • How teenagers are affected by parental alienation
  • Splitting — why kids feel they need to be different with each parent
  • How to react when your child repeats your ex’s smears
  • Use empathy questions when your child makes false accusations
  • What to do when:
    • Your ex is berating you in front of the children
    • Your children refuse to visit you
    • Your children are lying to you
    • Your child says, “I hate you”
    • Your children are taking their fear and anger out on you
    • Your children say they don’t have to listen to you
    • Your children claim abuse that hasn’t happened
    • Your children say they are afraid of you
    • Your child has gender identity issues
    • Your child becomes physically violent and attacks you
  • How alienated children are like explosive children
  • A collaborative problem-solving approach with your kids

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Anonymous
Anonymous
5 months ago

IMPORTANT & URGENT – United Nations: How the System Fails You & Your Alienated Children
This is a live webinar where Dr. William Bernet, a forensic psychiatrist from the Vanderbilt University School of Medicine, shares with us a detailed analysis of the campaign of misinformation that is happening at the United Nations. In 2 weeks, by June 19th, if this campaign is not stopped, it will cause a major system failure in protecting YOU and YOUR CHILDREN. If it has been difficult for you to fight for your children now, it will be a lot harder. It is important and urgent that actions are taken to fix this problem.
The full analysis can be found on Academica.edu here: https://bit.ly/Analysis_of_the_Report

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Once these dicks get in the system, it’s completely rigged. Trust and believe that no matter what any therapist, specialist, paid off bull shit court appointed smegma says, if the judge has been «  told », you ain’t going to win shit. That’s real talk.
Save your money and aggravation and put your money aside for your children.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Men who use their kids as pawns to «  win «  in court are sick in the head. And they become rabid with power. Crazed rabid raccoon vibe isn’t a good look.

Anonymous
Anonymous
5 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Same goes for mothers but as we all know for them, it’s incentivized to Plainfield is not even then it shouldn’t be a gender issue

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

PARENTAL Abuse, NOT “child abuse ” Prevent Parental Alienation by protecting Parental Rights, not by claiming “child abuse!”

5 points of Parental Alienation SCIENCE:
PA IS KIDNAPPING, NOT ABUSE!
Children recover, Teens hate anyway!

1. (MOST IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND) Not even Family Court JUDGES want to “get between” a MOTHER and her cubs.
YOUR EX IS “NORMAL!” Possession ORDERS evolved because of an “instinct” to erase the Ex, NOT “narcissism,” the current pseudo-science Fad buzzword.

2. ABUSE? Must prove “intent!” Your abuse allegations BACKFIRE:
In Child Custody legal proceedings, “abuse” and “sex abuse” allegations work ($$ for Court$ pimping “therapist$”) in repressed societies (like SAID=sex abuse allegations in Divorce) to elicit “heroic” Court response, usually overprotective Supervised Visitation that DESTROYS YOU IN YOUR OWN CHILDREN’S EYES.

3. ABUSE charges BACKFIRE: “abuse” provokes a counter-claim of “abuse,” and needs proof of malicious intent, not overprotective parenting mistakes due to DELUSIONS from this “instinct to erase the Ex.”
Psychologist & Therapist “expert opinion” is HEARSAY that allows arbitrary overprotective Rulings and a LONG Court process ($$$$) to reach unsatisfactory resolution, NOT protecting Parental Rights, but only toward the “welfare of the child” regardless of DESTROYING THE PARENT

4. Psychology is not a science (look it up!) So their “expert opinion” is HEARSAY.
In college, these people found real math and science “too hard.”
Judges pimp Psychology’s Therapists, and BOTH have NO training, NO professional guidelines, NO oversight, & NO ACCOUNTABILITY!
NO ACCOUNTABILITY means they don’t really care, it’s just a job.

5. No evidence, ever, NEVER of real Parental Alienation from children’s Smartphones because they hold DELUSIONS, beliefs with NO EVIDENCE!

THE SOLUTION:
With Parental Alienation as Criminal KIDNAPPING, police might read your glovebox docs and say “Kids, tell Dad your Drs.’ names and school ID or mom gets a ticket for a fine. Further disrespect, we take mom to jail. Understand?”
Teaches RESPECT for Law AND the other parent.
EXAMPLE:
In my case, this should have occurred EIGHT YEARS BEFORE Covid Lockdown which enabled my diagnosed Disordered Ex to call my Parental Rights per Possession ORDERS as “harassment,” and then sent daughters to a SECRET incompetent therapist who called Protective Services instead of me (who would have explained the Ex’s lies) with illogical, infantile accusations easily destroyed in ONE phone interview each in THREE investigations, even one by police for Sex Abuse of my own delusional (now hateful teen) children!

Instead, the Alienated must wait for THREE DENIED VISITATIONS with “police reports” (actually an incident “number”) to file a Motion to Enforce which Legal Aid says will “almost always” cause the Judge to rule in your favor.
No, this Filing starts the tennis game of “abuse” allegations, Protective services, lawyers, “expert” pseudo-science hearsay, character witness liars, AND requests for “discovery” (you collect all Fotos, movies, calendars, diaries, employment history, financial records, etc. to go through with your Ex’s lawyer!) etc.

PROTECT PARENTAL RIGHTS FIRST:
Even “Temporary Orders” in Family Court cases say “follow the current ORDERS.
Police should PROTECT CHILDREN from ANY subtle subtext “dad must be subhuman, dangerous” that over YEARS, will produce SEVERELY Alienated rebellious Teens who rarely reconnect with a distraught, confused innocent parent. (Statistics)
Statistics show MOST severely Alienated Teens hold lifelong delusions against a parent, probably to avoid the guilt about NOT ending the nonsense by simply getting into your car.

Parental Alienation belongs in law against CRIMINAL KIDNAPPING

We need EARLY POLICE protections to avoid (or completely dismantle?) family-destroying Family Courts.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Watch and learn. https://youtu.be/Shovw0ryk6A

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

The comments there say what the video doesn’t.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

That AI “art” is terrifying. Dad’s face is melting and the kid’s eyes look deranged

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Joan, Did you actually go on slam the gavel and defend a man who murdered the mother of his children? Using parental alienation as an excuse?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

When was that?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

April. Stating there is a case in Colorado where a father was protecting his children on a custody exchange. Shot the mother of his children because she was an alienatior. It’s gone beyond defending abusive behavior. We have moved on to murder. Unbelievable

"Nothing's either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." ⬅️ (Keith’s philosophy, too, right?)
"Nothing's either good or bad, but thinking makes it so." ⬅️ (Keith’s philosophy, too, right?)
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

For Gardner, necrophilia came after murder.

Have judicial branch employees asked Ms. Kloth Zanard about her philosophies? Which Gardner theories does she promote in the cases she manages in “family courts”?

“… Gardner ‘s Theory of Atypical Sexuality

“The younger the survival machine at the time sexual urges appear, the longer will be the span of procreative capacity …”

Gardner (1992, pp. 18-32) has developed his own theory concerning the evolutionary benefits of deviant sexual practices or paraphilias. Gardner proposes that many different types of human sexual behavior, including pedophilia, sexual sadism, necrophilia (sex with corpses), zoophilia (sex with animals), coprophilia (sex involving defecation), klismaphilia (sex involving enemas), and urophilia (sex involving urinating), can be seen as having species survival value and thus do “not warrant being excluded from the list of the `so-called natural forms of human sexual behavior.'” Such paraphilias may serve nature’s purposes by their ability to enhance the general level of sexual excitation in society and thereby increase the likelihood that people will have sex, which then contributes to the survival of the species (Gardner, 1992, p. 20). …”

http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/res/dallam/2.html

Joan, If you’re commenting on the comments here ...
Joan, If you’re commenting on the comments here ...
5 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Was “Dr.” Richard Gardner your therapist or stepfather — or was that just gossip?

Not here for the gossip, just honest and full disclosure for Connecticut family court vendors and practices.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Parent alienation sucks

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Let’s let the department of justice see what is happening. Joan has been peddling alienation to a group of people desperately seeking answers. She refuses to get a license and that is concerning. She has not been able to get stable employment. Sues everyone, car dealerships, former employers and the state of Connecticut. Despite all the faults in the Connecticut family court system they have been able to see through Joan’s rediculous behavior, and untruth. Joan has inflamed the relationship of her own husband and children. Relentlessly targeting her stepson. She can be seen on line inflaming the situation. Maybe if she allowed her husband to deal with his children it would help the situation. After all it’s the father who should be dealing with the kids. Joan has made the relationship all about her. Stating her involvement was the reason the alienation started. Maybe Joan should expect that the kids don’t want to deal you. Manipulation and making it all about yourself. . LEAVE your stepchildren alone to heal. Let your husband deal with the situation. You would be more credible if you stop profiling women, stop ignoring false alligations of alienation. Stop fighting for children to be placed in abusive relationship. Not every parent child relationship is healthy. No one is perfect including you. You are not right about everything. You blame and target one parent. Most often the mother. Not everyone has to agree with you. You don’t need to attack them. You are bias and have attempted to stop women who have been abused and have been abused in the court system from speaking out. The problem is the court system and your inability to recognize that and push the alienation agenda is not helping children or the people suffering from injustice. Men and women alike. Parental alienation is not the answer to the court system problem. The attorneys with holding evidence, harnessing and bankrupting parents. You are not helping to clean up the court system. With the relentless crusade to prove parental alienation even where there is none

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Another idiot who hasn’t lived it.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

“Lived” what?

Every case is different.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Again your an idiot

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

The current term what is happening is splitting. It’s what narrasist and borderline personality do. It’s what occurs in narrasistic families. The problem being is there are children who see through it. It’s usually the parents account of what has happened. Rewritten history. Problem being the children who tell and remember the same story over and over again are not believed. The story’s don’t come out about abuse right away. Many victims are trying to part with out incident. They have usually disclosed to the attornys prior and upon initial meeting. It’s not brought up until nessicary because no one wants to agitate the narrasist or boarderline. The victims have already endured the rath. When the children are relentlessly told they are lieing and disbelieved the become in fight or flight mode. That’s where the angry child shows up. Of course it depends on the age. Many children can drink the cool aid but many do not. When they are away from the abuser they begin to see the dysfunction that was going on in the house. There usually in counseling prior to court. Have a better ability to understand what abuse is. There are many situations. The biggest problem is the curruption. Lived it. Blacksheep and living a healthier life.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Every case is different and most sins are all the same.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Lol the wolves guarding the henhouse

Richard Gardner pushed Alfred Kinsey’s work.
Richard Gardner pushed Alfred Kinsey’s work.
6 months ago

The push for hyper-sexualization of children in schools offers Richard Gardner fans new opportunities in family courts.

Push back.

“… United Nations General Assembly Human Rights Council Fifty-third session

19 June–14 July 2023
Agenda item 3: Promotion and protection of all human rights, civil, political, economic, social and cultural rights, including the right to development

Distr.: General 13 April 2023 Original: English

Custody, violence against women and violence against children
Report of the Special Rapporteur on violence against women and girls, its causes and consequences, Reem Alsalem

Summary
The present report of the Special Rapporteur on violence against women and girls, its causes and consequences, Reem Alsalem, is submitted to the Human Rights Council pursuant to resolution 50/7. The report addresses the link between custody cases, violence against women and violence against children, with a focus on the abuse of the term “parental alienation” and similar pseudo-concepts.

I. Introduction

1. The present report of the Special Rapporteur on violence against women and girls, its causes and consequences, Reem Alsalem, is submitted pursuant to Human Rights Council resolution 50/7. The Special Rapporteur, along with the other members of the Platform of Independent Expert Mechanisms on the Elimination of Discrimination and Violence against Women, has voiced concern about the pattern of ignoring intimate partner violence against women in determining child custody cases across jurisdictions.1 Since raising specific concerns to Brazil2 and Spain,3 the Special Rapporteur has received reports of cases from countries where such violence has been ignored and where mothers making such allegations have been penalized by law enforcement and/or the judiciary responsible for determining custody cases. The tendency to dismiss the history of domestic violence and abuse in custody cases extends to cases where mothers and/or children themselves have brought forward credible allegations of physical or sexual abuse. In several countries, family courts have tended to judge such allegations as deliberate efforts by mothers to manipulate their children and to separate them from their fathers. This supposed effort by a parent alleging abuse is often termed “parental alienation”.

2. The report examines ways in which family courts in different regions refer to “parental alienation” or similar pseudo-concepts in custody cases, ignoring histories of domestic violence, which may lead to the double victimization of victims of such violence. The report also offers recommendations for States and other stakeholders on how to address the situation.

3. In preparing the report, the Special Rapporteur sought contributions from Member States, international and regional organizations, non-governmental organizations, academia and victims, and held a series of online consultations with stakeholders and experts. The Special Rapporteur has received over a thousand submissions, of which a large number were duplicated individual submissions, particularly from fathers’ organizations. Most submissions were received from the Western European and others group, followed by the Latin America and the Caribbean group, and the majority addressed systemic issues and the impact of parental alienation.
Activities undertaken by the Special Rapporteur

4. The Special Rapporteur continued to collaborate closely with the Platform of Independent Expert Mechanisms on the Elimination of Discrimination and Violence against Women, contributing to its first thematic report on the digital dimension of violence against women.

5. On 4 October 2022, the Special Rapporteur presented the report on the nexus between the climate crisis, environmental degradation and related displacement, and violence against women and girls to the General Assembly.4

6. On 22 February 2023, the Special Rapporteur participated in a discussion organized by the Committee on the Elimination of Discrimination against Women at its eighty-fourth session on the equal and inclusive representation of women in decision-making systems.

7. On 6 March 2023, the Special Rapporteur delivered a statement at the opening meeting of the sixty-seventh session of the Commission on the Status of Women in New York and participated in the interactive expert panel on the priority theme of the session.

8. The Special Rapporteur conducted two country visits in 2022, one to Türkiye, from 18 to 27 July5 and the other to Libya, from 14 to 21 December 2022.6 In 2023, she visited Poland from 27 February to 9 March.
Definition and use of the pseudo-concept of “parental alienation”

9. There is no commonly accepted clinical or scientific definition of “parental alienation”. Broadly speaking, parental alienation is understood to refer to deliberate or unintentional acts that cause unwarranted rejection by the child towards one of the parents, usually the father.7

10. The pseudo-concept of parental alienation was coined by Richard Gardner, a psychologist, who claimed that children alleging sexual abuse during high conflict divorces suffer from “parental alienation syndrome” caused by mothers who have led their children to believe that they have been abused by their fathers and to raise allegations of abuse against them.8 He recommended draconian remedies to address the syndrome, including a complete cut-off from the mother in order to “deprogramme” the child.9 It was argued that the more that children rejected the relationship with their fathers, the more evidence of the alienating syndrome was observed.

11. Gardner’s theory has been criticized for its lack of empirical basis, for its problematic assertions about sexual abuse and for recasting abuse claims as false tools for alienation, which, in some cases, have dissuaded evaluators and courts from assessing whether abuse has actually occurred.10 It has been dismissed by medical, psychiatric and psychological associations, and in 2020 it was removed from the International Classification of Diseases by the World Health Organization. Nevertheless, it has gained considerable traction and has been widely used to negate allegations of domestic and sexual abuse within family court systems on a global scale …”

https://undocs.org/Home/Mobile?DeviceType=Desktop&FinalSymbol=A%2FHRC%2F53%2F36&LangRequested=False&Language=E

“The Kinsey Institute, also Kenneth Anger proof of meeting Kinsey at Crowley’s Abbey Thelema. While the leading influence on sex education curriculum The Kinsey Institute keeps a running exhibit of Kennth Anger’s work and it’s founder was a depraved devotee of Aleister Crowley.“

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Survey: Over 20 Million Have Been Falsely Accused of Abuse

WASHINGTON / December 17, 2020 – A recent national survey conducted by YouGov reveals 8% of Americans report being falsely accused of domestic violence, child abuse, sexual assault, or other forms of abuse. The 2,407 survey respondents were representative of the U.S. adult population. The 8% figure represents 20.4 million adults.

In 62% of cases, the false accusers were reported to be females. Often, the false allegation was made in the context of a child custody dispute — 27% of cases.

Similar percentages of falsely accused persons were seen among the various age groups, racial/ethnic categories, and geographical areas. In other demographic categories, however, substantial differences were unearthed.

The survey found a sharp gender divide – 11% of men, compared to 6% of women — reported being falsely accused.

Declining percentages of false accusations were observed according to the level of educational attainment. Persons with no college reported higher numbers (8%) than persons with college degrees (7%) or post-graduate degrees (3%).

The exception to this declining trend was noted among persons with “some” college education, with 11% reporting that they had been falsely accused. This higher percentage may reflect the fact that many accused students are expelled, or chose to leave, before they are able to graduate.

Further analyses of the data reveal:

Higher numbers were seen among persons with incomes under $40K (12%), compared to adults with incomes of $40K-80K (7%) or over $80K (8%).
Substantially higher percentages of false accusations were noted among persons in a civil partnership (15%), compared to persons who were single (9%), divorced (9%), or married (7%).
False allegations were fairly evenly distributed across the four abuse categories. Asked, “Has anyone you know ever been falsely accused of ______?”, respondents answered as follows:

Domestic violence: 17%
Child abuse: 17%
Sexual assault: 16%
Other form of abuse: 11%
False allegations represent a serious threat to justice. According to the National Registry of Exonerations, false allegations and perjury are the most common contributing factor to wrongful convictions, constituting 59% of such cases (1).

False allegations harm the social standing, career prospects, and mental health of the accused; diminish the credibility of future victims; and undermine the integrity of our legal system. Lawmakers are beginning to enact legislation designed to deter false accusations, such as New York State’s “anti-Karen” law (2).

At universities in the California State system, Student Conduct Procedures delineate that, “a Complainant who knowingly and intentionally files a false Formal Complaint or any individual who is determined to have provided false statements or information during the investigation/appeal review shall be subject to discipline in accordance with the Student Conduct Code.” (3)

This survey is believed to be the first on this topic ever undertaken. The respondents consisted of a nationally representative sample of American adults aged 18+. Fieldwork was undertaken September 23-25, 2020. The survey was carried out online. This survey was conducted using an online interview administered to members of the YouGov panel of persons who have agreed to participate.

According to the U.S. Census, the American population estimate as of July 1, 2019 was 328,239,000 persons, of whom 22.3% were under 18 years of age, leaving 255,041,700 persons 18+ years (4). Eight percent of that number is 20.4 million persons.

The full survey results can be viewed online (5). The Center for Prosecutor Integrity urges prosecutors, lawmakers, college administrators, and others to work to end the current epidemic of false allegations.

Citations:

http://www.law.umich.edu/special/exoneration/Pages/ExonerationsContribFactorsByCrime.aspx
https://www.nysenate.gov/legislation/bills/2019/s8492
https://calstate.policystat.com/policy/8453518/latest/#autoid-9aw4x
https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/US/PST045219
http://www.prosecutorintegrity.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/YouGov-Survey-Results-9.25.2020.xlsx

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Wait, you saw the “Lucifer” tattoo, right?

An appreciative dad
An appreciative dad
6 months ago

Joan Kloth Zanard has saved more
Children from being alienated from their loving fathers. She is a heroine to fathers in Connecticut. Of course these alienating mothers don’t get away with ruining kids and their fathers.

Joan is the woman that every father needs and every bad mother is afraid of.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Serious question that matters when children’s lives are in danger: Was Richard Gardner Joan’s “therapist”?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

False Allegations: Child Sex Abuse
False Allegations Of Child AbuseThe National Fathers’ Resource Center and Fathers for Equal Rights is adamant in its belief that child abuse in general cannot be tolerated; and child sexual abuse, in particular, is among the most heinous of deeds. Sexual abusers of children must be exposed for their criminal acts. The guilty must be punished, and children must be protected from their aggressors. Preferring to err on the side of false accusations rather than to risk a child’s safety, some courts have tended toward a mind-set of “guilty until proven innocent” in the case of alleged sexual abuse. We appreciate the good intentions of this conservative approach; but we are also keenly aware of the devastation that it wreaks on the falsely accused, especially when coupled with the “winner takes it all” mentality of some divorce and custody battles.

False allegations of child sexual abuse have become “a popular game” in family courts in recent years. Statistically, it has been reported that 70-80% of divorce-linked child sexual abuse cases are hoaxes. Since it is nearly impossible to “prove yourself innocent,” it is often preferable to approach the problem by demonstrating that the allegations are unsubstantiated, illogical, self-contradictory, and frivolous. The accusations don’t make sense; they don’t stack-up; they’re just not believable!

There are times when nobody should attempt to represent himself/herself as a pro se litigant, and anytime you are facing false allegations of sex abuse, you need an attorney skilled in cross-examination. Often, parents falsely accused of child abuse, including sexual abuse, need the assistance of both a civil-law attorney to handle the divorce and/or custody issues and a criminal-law attorney to represent the accused in criminal court. This is no time for amateur pro se representation: the stakes are too high for the child’s well-being, the child’s self-esteem, your reputation, your job, your peace of mind, and even your freedom.

You can be of tremendous assistance to your attorney in preparing your defense if you take advantage of the varied resources available to help you understand the nature of false accusations. These resources range from reading materials and mental health professionals, to organizations that specialize in working with people for whom false allegations have split their families apart and inflicted terrible pain on everyone concerned.

Do The Math! Approximately 7,600 reports of child abuse occur each day and over 7,200 are eventually classified as false allegations. Since only 400 are confirmed as valid cases, why are over 3,000 children taken from parents each day? That’s over 1,000,000 children every year. Why are billions of taxpayer dollars and hundreds of thousands of man-hours wasted investigating false allegations of abuse? Why are kicking, screaming children forcibly removed from loving, responsible parents and placed in foster care where they are ten times more likely to be physically and/or sexually abused? The threat to the health and welfare of families is real, epidemic, and must be dealt with through effective Family Rights legislation.”

The NFRC and FER strongly suggest that for those who are falsely accused; never, never plea-bargain “no contest.” The effects of such an action are devastating. You will be forever known as a deviant sex offender and you will never be able to recover a normal life.

SUGGESTED READING
Texas Family Code, Chapter 153.013 and 261.107, Report of Child Abuse. Includes a section titled “False Report.”

Advanced Family Law Course, Vol 4, 1989, State Bar of Texas. See Chapter UU – “Litigating a Child Abuse Claim.” This chapter instructs attorneys how to “put together” their case; how to organize the information, present the evidence, exhibits, etc., whether prosecuting or defending the accused. An appendix to this chapter, written by Dr. Kit Harrison, titled “False Allegations of Child Sexual Abuse” addresses reasons for false claims and some methods used by psychologists for detecting false claims. This chapter can help you organize your notes, facts, and evidence for your attorney.

Advanced Family Law Course, Vol 3, 1990, State Bar of Texas. Chapter AA – “Child Abuse and Custody” addresses many aspects of the problem, including the competence of a child witness, the hearsay rule, use (and problems) of anatomically correct dolls, whether children lie about sexual abuse, and the trial. By Judge Enrique Pena.

Advanced Family Law Course, Vol 4, 1991. (Found in any Texas Law Library.) Chapter TT – “Sex Abuse” discusses opinion and expert testimony; the role of the Attorney Ad Litem (for the child); simultaneous criminal and civil proceedings in a child sex abuse case; and the evaluation of a child abuse case from the prosecutor’s point of view.

Marriage Dissolution, Vol 1, 1991, State Bar of Texas. (Found in any Texas Law Library.) Chapter Q – “Abuse: Physical, Sexual and Emotional” addresses problems related to allegations, the credibility of the accuser(s), and the use of mental health professionals. It suggests pre-trial intervention measures for protecting the child, and aspects of the judicial process including communication between courts.

Domestic Torts by Leonard Karp. (Found in any County Law Library.)

There are several books on the shelf dealing with neglect and abuse of children, and how the courts handle such claims. This is one of the better books in the collection. (A tort is a wrongful act for which a civil action will exist, except for an act involving a breach of contract.)

Ashes to Ashes Families to Dust, False Accusations of Child Abuse: A Roadmap for Survival by Dean Tong, Family Rights Press, Tampa, FL, 1996. Paperback, $18.95. A must read. (Call 800-987-7771 to order.)

MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS
After false allegations of child sexual abuse have been entered into the court, either in the form of written pleadings or orally at a hearing, you may ask the court to appoint a psychologist to evaluate the entire family. A court-appointed evaluator eliminates arguments between spouses about which psychologist to use. Several of them specialize in children and are highly regarded by the courts for impartiality, objectivity and integrity in their evaluations and reports. Some, unfortunately, are “hired guns” and cannot be trusted. The better psychologists do not attempt to represent just one parent to the court; they evaluate entire families. Sessions are typically 45-50 minutes in length. You can expect fees in the neighborhood of $100 per hour. Some psychologists accept insurance.

The Fathers for Equal Rights organization, FER, maintain a referral listing of psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, counselors and other mental health professionals to assist members. Members should consult with our chapter or the Dallas chapter’s Mental Health Consultant (below), who is a licensed social worker and marriage & family therapist, before selecting counselors, mediators, or other mental health professionals. You will be referred to a professional who can provide appropriate services for yourself, your children, or your family, according to your particular circumstances. We can also prepare you to anticipate specific questions that are frequently asked during social studies.

Stephen D. Finstein , LMSW-ACP, Mental Health Consultant. 1222 Commerce Street, Suite 410. Phone 214-749-0614.

(If you have committed a sexual offense against a child and sincerely want to prevent a relapse, and you want to protect society, effective rehabilitative treatment is available through a Registered Sex Offender Treatment Provider (RSOTP). For referral to a qualified therapist, contact Stephen D. Finstein , LMSW-ACP. Confidentiality is assured.)

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Center for Prosecutor Integrity
PRESS RELEASE

Rebecca Stewart: 513-479-3335

Email: info@prosecutorintegrity.org

Survey: Over 20 Million Have Been Falsely Accused of Abuse

WASHINGTON / December 17, 2020 – A recent national survey conducted by YouGov reveals 8% of Americans report being falsely accused of domestic violence, child abuse, sexual assault, or other forms of abuse. The 2,407 survey respondents were representative of the U.S. adult population. The 8% figure represents 20.4 million adults.

In 62% of cases, the false accusers were reported to be females. Often, the false allegation was made in the context of a child custody dispute — 27% of cases.

Similar percentages of falsely accused persons were seen among the various age groups, racial/ethnic categories, and geographical areas. In other demographic categories, however, substantial differences were unearthed.

The survey found a sharp gender divide – 11% of men, compared to 6% of women — reported being falsely accused.

Declining percentages of false accusations were observed according to the level of educational attainment. Persons with no college reported higher numbers (8%) than persons with college degrees (7%) or post-graduate degrees (3%).

The exception to this declining trend was noted among persons with “some” college education, with 11% reporting that they had been falsely accused. This higher percentage may reflect the fact that many accused students are expelled, or chose to leave, before they are able to graduate.

Further analyses of the data reveal:

Higher numbers were seen among persons with incomes under $40K (12%), compared to adults with incomes of $40K-80K (7%) or over $80K (8%).
Substantially higher percentages of false accusations were noted among persons in a civil partnership (15%), compared to persons who were single (9%), divorced (9%), or married (7%).
False allegations were fairly evenly distributed across the four abuse categories. Asked, “Has anyone you know ever been falsely accused of ______?”, respondents answered as follows:

Domestic violence: 17%
Child abuse: 17%
Sexual assault: 16%
Other form of abuse: 11%
False allegations represent a serious threat to justice. According to the National Registry of Exonerations, false allegations and perjury are the most common contributing factor to wrongful convictions, constituting 59% of such cases (1).

False allegations harm the social standing, career prospects, and mental health of the accused; diminish the credibility of future victims; and undermine the integrity of our legal system. Lawmakers are beginning to enact legislation designed to deter false accusations, such as New York State’s “anti-Karen” law (2).

At universities in the California State system, Student Conduct Procedures delineate that, “a Complainant who knowingly and intentionally files a false Formal Complaint or any individual who is determined to have provided false statements or information during the investigation/appeal review shall be subject to discipline in accordance with the Student Conduct Code.” (3)

This survey is believed to be the first on this topic ever undertaken. The respondents consisted of a nationally representative sample of American adults aged 18+. Fieldwork was undertaken September 23-25, 2020. The survey was carried out online. This survey was conducted using an online interview administered to members of the YouGov panel of persons who have agreed to participate.

According to the U.S. Census, the American population estimate as of July 1, 2019 was 328,239,000 persons, of whom 22.3% were under 18 years of age, leaving 255,041,700 persons 18+ years (4). Eight percent of that number is 20.4 million persons.

The full survey results can be viewed online (5). The Center for Prosecutor Integrity urges prosecutors, lawmakers, college administrators, and others to work to end the current epidemic of false allegations.

Citations:

http://www.law.umich.edu/special/exoneration/Pages/ExonerationsContribFactorsByCrime.aspx
https://www.nysenate.gov/legislation/bills/2019/s8492
https://calstate.policystat.com/policy/8453518/latest/#autoid-9aw4x
https://www.census.gov/quickfacts/fact/table/US/PST045219
http://www.prosecutorintegrity.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/11/YouGov-Survey-Results-9.25.2020.xlsx

Facts read and learn
Facts read and learn
6 months ago

https://www.psychiatrictimes.com/view/child-abuse-allegations-lies-versus-truths

“To be clear: False allegations of abuse are a form of parental alienation. Alienation involves the concerted effort of one parent to undermine the other parent’s relationship with their child. Nothing could be worse than a custody decision that is based on a false allegation. To make matters worse, once a custody decision has been issued, modification of it is burdensome and an uphill challenge.“

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Kloth Zanad save a lot of men and got them their chlldren. That’s.makes her a saint

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

How many men did she help?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

SILENCE IS CONSIDERED CONSENT.

It is time to scream the truth and never shut up.
Not even on our last breath.

The time to fight this is NOW.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Pedophiles are the lowest of the low

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Farthers who molest their children aren’t fathers, they are rancid, rabid toxic waste. No place for them in society.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Mothers who manipulate groom brainwash indoctrinate propagandize parentify and trauma bond children are not mothers they are rabid toxic waste bottom feeders in the cesspool a very poor excuse for the homo sapien class
May they choke on oxygen.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Is Joan commenting too or just advertising?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Probably both

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Is she remaining anonymous for some reason?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Frank you have totally lost my respect. You are a sell out. You are not promoting the truth. Is Joan using her go fund me money to pay you for the articles? When you join the men in trashing women in the alienators you are part of the problem and not the solution. Your talking out of both sides of your mouth.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

THIS! You can’t stand for something if you stand for everything.

Sabbatti Zevi
Sabbatti Zevi
6 months ago

Prophet Mohammad prohibits parents from fighting over children, gifts from Allah, only deviants of Connecticut promote child abuse in the name of secular law, written by the unclean.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Sabbatti Zevi

Allah? Really?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

The same dudes who are calling protective mothers alienators are probably in the same tribe as the guys who are desperately clipping off their balls and shlongs calling themselves the new women ..
We are so screwed

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

You should thank the feminine moment …all high and mighty

Alienating behavior is much more common done by mothers due to the incentivized divorce industry. Sounds like you’re castrated.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Gender bias and profiling. All for funding. It’s getting old. Wife beater tee shirt on sale at Walmart. Pick frank up some.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Men are willingly castrating themselves all the time now in order to control women . They just become them these days. It’s other worldly ..
That said, children need both parents. This family court system is completely messed up. Alienating children from their parents, man or woman is wrong.
Child molesters should not have any access to children. Let them burn in hell.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Did the feminine movement promote pedophiles ? Didht think so. Shut the front door.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Family Court Corpse
Family Court Corpse
6 months ago

Frank- when did you start Shilling AFCC propaganda? This is not original, this is AFCC and Screw the Bitch drivel. Moreover, its dated: new scam is under the guise of “child safety.” Would make Hitler proud.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Frank Parlato

and mothers so lets just be clear that its a pathological parent.

Sid Horrorwitz
Sid Horrorwitz
6 months ago
Reply to  Frank Parlato

Frank chugged the kool-aid! PAS is a pedo game invented and promoted by child predators, like Kloth-the-Sloth.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Sid Horrorwitz
Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Frank Parlato

👏

🇺🇸👑 Patriot God 👑🇺🇸
Reply to  Frank Parlato

Hey Ginzo!

Why don’t you stop being a little pussy that’s scared of words and post up my comments, you little piece of fucking shit?!

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Using kids as pawns is bullshit . Parents who play the alienation game are extremely dangerous people. They are not parents really, they are just overgrown children having temper tantrums, it’s so gross.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

why are people profiting off of the false allegations of DV industry which incentivizes parental alienation behavior by a parent for financial gain?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Just what the doctor ordered

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Awesome

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

No DSM diagnosis exists for “parental alienation” because it’s NOT an actual diagnosis. Joan needs to show her Hare checklist results.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

It’s under Child Psychological Abuse V995.51 in the DSM 5. Dr. Jennifer Jill Harmon has been peer-reviewed/published in scientific journals on Parental Alienation on top of her excellent TedTalk. Once you have lived through it, you will understand.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

No-

Maryann Petri
Maryann Petri
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Because it’s under V995.51 in the DSM V under Child Psychological Abuse. Dr. Jennifer Jill Harmon, her research on Parental Alienation has been peer-reviewed in scientific journals. You will understand it when it happens to you

What does the DSM-V say about life?
What does the DSM-V say about life?
5 months ago
Reply to  Maryann Petri

Nuclear warheads are peer-reviewed and still have no place in purposely adversarial family courts. Family court vendors don’t need scientists or scientists’ peers to describe human behavior that’s been around for thousands of years.

There’s no section in the DSM-V for lies, deceit, dishonesty, jealousy, bad parenting, selfishness, greed or sin because family court lawyers make the most money in “family courts” calling “experts” to the stand to say long words about complicated concepts and twisted theories. Peer-reviewed jargon doesn’t automatically make anything useful or acceptable — and making excuses for Richard Gardner’s “Threat Therapy” forced on children and families in “family courts” is unacceptable.

If Carl Gustav Jung were alive today, what would he say about the use of the DSM-V in family courts?

Here’s what he wrote about writing “The Red Book”:

“The years … when I pursued the inner images, were the most important time of my life. Everything else is to be derived from this. It began at that time, and the later details hardly matter anymore. My entire life consisted in elaborating what had burst forth from the unconscious and flooded me like an enigmatic stream and threatened to break me. That was the stuff and material for more than only one life. Everything later was merely the outer classification, scientific elaboration, and the integration into life. But the numinous beginning, which contained everything, was then.”

“Do you believe, man of this time, that laughter is lower than worship?
Where is your measure, false measurer?
The sum of life decides in laughter and in worship, not your judgment.”

https://archive.org/details/jungtheredbook/page/n251/mode/1up

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

This narcissist quack is still scamming others of her kind? Ugly ugly toxic person- she helped kill Diane Hart

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

She was involved in Diane’s case?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

“Ms. Kloth-Zanard was removed from the active list because she did not respond to an email sent to her on November 15, 2017. Ms. Kloth- Zanard emailed a request to be reinstated to the active list on April 12, 2018.

Ms. Kloth-Zanard does not currently meet all of the requirements of Practice Book Section 25-62.
The Committee tabled Ms. Kloth-Zanard’s request until such time that she notifies the Committee that she has met all of the requirements of Practice Book Section 25-62.“

https://jud.ct.gov/Committees/GAL_AMC/GAL_Minutes_051518.pdf

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Why is this person profiting off of child alienating- court systems ? Looks like a good cause , but once again it’s all about that money

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

why are people profiting off of the false allegations of DV industry which incentivizes parental alienation behavior by a parent for financial gain?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

I wish I would have known about this. This is educational, not profiting off of a bad situation, that’s like telling an ER doctor he can’t be paid because you got injured falling off your bike and breaking your leg. This is good, solid info every parent who has lost their child via false accusations, that has suffered from the court system should know about.

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Have you enrolled?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago
Reply to  Anonymous

Does she offer all men the same information in all cases of “false accusations”?

How does she know when the accusations are false? Does she interview the children?

Anonymous
Anonymous
6 months ago

Heart breaking

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His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” Parlato was also credited in the Starz docuseries "Seduced" for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

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