Emily [not her real name or photo] shares her experience with the Connecticut family court.
By Emily
My Story
The father of my daughter, whom I will call “Harry,” beat me up numerous times. He punched me in the face. He held me against my will and one day, he almost killed me by strangling me.
Police arrested him, and the public defender’s office in Middletown represented him in criminal court.
He left the state to avoid child support payments.
Then, one day, he came to Connecticut, kidnapped our daughter, and removed her from the state. I called the police. They told me they could not do anything to help me. It was outside their jurisdiction. I called the FBI. They said it was a local police matter.
For five months, I begged him to return our child to Connecticut. He said unless I agreed to work things out with him, he would leave the country with my daughter. I’d never see her again.
To protect her, I went to his home out of state. He took off work and held me as a vrtual captive. After 25 days, Harry went back to work. I escaped on a plane with my child to Connecticut when he left.
I went straight to the Connecticut courthouse, which was a beacon of hope for me for protection and custody.
The court appointed a GAL, Sharon Peters, who was ironically an attorney at the public defender’s office. Peters did most of her GAL work at the public defender’s office.
A GAL is usually appointed to represent the child’s best interest, but in this case, because Harry lived out of state, the judge appointed the GAL “to oversee our court case in light of the distance of the parties.”
Meantime, a Connecticut domestic violence abuse shelter relocated us and gave me a new legal identity. My child and I were safe, healing, and happy for two years.
Then the GAL began working with Harry to locate me.
She called the Connecticut state police Troop F and told them I kidnapped my child even though I had sole physical custody.
The State Police made a summary report but not an actual police report. I have a copy of the summary report. It reveals that State Trooper [name redacted] ran my name through the police NCIC system solely on statements made by the GAL and my ex.
The state trooper located my new identity and newly relocated address out of state. She gave Harry my new identity, home address, and a copy of my new driver’s license number.
The trooper and the GAL went on to give my ex legal advice, telling him he should pursue charges against me for kidnapping. In an email exchange, the GAL stated that he should have me arrested.
Harry served me with sole custody and a contempt motion upon locating me. When he showed up at court, he was furious that no one alerted him that I hired an attorney.
He pulled his sole custody motion. He never wanted sole custody. He merely wanted my information and home address to continue stalking me and cause havoc.
My attorney advised me not to mention the domestic abuse I had suffered, as it might jeopardize my case.
Under this unusual warning that if you truthfully bring up a father or spouse’s abuse, a mother loses custody in Connecticut, I said nothing about his criminal record for beating and strangling me.
I soon realized that the GAL – in fact the court – wanted the father to have custody as if somehow everyone made money if they gave the father custody.
My attorney said I have to agree to visitation, even though he has kidnapped the child and held me captive, or I would lose custody. At first, I tried for supervised visitation.
Judge Gerard Adelman threatened that I would lose custody of my daughter if I interfered in my ex having unsupervised access to our child.
What struck me most was that I could not mention Harry’s abuse of me and the danger he presented to my child in Connecticut Family Court, or they would use this as their cover to take my child and give it to the father for financial reasons that benefit the state or the court.
I have years of evidence and research that uncover biased contracts favoring fathers over mothers, regardless of abuse history. If you’re interested in examining the documents I’ve gathered, which include whistleblower evidence, please reply in your website.
I can’t leave my personal information on this blog for safety reasons.
Editor’s Note:
This is a sensitive and serious matter. If these allegations are factual, it may help explain better why parental alienation is used as a weapon by family courts.
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Assistant secretary of children and families of health and human services. Wade Horn. ” president Bush has focused on family formation and healthy marriage” for the welfare of children and social economic development of the country. “The government should not trap anyone in to abusive relationships. Should never withdraw support for single parent families. They are just trapping women in abusive relationships with taking their children. All of the financial funding is going to support single father households. The access and visitation grant program is triggered when women are filing and asking for child support. Incarcerated are encouraged to file for custody or face financial burden for child support. All of the money is aimed at fathers and marriage is not even involved in the matter. The health and human services departments are raking in billions of dollars for fatherhood. Our nation is unbalanced and appears to be discriminating against mothers for great financial benefits. The department of health and human services is heavily involved in the family court system problems. Has waged a war on women and motherhood for their programs.
Wade Horn an American psychologist. He also served as president for the national fatherhood initiative and associate professor at Michigan State University. Additionally he was affiliated with scholar at the right wing think tank at the Hudson institute.
He resigned in 2007 prior to an investigation about his spending. Question of hiring his friends who were unqualified. The head of health and human services was in Connecticut in July. DCF visit. He didn’t appear to visit Uconn and look around. Considering CT has a ten year history of family court crisis.
Women congressional policy April 2023. Healthy marriage initiative. senator, health, education, labor, and pension subcommittee. ( Riding the wave 🌊 to save the pension) Department of children and families. All examined policies to promote marriage. Absolutely NO Democratic senators attended and Absolutely No minority staff spoke!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Senator Jeff Sessions arguing ” The federal governments involvement in promoting marriage is nessacery”. Because divorce and unwed child baring creates substantial public costs born by the taxpayers “. Dr. Barbara Whitehouse of national marriage project Rutgers University. ” Even among the most at risk women ( minority mothers, mother’s with lower levels of education achievement or low income) have significant economic benefits. Explains marriage promotes social connections, civic and RELIGIOUS involvement and charitable giving. ( pass the collection basket). The National Fatherhood initiative president Roland Warren States several things reaching for more funding from the government. “A 15 year old girl who is only lived with her mother is 3x more likely to loose her virginity before her 16th birthday ” ( I would sure like to know where this data is being collected) . Voicing support for act (s604) which would award MORE grant money 💰 to state ( salary & pension) and non government organizations/ faith based programs. To promote marriage and fatherhood. Mr. Warren said that women will benefit because it would allow them to work outside the house and eventually achieve equality in the workforce. ( has he seen the price of child care in our nation? ) Over 350 women in Congress no one is protecting women in this country. Minority community has no voice. The democrats financially benefiting didn’t even show up. This is what is leading the courts and the country. It’s all about the money.
Dangerous predictors rebranded as responsible fathers. The state of Connecticut is famous and full of the them.
September 20, 2023. Inside investigator. Judges salarys up 30% In the last decade. Another round of increases for judges and judicial employees scheduled for July 2024. Rewards for increasing funding to the state
Judges salaries co inside with the governor Lamont, Susan Bysiewicz and attorney general William Tong. They are giving themselves raises.
CT Family court is the wild Wild West, my case was marked VAWA with DCF substantiations multiple DV arrests… CT family court DOES NOT CARE. This is nothing new, it’s been years and years of the same BS. No change, nothing new. This is a dangerous state for women and children.
Well here we are with Adelman again but his buddy Moocowsher is retired or retiring so Adelman needs a new protector. Connecticut Family Court is as corrupt as any organization on earth with less ethics and morals. Insanity
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if she never filed a police report when she was abused in the past, there is no point in bringing up domestic abuse during a custody fight. There is no proof.
Convicted of strangulation. Nice try kloth Zanard. You are going to go to jail at some point for your continued work to get a covered up. Joanie you belong in a cell. We are going to continue to out domestic violence until you are in jail. Connecticut it’s time to put the kloth in behind bars.
Joan has nothing to do with this case. This is my case. My life. My fucking lived experience!!!
How do we contact you? For this … “I have years of evidence and research that uncover biased contracts favoring fathers over mothers, regardless of abuse history”
If you are asking to contact me concerning the years of evidence and research that uncover bias contracts favoring fathers over mothers please contact me through Frank. If you want to contact Frank you can contact at the email that he left above in the article.
Please supply them we need to show how this is happening.
another idiot responding from the corrupt law industry. Go apologize to that tree that wasted oxygen on you.
When DV victims contact police- abuse is worse. We think it’s safe and we and our children will finally be protected in court. What a joke- a sick twisted evil joke that is
Most women don’t call because we know it will get worse. We know we are not protected.
He was arrested for the abuse. Read the article.
OK, then why not present the arrest records in court, unless they’re saying spousal abuse from years ago has nothing to do with your ability to be a parent today? which I guess could be true? Plus I’m sure if he was convicted the judge is aware of those convictions, so no need to go on about it in court?
Harry’s arrest record was supplied on every motion ever filed and every response ever filed in the courts For years, Emily stapled it to every single one so the judges did not have to dig through the entire court case to find it Attach to the initial court orders and motions… It was the judges that decided to ignore it.
Women who seek divorce from abusive men, or break up are often further abused through the children. An abuse is really an isolated situation. Rapist, murder and pedophilia are a danger to society as a whole. The abuser continues the abuse. The family of origin usually enable and encourage abuse. Reactive abuse is an isolated situation as a form of protection. Abuse in a family is almost always hidden. The family court system psychologist are intentionally hidding substantiated abuse and encourage it. This is a sick joke in society. All financially driven.
The key takeaway here is “If these allegations are factual”.
There is no disclaimer that Harry was contacted by FP for his testimony.
He was convinced of strangulation. Nice try alienation warriors. Another abusive ding a ling daddy running the fatherhood initiative racket in the state of Connecticut.
Paranoid much? I think whoever you are lost custody because of paranoid schizophrenia. Not corruption.
Emily never lost custody, because she played chess well with the Connecticut family court and never prevented access Because she was smart and made her original custody order where the abusive father had to request visitation through a third party.
Her custody order was never written up where the abusive father had direct access to her or the child’s location, it was written up where everything was done through third party for protection.
It was the abusive father along with the GAL and with law enforcements help that put her in danger and it was the courts who ignored the initial court order and how it was written to protect her and their child.
It was the judge that forced her to put her child in renification therapy for 3 months where the abuser never even showed up to his 1 time 1 hour meeting that he was granted by the judge and then he also never showed up to his last court date on his own motion of contempt against Emily.
Because he is a lying violent abuser.
These abusive people don’t want to reunify with the kids. They want to inflict financial and emotional distress on the other parent. Special not to newbies. It doesn’t end after the divorce trial. You will be dragged back and forth to court for years! The current system you can loose custody at any time. These sociopath have playbook. Tricks of the trade. It’s not about the children. They are vindictive. The system is all to willing to cash in and ignores it.
Harry doesn’t need to be contacted, connecticut arrest records of Harry, will speak for themselves and frank will have them.
One side, her side, is all you need.
No wonder men always get the shaft
Incorrect statement. Women in the majority of cases in family court system are under attack relentlessly.
Weird not a lot of Chris supporters commenting on this article…. Actually it seems a lot of people who try to discredit Frank haven’t said one word on this article… I’m really surprised. Then again I’m not.
The truth is about to be exposed So the devils lay silent.
I received an email a few years ago from an advocate, who use to practice law, that occasionally will help victims in Connecticut;
“Just a brief warning – You have no idea as to what you are messing with!
No – the State of Ct. will not be at all interested in hearing you-
but they will be interested in snuffing you out!!
I strongly suggest that you move on and count your blessings
No attorney – no advocate is going to take on your case – Looking for
accountability is long out of range – You need to move on constructively.”
People know how dangerous it is for mothers, dv victims, sexual assault victims in Connecticut. Yet continue to make money and not expose the truth.
BRAVERY IS THE ONLY THING LEFT.
How are people accredited to decide major decisions when it comes to family custody matters ? Today many families have issues .. would be interesting to be a fly on the wall in all these evaluators , forensic experts , GAL people !
“… would be interesting to be a fly on the wall in all these evaluators , forensic experts , GAL people ! “
I’ve seen the evidence. This is a factual story.
Why is Frank Report doing all the work The Hartford Courant should do?
Hartford Courant only reports what judiciary wants. News is controlled in CT.
The judicial branch has a media comforter and that is why none of this stuff is an major print