Man Who ‘Loved’ Kristin Snyder Finds Out About Her Disappearance; Seeks Justice, Blames Raniere

Kristen Snyder smiling
Kristen Snyder, who vanished mysteriously in 2003 while attending a Nxivm/ESP intensive.

Kristin Snyder, an environmental consultant, departed the Executive Success Programs intensive in Anchorage, Alaska on February 6, 2003.  She has never been heard from again. She was 35.

The day after Snyder’s disappearance, on February 8, her Toyota Tacoma pickup truck was found parked at Millers Landing, on Lowell Point Road in Seward, Alaska, a campground, fishing, and kayaking resort on Resurrection Bay.

A note inside her car suggested suicide. A kayak was missing from the yard of Millers Landing. Authorities believe Snyder took the kayak out on Resurrection Bay. An extensive three-day search of the bay area failed to find any clues as to her whereabouts.

Her body was never found. She is a presumptive suicide.

Shortly before her disappearance, two witnesses claim she told them that Keith Raniere had gotten her pregnant. She had visited NXIVM headquarters in Albany, where Raniere lived, about a month earlier.

I produced and appeared in a two-hour film for Investigation Discovery entitled The Lost Women of NXIVM, where Snyder’s disappearance was investigated.

Today I received a letter from a man who knew Snyder. It is for those who have read about Snyder a slice of life, perhaps not important, but to some readers, it might be insightful.  He had this to say about Kristin and has some hope of bringing justice to bear on those responsible for whatever did happen to her.

By Brian

I recently watched your documentary about the Lost Women of NXIVM and discovered from that what happened to Kristin.

Can you please send the following letter to her sister?

My name is Brian.

I would first like to say how sorry I am to the family and friends of Kristin for their terrible loss, and the circumstances surrounding it. I had lost contact with Kristin for over 20 years, and am just finding out now what happened. I learned about this by watching a documentary about the NXIVM cult called the Vow. I googled the name Keith Raniere, and came across the section about Kristin. I was shocked, horrified, and am currently grieving the loss of the amazingly wonderful warm person that was Kristin.

I met Kristin, her dog, and a few of her friends at a music festival on the Kenai Peninsula of Alaska sometime in the late 90’s. I think it was 1998. I immediately liked her and we became friends.

Kristin was interested in getting to know people, and learning about them. She was one of the few people I met that I felt wasn’t judging me in any way.

Kristin Snyder standing by the Tacoma later found at Resurrection Bay with a purported suicide note….     

I was working as a Biotechnician studying migratory birds.

I spent three summers (1995-1997) working in remote areas throughout the state. That summer, I decided to work out of Anchorage and explore the music scene by going to different festivals.

I remember running into Kristin at several music festivals that summer. Each time, we got to know each other a little better.

Over the summer, I started to develop feelings for Kristin, but I don’t think I was aware of it, and I never told her. I remember getting an email from Kristin at some point. I will never forget her email. It was some variation of Northern Lights. She told me she was working at a restaurant called the Happy Face in Homer, Alaska.

Kristin Snyder was known to kayak in all kinds of weather….

As the summer wore on into the fall and winter, Kristin was in Girdwood, and I was in Anchorage. I remember meeting her at a restaurant in Anchorage called the Moose’s Tooth.

Kristin and I remained in touch after I moved to San Jose, CA, in pursuit of a music career. Kristin contacted me sometime in 1999 to tell me that she was going to see the band called String Cheese Incident at the Filmore in San Francisco.

She asked me if I would like to go. I picked Kristin and her friends up at the San Jose Airport and brought them to my house. Later, some local friends came to pick her up and drive to San Francisco.

The plan was for us all to meet up later in San Fran.

Kristin Snyder

At that time, I noticed the feelings I had for Kristin coming to the surface. I began to drink to deal with them. I noticed she was with another man. I felt there was no way for me to tell her how I felt and that she was spoken for, so I became drunk by the time I met them in San Francisco.

I ended up acting like a complete jerk, and embarrassing and humiliating Kristin in front of her friends.

Despite how mean I was, Kristin kept giving me opportunity after opportunity to stay around. I couldn’t deal with my feelings and left the hotel everyone was staying at, and slept in my van in a parking garage. I never had contact with Kristin again.

For the last 24 years, there hasn’t been a month that has gone by, where I haven’t been hit by a sense of regret for how I treated Kristin that night. It is only now, as I grieve her loss, that I understand how deeply I loved her.

How can someone love somebody so much after only meeting them and being around them a few times? Kristin was an amazing person. She was the truth. I am so deeply filled with sorrow.

Yet at the same time, I am reminded of the joy she brought to my life and the world.

As my shock and sorrow begins to turn to anger, I wish to help Kristin’s loved ones bring closure and seek justice for what happened to her.

In either way, whether it was murder, suicide, or disappearance, Keith Raniere and the NXIVM cult are responsible for her death.

I would like to bring a wrongful death lawsuit against Raniere and the members of his cult. They will be compelled to testify, and we may finally discover what happened to her.

I am willing to help in any way that I can, whether it be starting a crowdfunding campaign to raise money for an attorney, raising public awareness by starting a foundation about the dangers of cult manipulation in her name, or whatever else I can do to bring justice for Kristin and keep her spirit alive.


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  • 3 day search my ass. Has anyone seen the police search record? Ha more like less than a day. If Kristin was pregnant than why doesn’t it say this in search records? Usually when a pregnant girl goes missing more people care, just not Kristin and her baby. Pregnant women disappear all the time no biggie.

  • Every single thing “Brian” states with regard to Kris is not only categorically untrue, all of this is easily proven untrue.

    Her whereabouts at nearly any given time are easily proven. Like her mom, Kris was an archivist of her/story as much as any historian is.

    Regardless of whose demented mind “Brian” is a figment of, make no bones about it, this is all BULLSHIT!

      • At the bottom of Resurrection Bay, where she drowned herself.

        If “where’s the body?” Is supposed to make a mystery of this clear case of suicide, let’s look at another self-drowning, that of Chaundre Cross, a prominent doctor in Naples Bay Florida last year.

        He went missing in less than fifty feet of water. His body has never been recovered. Despite The clear, calm conditions of heavily trafficked Florida waters.

        She drowned herself in the abyss of a current fraught fjord in the Alaskan wilderness.

        • And it’s also a complete coincidence that Chaundre Cross disappeared on the exact same day his wife filed for divorce, right AS? Not sure this story is a good choice to make your point.

      • My intuition tells me that IF Kristin is alive, she is living in some kind of cult commune, off the grid, devoid of all electronic devices to communicate with the outside world. Probably somewhere in Mexico. She may believe that all her family and friends are gone, and accepted her new reality as an adaptation to survive.

        • No way she’s alive. If she was, she would’ve surfaced upon hearing his conviction. I say send Keith to Quantomino Bay for a bit and see what he has to say. And follow the money Bronfman trail. Someone in Alaska was doing their bidding and tasked with keeping Kristin quiet.

  • Brian’s story really touched me. It adds a note of closure to the Kristin Snyder story. A little glimpse of her life when she was living life and happy before she met Keith.

    Thanks Brian for sharing a tender sad sweet slice of life with someone we only know though the mystery of her strange disappearance and conflicting stories.

    But we all kind of know she is dead.

  • Kristen’s death has Keith Raniere’s fingerprints all over it. Many of Keith’s sexual partners became pregnant–in my opinion–because they were raped or coerced. He clearly didn’t want children, but he never used protection. The majority who got pregnant didn’t want to be, it wasn’t planned, and they had no opportunity to use protection.

    Plus, he had a habit of wanting to ‘cure’ lesbians by having sex with them.

    He also used sex as a type of spiritual therapy. Or at least, that’s the despicable story he came up with to explain why he needed to stick his holy rod into every skinny hole he could.

    Kristen was either driven to suicide because of Keith, or murdered by one of his demented disciples. Either way, he is responsible. Had she not met that sick monster, she’d still be alive.

  • Great letter. Really appreciate the insight and context it provided.

    I’m sure many of us can relate to Brian’s drunken scene. I’ve got a large handful of booze fueled mulligans I’d ask for.

    • .Maybe we could be friends after all NutJob. You’re an alcoholic like me.

      “I’ve got a large handful of booze fueled mulligans.”

      Is muliligan a code word for when you beer goggle ugly chicks?

      Scott J. has a code word—he says, “roofied!”

  • Brian-

    I am sorry you will not legally be able to bring a wrongful death lawsuit.

    You have no legal standing. .

    • Correct. I don’t have any legal standing. It is up to her family to proceed with a lawsuit. A precedent has already been set for wrongful death by driving someone to suicide. The statute of limitations can be extended to the time of finding out it was a wrongful death.

  • Was he sure she was “with” a man? If she was bisexual, that makes the rumor about her being pregnant with Keith’s baby more likely.

  • Kind of a strange story. I thought Kristin was gay but maybe she was not. But it is a poetic and beautiful story nonetheless.
    I wonder what happened to Kristin? She is so much nicer than her weirdo sister.

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Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist.

His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” Parlato was also credited in the Starz docuseries "Seduced" for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Additionally, Parlato’s coverage of the group OneTaste, starting in 2018, helped spark an FBI investigation, which led to indictments of two of its leaders in 2023.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premiered on May 22, 2022. Most recently, he consulted and appeared on Tubi's "Branded and Brainwashed: Inside NXIVM," which aired January, 2023.

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