The U$E of Parental Alienation in Family Court Serves the Best Interest of Professionals Not Children

Family Court professionals are known to work with, and for, each other. Here, the attorney for the father works with the attorney for the mother. Says the attorney for the mother to his client, "the other attorney in this case is fucking us over. We need another replenishment of the retainer".

In Family Court, Parental Alienation is applied, which assumes mothers and children lie more often than fathers.

It assumes a woman cannot forget her children and will have compassion. As a result, she will fight, and those with financial incentives can beat her. Make the mother the quarry, and she will die game. Parental alienation is the hunters’ tool.

Some mothers make false accusations and seek to ruin the father. But the financial incentive is better either way, if the hunters find the mother guilty of alienation, not the father of abuse.

Many court-appointed experts are needed when the judgment is parental alienation.

Experts are available to solve the problems of parental alienation

The incentive ignores credible abuse claims, dismissing them as children’s antics and paranoia of disturbed mothers.

According to Richard Gardner, only court-ordered professionals can judge parental alienation, billing by the hour. One finding of PA can earn a team hundreds of thousands of dollars – in some cases, more than a million if the family has assets.

Fail to find PA, and there is often an open and shut case of custody and visitation, often 50-50. No need for experts.

No need for the guardian ad litem, the custody evaluator, the family therapist, the therapist for the father, the mother, for each of the children, the psychiatrist to prescribe medications for the traumatized children, the parent coaching expert, the visitation supervisor, the reunification therapist and specialists to give second and third opinions.

The experts know what to look for and how to solve the problem

The trick of PA is to assume the harm of parental alienation from the father is worse for children than losing their mother.

The most humane thing is remove the mother from the lives of children, followed by years of therapy.

PA gets professionals involved in place of the mother.

And lawyers make money as the desperate mother fights to return her children to her own house. The trick of bagging the quarry is she will make mistakes. The experts label this as mental disorder, and point to her not obeying the court as they make court conditions in the worst interest of the children.

The GAL serves the best interest of her children 

PA is the slow, deliberate hunting of the mother. Part of the hunt is to disable her, make her unstable.

Her parental aleination syndrome may never be cured, they say, but they can cure the children by removing her.

Richard Gardner never admitted PA alienated healthy mothers from children and gave them to abusers. To maintain PA, he required the infallibility of the therapist and the GAL. Children and mothers lie; fathers are honest. And therapists are never wrong when they identify PA.

The GAL recommends a custody evaluator who determines if there is parental alienation 

He never admitted children suffer lifelong trauma from losing mothers. He taught the memory of mother fades from dim and feeble sight. Joy and grief are mingled in the cup, but there will be no bitter tears: the grief softens, loses all character of pain as children forget mothers in time.

Dr. Gardner and followers do not think a child’s half-formed consciousness can hold such feelings long, of loving a mother, being comforted by her, this will not remain in some remote and distant time in their hearts or in their minds.

As the mother comforted them once, the therapist can comfort in the future – and the psychiatrist with drugs.

Psychiatrists are needed to employ pharmaceuticals 

Yes, there are mothers who falsely accuse and coach their children. Some children lie about their father to keep their mother close.

PA presumes mothers and children are lying, and children will not be traumatized by losing their mother.

It assumes the PA cure is not worse than the disease of PA.

But PA is a criminal conspiracy. Court professionals collude to find it. Imagine if prosecutors were paid more if a defendant was found innocent, rather than guilty.

If a mother or child accuses the father, the lawyers, the GAL, and therapists make more if they find the father innocent and the mother alienating.

Zealous lawyers guide their clients with attention to billing results.

The conspiracy begins with attorneys. They know without PA they will wrap up their case with minimal billing.

If they stoke the flames, a fight by the hour, if they are outraged by the other attorney of how she condones what the other parent is doing. Stoked on both sides. They will make far more.

A family law attorney in one case will be a family law attorney in another or perhaps a GAL. They switch positions. They know each other, and rather than outrage, they line their pockets and laugh in their sleeves. They want your fight. They want the advantage of parental alienation. They have but one goal.

The lawyer recommends the fair and impartial GAL

The lawyer recommends one way to solve the dispute between parents – a fair impartial GAL. This is the lie “fair and impartial.”

The GAL an attorney who bills by the hour will bill more hours if she suspects parental alienation. She will require a custody evaluator, who will find parental alienation, and who recommends therapists.

The therapists will find PA and support therapy, as they all agree – as if they consulted – the parental alienation is severe.

More therapy, more court intervention, more hours for lawyers and the GAL. Then comes visitation supervisors, for mothers can no longer be trusted with children they gave birth to and raised. She might alienate the children more.

The system requires cooperation. Attorneys and therapists together ensure maximum rewards. They know it. No one has to be told. They know where bread is buttered; they have grown fat from butter.

PA is required to make their living. They understand. Gardner gave unto them – a man who made his living protecting fathers sexually abusing their children.

The therapist knows best

The family law attorneys develop a network, therapists, custody evaluators, experts who understand Gardner is their livelihood as is their referrals. Take away PA, you take away their living in the business they have chosen.

In the ordinary world, we would recognize them as thieves. But they come in fancy garb and titles. The guardian ad litem, the custody evaluator, the court-ordered therapist, the psychologist, the social worker, the psychiatrist, the attorney at law.

They believe in parental alienation and it justifies the removal of a parent from a child.

The tears of children are not to find their way into their souls. Their hearts are waterproof. Their blood ice, their hearts iron.

To do a great right – taking care of their own families, to put their kids through college, to have fine homes, vacations and elegant cars driven to fine restaurants and retirement savings, they do a little wrong – to someone else’s family – while pretending to serve the best interest of children.

Mothers seem especially troubled by the unexpected robbery. The professionals count on this. They know mothers think there is justice in court – that professionals will protect them from abusive spouses.

Mothers do not understand the work of the court is done not in the courtroom. The judge rubber stamps. The GAL advises, basing recommendations on experts, the custody evaluator, the therapist.

The court will not hear the plea of the mother who disputes the experts.

The mother is shocked, then stunned then desperate as all is taken.
Parental alienation is found not only to lose her her children, but her share of the marital assets.

Possession is all 10 points of the law in family court.

Mothers think it is the established custom of courts to transact business at noon and make appointments with justice. It is done in darkness. Like a thief in the night, and even if someone tapped the phones of the legion of swine, they would not hear collusion. The swine knows in advance what he will devour and doesn’t need to say it.

Judges know too. They are comfortable with them who appear before them and flatter and cajole, and offer goodies and fight for their reappointment and when they retire – offer cozy nests at little law firms with little work.

The judge understands both butter and bread.

Midnight has come upon the family court. The courthouse, the lawyer’s office, the therapist, the madhouse for the mother: the custody evaluator with her written tests, and the rigid face of the traumatized mother losing her children, and the cries of children: midnight was upon them all.

Let tears fall, and broken words exchange on the cold record buttressed by experts all in accord.

Anyone who reads transcripts and the findings of experts in agreement will conclude their accord was not preplanned for their enrichment.

Let children forget the embrace of their mother. Let them be orphans, so lawyers and therapists might triumph.

There will be a gathering of experts, professionals to help

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  • REPORT A JUDGE TO THE FBI.
    IT DOES NOT MATTER IF YOUR CHILD(REN) ARE 5, 25 OR 35. PSYCHOLOGICAL CHILD ABUSE IS A CRIME LISTED IN THE DSM-5 V995.51 A SHARED DELUSION • PSYCHOLOGICAL CONTROL
    ​JUDGES THAT ORDER PSYCHOLOGICAL ABUSE NEED TO BE REPORTED AND CHARGED.
    EMOTIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE DEFINITION BY THE UNITED STATES DEPARTMENT OF JUSTICE: “HARMING ONES RELATIONSHIP WITH HIS/HER CHILDREN”
    https://www.childabusivejudges.com/

  • There are more false allegations of physical and sexual abuse than true allegations and these are made equally by both genders. This is statistically documented. In fact, the number of false Parental alienation cases is small compared to the number of true cases. The reality is that if we do not allow false allegations of any kind whether it be neglect, physical, sexual, psychological or financial. When we finally penalize for false allegations of any kind, then this issue will abate because only true provable with solid evidence or backing of an expert in those specific fields, not a general experts, will curb this psychological abuse with false allegations. Take away the adjectives such as gender, race, color, creed, religion and so on, and it boils down to the same issues. False allegations of abuse of any kind should be penalized. And we all agree that the courts in CT are severely compromised and dysfunctional due to greed and power by the good ol’boys and girls network. Get rid of the corruption and this all goes away.

    • There are no known studies of false alligations of parental alienation. That I am aware of. Often gals are running around disputing substanced alligations of abuse. They often don’t contact the people who”s names have been provided.

      People who know the children and family well. Who do we consider qualified? The gals and attorneys disputes professionals who are experts in trama and abuse. Because they are not the chosen one.The court only appears to not to want training in anything other than” parental alienation “. False alligations of abuse should not be tolerated either. You can give all the evidence you want.

      If the gals or your own attorneys don’t present it to a judge they can’t make an informed decision. They can’t be held to judicial standards. The parental alienation reunification therapy is a profitable industry. The judicial system has completely lost perspective and appear not to want to be hear anything else. When folks are running around stating 99 percent of abuse is false that is inaccurate. Placing children in danger.2 children have recently lost their lives!!

      Woman are gender profiled in this state in family court. Liars hysterical and gold diggers before you enter the court house. It’s placing children at risk. Woman are being accused of parental alienation relentlessly. No matter what the custody dispute is about. The family law industry is completely taking advantage of the system. Children are being exploted! Of course I am fired up about it. One of them was mine.

  • Reunification therapy is part of the bigger problem. The therapy doesn’t focus on resolution of conflict. It targets children. The parent or parents never receive the mental health services they need. Often covert Narristic personality traits displayed by the parent who claims to be alienated. They insist on being painted as the victim. Often gal and psychologist fueling them.

    Custody battle is a tug of war. Unfairly placing children of all ages in very bad situation. The mental health professionals damaging the children forcing unhealthy relationships. . Biology is not an entitlement. It doesn’t ensure healthy relationships. Children are treated as possessions. Many parents should be apologizing to their children. Working on the behavior affecting the children. The therapy doesn’t work often. Why these cases are dragged out.

    It doesn’t work because the parent fails to try to work on themselves. They are focused on blaming the other parent for the break down of the relationship. Reunification is ordered in just about all cases. Recommend by attorneys and ordered by judges. People who have no real training or education to do so. Any mental health professionals who states reunification is not appropriate are attacked by the legal system. The courts are only appointing the ones who will perform it no matter what the cost to the well being of the child. The GAls are not gathering information for the courts. They appear to be engaged in cases as co counsel and forcing cases into parental alienation relentlessly. . At great profit for them and the hand picked psychologist. There are parents unfairly removed from a childs life because it is profitable for the family law industry.

    If you have substance abuse and/or evidence that there are procuring cause for relationship break down, forcing a parental alienation case is fraud in my opinion. It’s appearing to happening relentlessly in the state of Connecticut. The judges are doing nothing to stop this or protecting people from what appears to be fraud occuring in the family law industry. Failure to protect the children from being exploted for financial gain.

  • Love Affair, Fraud, counsel Corruption, money, money and more money, deceit, manipulation, false allegations, arrests and total disregard for the due process of the judicial system… is this the script for a new Hollywood Film? Well, no and welcome to Connecticut Corrupt Family Court with main “actor” in this more than six-year intriguing saga of the most severe parental alienation you will ever hear about, Luigi DiRubba in Connecticut who has been fighting to see his younger children for almost 4 years, His older children almost 6 years

    He literally lost everything including his dignity, good name and reputation, but a father who’s love for his children are unmatched with numerous witnesses and evidence IGNORED! These are the shocking facts to this story bearing in mind that DiRubba has NEVER been found an unfit parent.

    Testimony, evidence and witnesses blatantly ignored …and this neglect to bring crucial evidence of deceit, perjury by the mother and her attorney to Court was well orchestrated by many involved due to amount extracted from him. DiRubba doubt that this would even have made a difference since the Judges were bias and manipulated from the onset every hearing misusing their judicial power, exparte meetings in chambers , to make ridiculous orders all in favor of the mother and her attorney. ….”I am going away for the weekend and you will pay for it….” ….”I want my fucking money…”, yes these are some examples of ex parte visits to the judges chambers by the mothers attorney.

    Never once was it about the best interest of the welfare of the children.

    Parental rights are fundamental rights protected under federal/constitutional law. Fundamental rights are possessed by the individual, not the married couple. Fundamental rights are also called substantive rights or natural rights.

    The mother was so emboldened by the ability to get away with lying that immediately after one charge was dropped, she would literally walk to the civil court division and petition for another false protective order. She also used different law enforcement jurisdictions to file her criminal complaints.

    The GAL in this matter even reported to the prosecutors that the mother was manipulating the system. It was reported to DCF that the mother is coercing the children and that she was not credible.

    Did this change anything? Absolutely not. The mother moved the children to Florida without court filing and Any notification to father. And is still in Florida after father has been filing motions since August! His hearings were desolated 4 times by judge Grossman giving the mother ample to mine establish residence for kids.

    And Father is is still waiting to get the court ordered reunification with his children unfortunately will never happen since she fled after therapist testified that mother was not interested in reunification… judge Connors ignored this May 2nd and canceled next hearing in July giving mother Carte blanche to do whatever nd move prior to hearing. There’s plenty of evidence that there is behind the door correspondence between the attorney and the judges for all this to allow to happen

    It is evident that the courts are corrupt, judges, attorneys and court appointed Gardium Ad Litem’s scratch each other’s backs to benefit their careers. This also includes the Grievance panels who ignored substantial evidence of absolute malpractice of the GAL and Attorneys given that the grievance panel didn’t even acknowledge the complaints and evidence made and given.

    All DiRubba wanted for this past Christmas is to hear his children’s voices, maybe a face face reunite in reunification to see his children, to be able to communicate, give a hug and kiss freely with his children with no interference all of which the mother and a corrupt Court system has blocked so far. Will Luigi ever be able to restore his relationship with his children who he has never stopped loving and cared for since first breath….? only time will tell as the corrupt Family Court system the constant crave of money hungry wolves and all its role players are held directly responsible for the extreme emotional, financial and court assisted psychological abuse turmoil not only on Luigi but moreover his CHILDREN.

    Will this ever stop?.

  • CT family court engages in parental alienation and character assassination when they endorse “no contact” orders with one parent and give full authority to the other parent.

    They slander and destroy the targeted parent. It’s reprehensible. Children are then told how horrific one parent is- which is soul crushing and not in their best interests.

    Those who accuse of alienation are indeed the alienates themselves.

    The courts can alienate fathers as well— it’s all about the money. Luigi DiRubba is a fit CT father with six children. The court has denied him access to his children for four years!!!!

    This is child abuse! Deprivation of a parents attention, affection and love is child abuse.

    What’s going on in court is criminal. Everyone knows it.

    CT media will not cover it. Keith Harmon Snow investigated and wrote- In the Worst Interest of the Child: Trafficking children through family courts.

    Jocelyn Hurwitz was an abuse, unethical, lying pos and abused two girls, buried evidence and protected an abusive father using her connections with dcf.

    Today, she continues to destroy lives.

    It’s no coincidence that she was the attorney for a Westport mother who killed her child and herself. Jocelyn terrorizes mothers. It’s all for money.

  • Family Court holds a special purpose in the destruction of society, the strategy is simple, create a conflict where none exists, pit parents against each other, force them to fight over children, engaging in state sponsored character assassination, diver the conflict to the limit, bleeding family savings completely, then wrap up the case as there is no more money for lawyers or vendors. Simple, same execution on any family with money before the bench.

  • It’s money driven for sure. But the fact that mothers are suddenly slandered as “crazy” by gals with no training and custody evaluators that have no right to make a diagnosis- much less a diagnosis that isn’t in the DSM-V is disgusting.

  • The courts are endorsing child abuse by their own professionals.

    They are in fact, ordering the abuse with draconian orders of no contact and supervised visitation for the same parent that raised the children without complaint or incident throughout their lives.

  • Regarding Divorce Child Custody:

    The mother is generally awarded custody or shared custody. When this doesn’t happen it is usually the result of:

    1. Mother is mentally ill or a drug addict.
    2. Father or father’s family has deep pockets and can bilk the system. Sometimes is actually is the case less than <5%.

    3. Both 1 & 2.

    95% of the time the the wife is favored even in Connecticut.

    No offense to anyone, but so far the women in this series of articles all seem to have some screws loose as well as the men do.

    In this case which screwball gets the kids, flip a coin…..

    Want to feel sorry for someone, feel sorry for the CHILDREN!!!!!

    • Perfectly sane a majority of them. Not addicts. You are right about the deep pocket. Never lost custody myself. There are favors going on in the family courts. Some time you just have to hire the right lawyer . Parental alienation is used to subdue the opposing side. There are financial gains through funding for the fathers .There is a few hundred women who would dealing with discrimination in family court in Connecticut. Spoken to several. Much evidence. You would absolutely be shocked what is going on in family court. All of them. Even people with minimal money.

    • Agreed. Feel so bad for the kids. The worst feeling is to not be able to protect the most precious thing in the world. American people need to challenge the lobbyists and get involved with their city council. The government is made of people. We are what we are waiting for.

    • ‘…feel sorry for the CHILDREN!!!!!’

      and how does this translate into action? I’d say by placing the child with the parent of THEIR choice and allowing visitation and partial custody according to the wishes of the child.

      Otherwise ‘feeling sorry’ is just liberal cant from the ruling pity-party.

      Many unfit parents, are far from mentally ill, just too young and dumb to cope. Or too vain and self-involved to serve a child’s best interests. The courts are clearly profiting from situations that could be dealt with in much healthier and compassionate ways.

      Also, doesn’t the biological imperative decide which parent carries the greater burden in child rearing ?

      most people reliant on a mother’s womb for the first nine months of life and then on her milk and vigilance thereafter, will feel a sense of intense gratitude for this and great fear on being separated from it prematurely.

      Atm this is how things stand — until men can fully become their own women and breed their own children in amniotic podules — even then will these ‘neomen’ be capable of transitioning themselves out of messy divorce/relationship situations?

  • The memorandum of understanding between state agencies. It’s a signed document that favors father’s rights over mother’s. It’s in the Best interest of the state financially to give father’s custody. The state of Connecticut is discriminating against women. The best interest of the minor has little to nothing to do with family court. . The state of Connecticut needs to be completely shut down. Its a giant smoke screen for profit. Placing children in harms way. I’m surprised Frank hasn’t punished this document yet. It’s been in play for years.

    • Can you please provide a link to the “signed document” you mentioned in your post? It would be very helpful to my research on this issue in CT. Thank you much!

    • It doesn’t favor anyone just follow the money that’s how they favorite and if her mother is favored great and vice versa They couldn’t care less or they’re looking at his how can they shift the funds of the assets to the most vulnerable person to extract as much as they can they couldn’t care less of the best interest of the children

      • It does demonstrate the sole focus on father’s. No mention of the effects of a motherless house hold. There is no focus on children. There is all kinds of funding for father’s. None for mother’s. There is plenty of focus on slandering mother’s and psychologist working for the courts are solely focused on labeling the mothers. In a lot of cases. No focus on abusive behavior. The focused on the mother reacting to abuse. Cause woman are the blame. Casting a spell on the children. Parental alienation, the modern day witch hunt.

  • Ahh yes… and so it continues. How about we completely eliminate the Family Court. Anything that needs to be done between children and parent sharing time must all be fully done in public. No secrets. All current laws relating to a child being sexually abused applies to the children’s mother/father as well… no exceptions. Other tighter laws and rules must also be applied. One thing that has not been pointed out is this: Most states have “Rules” and some of those “Rules” specifically favor the father getting the children no matter what the mother says. Those “Rules” need to be changed to be concurrent with a new standard for parental divorce finalization. There should also be a dollar limit and a time limit on dealing with finalizing a divorce: 12 months or less and no more that $10,000 in shared costs by both parents.

  • In other states, the man is presumed guilty no matter how innocent or better. No court or state is fair and equal to both.

  • https://cryingoutforjustice.blog/2014/03/28/the-truth-behind-parental-alienation-syndrome-pas/

    America needs to challenge these archaic templates. Every child who is abused becomes an adult who then has a high chance of being an abuser. This is a National crisis. Courts need to have people protesting every week. Join the city council.

    Go to city council and listen. Go to court and follow and encourage other people s cases . Their rights are our rights . Help each other help our children. A lot of people who are traumatized by legal abuse end up isolated.

    Important to help others and stay connected with other people who are being legally abused. There are parent alienation zoom groups to help. Get involved. One person can do a lot to help others and they can help others and so on and so on. Be of service.

  • The silver bullet tactic has been used for years every judge every attorney knows about it and they use it to their power false allegations to advance in financial and custody orders which allows one parent to lay on the PA very thick and probably coached by their attorney to do so just like they were coached for the false allegations

    • So true The pink elephant in the room that nobody wants to talk about Because it affects the loading of their pockets

  • Frank
    I feel you are to specific on gender…it happens both ways to fathers and mothers the cases are skewed and navigated as long as they can get the most amount of money they can. Which ever way they could shift the case to maximize their profits they don’t care if it’s the mother or the father that’s how they’ll treat it

    The courts are not gender bias they are dollar biased!

  • Mothers are being killed off in family court.

    The gals run the operation. They destroy a mothers reputation and her attorneys are complicit.

    America needs to wake up to this. The cruelty by Americans is obscene.

    • Happens to men in other states. In CT they may penalize the woman, but in other states the penalize the man. But…it’s all about money and who has the most money in family court. Fairness and what’s right means nothing in any state if you don’t have as much money as the other person. Money wins – not the child.

      • Not true it happens in Connecticut Connecticut cases that I’ve got to get some other have gotten a lot more media attention so it seems like it occurs more to women but it’s not true

    • Men get destroyed in courts in other states… the system isn’t consistent on a federal level. Women in CT lose…but men in NY lose more frequently.. depends on what state you live in….so if I were a woman…get divorced in another state and the guy loses everytime…even if he’s an innocent better parent.

  • Interesting article. The exact same stuff is going on in the UK where in some instances custody has been awarded to fathers even where there is evidence of sexual/physical abuse by him, and where the wishes of the child are not even taken into account.

    • True. It’s happening all over the world. One thing is that many legal abuse survivors have a harder time working together because they are emotional and they let little things control them. Their feelings get hurt easily. They can end up self sabotaging. Emotions in check are of utmost importance. Team work is extremely important and if people work against each other, on the same team, it slows down the whole. People do stand a chance of fighting this, if they team up and work for the greater good.

      • So true S. Most parents think family courts are like all other social service offices: good people who properly handle dangerous cases. Parents who have no idea family court vendors make dangerous cases worse get emotional and normal human emotions are used against the parents. This forum would be a great place to team up and work for good. Any ideas about what we can do to help?

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