Reader: Remember “Stress in the Family?” Raniere attempted to “persuade” Toni to come back home [or else?]

A reader writes to us:

Does anyone remember reading “Stress in the Family” by Metroland?

It was all about this craziness. No one in NXIVM believed it was true at the time but, given all of the recent revelations on Frank Report, it’s worth revisiting now.

Most important? The Toni Natalie “Pride Chart”. How Keith sent her this chart showing her how she was so, so close to enlightenment and having her “Ultimate Dreams Realized”, but was taking “The Fall” and destroying her conscience over her “Pride” instead.

Her Pride was blocking her.  Her Pride? How about she didn’t want to be in a polygamous relationship with a bunch of sister-wife-slaves? Don’t mean to be harsh, but it seems that was the case and Keith and Nancy were working their hardest to mind fu** her with that chart. Telling her she was destroying her life and her conscience by not embracing polygamy. That is pretty sick and twisted.

If a woman wants to leave this group and That Man, why don’t they let her? Why don’t they let people go in peace? They don’t own anyone. What happened to Personal Freedom? Free Will? Choice? Isn’t that what NXIVM pretends to be about?

Stress in The Family

Pride Chart

Keith Raniere sent this to his ex girlfriend Toni Natalie to persuade her to return to him.

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6 years ago

Why doesn’t Keith just let the Toni Natalies of his harem leave when they want to? Toni just wanted to leave and wipe her hands of it all. Look at all the problems and how stupid Keith has looked as he’s chased after her. He even had a judge call him a “jilted lover”. He looks pathetic and weak. Keith doesn’t like looking pathetic and weak. Does he really think that Toni was the “choosen one”? That’s the only explanation I can come up with. If he really believed that, it makes him even more scary. Insert every synonym for “nut-job” and “sociopath”. Am I missing something?

6 years ago

Definitely definitely read the “stress in the family” article, from Metroland in 2006, mirrored on the Cult Education web site of Rick Ross. Very revealing and insightful.

Raniere has been exploiting young people, most especially women, for a very long time. He was good at it long ago, and if anything has gotten better over time.

But the death of long-time concubine/pimp Pam Cafritz seems to have changed things. Either she was a moderating influence that kept Raniere from going too far, or the loss of her has simply unhinged him.

Wade Walker
Wade Walker
6 years ago
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I know toni but haven’t seen her since the early ninetys. This was in the early days of her relationship with Raniere. The Toni i knew was extremely talented and a beautiful person inside and out. It’s a shame that she had to get involved with a con man like Raniere. Reading all this breaks my heart.

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Frank Parlato is an investigative journalist.

His work has been cited in hundreds of news outlets, like The New York Times, The Daily Mail, VICE News, CBS News, Fox News, New York Post, New York Daily News, Oxygen, Rolling Stone, People Magazine, The Sun, The Times of London, CBS Inside Edition, among many others in all five continents.

His work to expose and take down NXIVM is featured in books like “Captive” by Catherine Oxenberg, “Scarred” by Sarah Edmonson, “The Program” by Toni Natalie, and “NXIVM. La Secta Que Sedujo al Poder en México” by Juan Alberto Vasquez.

Parlato has been prominently featured on HBO’s docuseries “The Vow” and was the lead investigator and coordinating producer for Investigation Discovery’s “The Lost Women of NXIVM.” Parlato was also credited in the Starz docuseries "Seduced" for saving 'slave' women from being branded and escaping the sex-slave cult known as DOS.

Additionally, Parlato’s coverage of the group OneTaste, starting in 2018, helped spark an FBI investigation, which led to indictments of two of its leaders in 2023.

Parlato appeared on the Nancy Grace Show, Beyond the Headlines with Gretchen Carlson, Dr. Oz, American Greed, Dateline NBC, and NBC Nightly News with Lester Holt, where Parlato conducted the first-ever interview with Keith Raniere after his arrest. This was ironic, as many credit Parlato as one of the primary architects of his arrest and the cratering of the cult he founded.

Parlato is a consulting producer and appears in TNT's The Heiress and the Sex Cult, which premiered on May 22, 2022. Most recently, he consulted and appeared on Tubi's "Branded and Brainwashed: Inside NXIVM," which aired January, 2023.

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